Do you plan on having children?

I have a lot of opinions on this...

Alright, so I want kids, and my spouse & I are financially & emotionally ready... except now after over a year of trying... nothing. We won't adopt, either, because doing so would be too much of a consolation prize for me. I feel depressed but also pissed off.

Back in junior high, teachers in my health classes brainwashed me to think "one time is enough;" they forgot to add that "over a hunded times also may not be enough."

At work, I've been harassed by coworkers who call us "d.i.n.k.s" (double income, no kids). What the hell is with these people that it hadn't crossed their minds to think that perhaps we have been trying but with no success?

With relatives, I get asked by my in-laws if we have any news for them yet. Of course, they'd be among the first ones to know if we were lucky. They tell my spouse to pray daily. Why!? Conception is pure developmental biology. Praying will not overcome infertility if that's the culprit.

So now, because I agree with this...

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Originally posted by Lordmrw
I've always looked at having kids as something you do when you are content knowing that you've done everything you wanted to with your life.

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...where am I left? Run out the remaining 50-60 years of my life? :(

I'm not sure how adopting a child from a bad or broken home and giving them love and a positive influence can only be a "consolation prize"...

Anyway, no kids for me until the world isn't so fucked up.

For other couples, adoption could be a suitable alternative. For us, it's not. Together we've lost 4 of 6 siblings to various accidents. One of those surviving has remarried and won't have kids. The other on my side just had a child with severe birth defects as a result of premature birth, and they won't be trying again for a long time. It feels like both of our families are dying.

Well, We have 1 now :) And will be having another some time in the future.

I like children, been with/surrounded by children all my life, since my uncle had 2 from one marriage, and 5 in another :)

I hope that I'm doing good job as the father, and I'm very happy that DJ loves me :)

Guess I don't really qualify since I already have an 18-month old daughter.

But I just want to say a couple things.

1 - Don't have any kids if you honestly do not think you can commit your life to another being.

2 - You can never be financially ready to have children. Even millionaires can't possibly be prepared for children. It goes beyond money. Especially if the child is born with a birth defect. No amount of money in the world is going to change things. And raising a child has more to do with your emotional stability and moral values than deep pockets. Sure, lots of money is great. Opens lots of doors. But it's nothing compared to time and dedication. Being there. Caring. Sharing. I would kill for my daughter's smile.

And sometimes, I don't feel like being bothered. Sometimes I get annoyed when my wife asks me to help her out. But at the end of the day, when I see my daughter sleeping soundly, contently in her crib, no force on Earth can move me more than she. It's truly a blessing.

I can't wait for her to get older and into comics, sci fi and video games like her old man! We'll drive Mom crazy!!

Hmm, there really was no point to this post, was there? I just love my kid, and think that those who can should plan on experiencing this kind of love.

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Originally posted by Klonoa
is you is or is you aint the father of the baby

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bitch, if you want my child support money, you best earn my money

NO.

Not in the near future, anyway. If I had any interest in it at the moment, it'd be a low priority.

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Originally posted by Kinopio
bitch, if you want my child support money, you best earn my money

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OH NO YOU DI'INT! OH NO YOU DI'INT!

Yes, I plan to have kids.

I think I'd be a bad dad, just because thinking of how to raise a child draws up blank everytime I think about it. I have no method or skill or technique to do such, and the idea of accidentally doing something that would screw him/her up for life frightens me to no end.

So until I come up with a way to rememdy that aprehension, I'd say no. Even if I was involved with someone I loved deeply.