Question, question, who's got the question

I can't recall when, but at sometime in my life I made the observation that people ask people that they care about more questions than somebody that they don't care about. You see it in a lot of places; friends, children to their parents, parents to their children, people who are married, and especially guys to girls when starting a relationship.

But one thing seems weird to me, in the relationships I've had, I've never had a girl ask me anything about myself. Other than being a male who likes them, they probably don't remember a thing about me, because they never asked. Why is that? Are young woman just dumb, and can't think to ask? Do girls just run around doing things and never ponder? Do girls not ask each other questions? Or perhaps, sadly, all the girls I've ben with just like how I look, but don't care about who I am inside?

I actually hope it's the last one, and that I will someday meet someone that does care about such things. The alternative of most woman just being to dumb to ask questions is to stereotypical and very very sad if true.

Anyone know? Any comments on the observation itself?

It just all depends on the women. It sounds like you've run into a bad string of women who are just out to find a guy and feel secure. It's just a case of bad luck. You know when you'll find a chick who really really digs you because she will want to know everything about you. From you're childhood to how many girls you've been with. Just stick with it and you'll find the right one.

Thats just my opinion.

99% of the time women just want you to listen to them talk about themselves.

When you find one that isn't like that, marry her. :)

i went out with this one chick, who asked ME out an' the whole time we were eating dinner she didn't ask me anything about myself. she didn't really talk about herself much either. i ended up asking all the questions.....most of wich she only answered yes or no to, an' by the end of the night i felt like i had bored her to death with my barrage of questions. don't worry, not all girls are only interested in telling people about themselves. when you do find someone who has just as much interest in you as you do in them it's a great feeling.

I used to wonder if anyone really listened to me when I spoke - I realized few people did, and thus greatly reduced the amount that I spoke. In return, I only really listen to certain people thesedays and make it painfully obvious when I do not.

...Did that sound bitter?

Sometimes I have to wonder if they are not scared of something. Just the way being scared keaps guys from asking people out, women let fear keep them from doing a lot. so maybe

that could be it, then again it could just be them being totally self-centered and oblivious to the rest of the world.

well it sounds like you ran into a bad string of women, i know i ask innova all kinds of questions, he's my best friend and i know a lot about him as a person and he knows a lot about me as well..if you meet the right person they will open up to you and want to know more about you...but the problem is a lot of women just want sex now a days and don't care about what guys are like on the inside

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Originally posted by ShadowedStar
well it sounds like you ran into a bad string of women

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deja vu

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Originally posted by ShadowedStar
but the problem is a lot of women just want sex now a days

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really now??

Women JUST want sex? where the hell do you live? and does the local factories run off go into your water supply?

Have you ever gotten a woman pregnant?
Been Married?
How many women have you had relationships with, that lasted over 6 months?

I'm just trying to see the qualifications here.

I don't think he really has to explain his "qualifications" - he's just relating to what his own experiences have taught him thus far - no need to put him on the spot.

Ahhh..The Dr. Laura route then, eh?

That's well enough then.

Hmm, it was just a overall observation of human beings in generail. There is something to be said for someone that you can enjoy being with, with out having to saying anything all (I think they talked about this in puplfiction). But that sort of thing isn't seen as much or in as many different places as the question concept I was talking about.

If you do disgree though, feel free to argue other wise.

I suppose you have a point - I've dated one girl who ever bothered to ask any amount of questions about me or even wanted to know more about me.

IronPlant - I think you and I are probably feeling very disatisfied with women right now judgeing by all the recent threads.

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but the problem is a lot of women just want sex now a days and don't care about what guys are like on the inside

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This doesn't sound like much of a problem to me.

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Originally posted by ShadowedStar
but the problem is a lot of women just want sex now a days

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And this is a problem how?

If this is the case, then the women I run into must be part of the minority that abstains from sex (at least with me). Just my luck too :p

When I was about 13 or 14, I decided it was high time I get into the whole dating thing that all my friends were talking about. I'm pretty shy and whatnot, so it was terribly difficult. When I did end up talking to women, I found out that nearly all women expect the guy to do all the talking. Though, you could talk about yourself alot, and they probably wouldn't be bothered too much. Again though, they wouldn't ask any questions, and I suspected they didnt listen or care what was said, aslong as there was something to fill the silence.

OTOH, these girls were pretty young. 13 or 14, s I was. So immaturity was a big factor. Sounds like you know alot of immature girls.

To paraphrase from God Debris, people like to talk about themselves. If you give them that opportunity, then they will like you, respect you, and even admire you. Eventually, they might even give you the opportunity to talk about yourself.

Z-roe

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Originally posted by IronPlant
But one thing seems weird to me, in the relationships I've had, I've never had a girl ask me anything about myself. Other than being a male who likes them, they probably don't remember a thing about me, because they never asked. Why is that? Are young woman just dumb, and can't think to ask? Do girls just run around doing things and never ponder? Do girls not ask each other questions? Or perhaps, sadly, all the girls I've ben with just like how I look, but don't care about who I am inside?

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Or maybe you're just plain boring. ;)

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Originally posted by ShadowedStar
...but the problem is a lot of women just want sex now a days

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Too bad this wasn't true back in the day....:evil: