Do you plan on having children?

This is a question that seems to come up alot whenever I'm with my friends, so I thought I'd post it up here. I honestly don't plan on having kids anytime soon, if at all. The reason I don't plan on it basically comes down to: I don't really like kids to begin with. Shocking, seeing as how everyone else does. I'm good with kids, but that's because at the end of the day I can just go home, whereas the parents have to live with the little monsters. I've always looked at having kids as something you do when you are content knowing that you've done everything you wanted to with your life. That point probably won't come for me anytime soon. The funny part about me not wanting kids is that when I say that, people get genuinely furious, and for the life of me I don't know why. What about you?

I can't even get laid on a regular basis. I hope that answers your question.

Ugh. I want to be a father more than anything. However, I am not the marrying type, and am not too keen on being a single parent.

I hope to have two sons (raising girls is too difficult- its too easy to mess up) who I will raise to be everything that I am trying to be. They will begin learning martial arts as soon as they are able to walk. They will be raised to be REAL MEN- not the pansys that society wants us to raise our boys to be.

Can't wait...


FUN FACT:

I have actually donated sperm to a bank in Maryland- passing their screening tests is a real challenge. I will not elaborate any further on this :D

I just posted a thread on this!


I guess that answers your question. :p

Congratulations, Melf!



And Zerodash, I think that doesn't count as a fun fact. But then again, if you had a smile on your face while in the process of donating, I guess it counts as fun.

Yeah I want to be a father. But I'm praying to the man upstairs that I don't have a son like me.

lordMRW, I know how you feel. I actually ended a 2 year relationship with a girl who couldn't come to grips with how I dislike children and have no intention of having any. Now, later in my life, I admit that my perspective may change...but, right now, it seems unrealistic for me to answer that question, or even consider it (seeing as how I'm in college, and don't even have the resources to support a child if one came along). -and yes, people do take personal offense if they learn you don't plan on having children, as if you're dooming the human race, or...I don't even know. People are messed up.

...furthermore, I'm so great, that I'm sure my children would only be a huge disappointment to me... :p

Let me get laid first, cut me some slack!

:( <--- deep sorrow

i can't even fathom such an idea.

Yeah, definitely. I can't wait to have a few kids, the idea really appeals to me. The whole package, actually, marriage, kids.

I'm really worried about the kids dying on me, I can't, the pain of that is unimaginably large.

I never really had a father - and I think that makes me more interested in being one, wanting to correct some wrongs or something. Anyone else there in this thread (or about to respond) not really have a father? I wonder how it effects our willingness/desire to have children.

gotta get laid...err sexed first and me having children....HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA HA!!

"The sooner they talk, the sooner they talk back."

It's true. I like children... and quite frankly, I'm quite good with them. The only problem is, I can't stand them when they get the "gimmes".

"Gimme this, I want that!!" *cries*

If I ever have a child, I just want to fast forward the adolesence part.
I wouldn't care if I have a girl or a boy... each has it's own ups and downs. If I have a boy, I'd just tell him "don't get your ass in trouble, and think with your head, and not with your 'head'".
If I have a girl, I'll say "you're not dating 'til you're 30".

I think that's more than a fair way of looking at things.

I imagine my girl and I will have kids someday, but neither of us seem to be too interested right now.

It is also a financial impossibility.

Had my life gone differently, or life in general been a different experience than it has turn out to be through my eyes, I would have said said yes to this question.

I won't be responsible for putting somebody through the miseries of life, and then have to bother with dying at the end. So no. I wasn't given the option of not being born (like everyone else), but I am going to exercise my option of not being a contributor to this madness.

i was all for not having kids but I made that decision when I was in 2nd grade so my perspective has changed at bit. It depends on a lot of factors, but i can say, Yes, I do want to eventually pass on my genes.

though who'd want a little cyco running around...

i'd like to have kids after my life is nice an' cozy i guess. one thing that i worry about is the person that'll be the mother of my children. i'm great with kids, but i come accross allof of girls who like kids and all, but don't really know how to handle them. hopefully i'll end up with someone who'll be a great mother to my kids. i don't care if it's a boy or a girl....but for some reason i lean a little more towards having a girl. i've always wanted a lil sister to take care of so that could be part of it i guess.

No.

Plan to eventually, but it's nothing I want for many years. In fact, I'm pretty sure I'll have kids and still not want them then, but I know the urge will kick in and override my good sense.

All the females I know now either adore kids and want many of their own or abhor them and would love to keep on living for however long without the little ones. Doesn't seem to be any middle ground or any who feel like I do in the whole eventual aspect.

yeah, kids would be nice one day.

i really want to get shitty ties for father's day. heh heh heh. :D

Yes I plan on it and I look forward to it. I have a sister who is 13 years younger than me and watching her grow up has been a lot of fun. Having kids is a great way to experience the joys of childhood again. I can't wait to have my own young'uns. There are few things I look forward more to.

I'd like to move to Sweden before I start a family though. That's the place where I'd prefer to raise children. :)

NO WAY IN HELL!!!!

If you can't tell by most of the nonsense I post on these boards, I am a seriously, psychologically fucked-up individual.

I used to be a virgin because I was too much of a loser for women to even give me the time of day. Now I remain a virgin by choice. No way I'm passing my psychosis down to yet another generation. It's bad enough I have to live with me on this planet full of lunatics.

On a more practical note, lack of financial means, lack of intelligence, and a lack of the ability to feel any kind emotion are several other compelling reasons why Me+Parenthood = Disaster. Last thing this world needs is another abusive parent.

Yes, I'd love to have kids someday, but not till I'm (at the very earliest) in my late 20's, but more ideally in my early 30's, old enough that I'll be matured and settled down, but not so old that I won't be able to handle them when they reach adolescence. About roughly 10 or so years from now, in that 2011-2015 timeframe sounds about right.

I love kids and am really good with them, I'm a big brother of sorts to just about all of my younger cousins in some form or fashion, quite a few of them really look up to me. Part of the reason I'm even currently considering becoming an elementary school teacher, heh...

As for the breakdown, 3 would be ideal, I'd like two boys and one girl, with the girl being the youngest so her older brothers will take care of her. And if they don't, I'll bodyslam them. Now THAT will be some parentin'! :D

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Originally posted by Klonoa
Yeah I want to be a father. But I'm praying to the man upstairs that I don't have a son like me.

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That, my friend, will be ENTIRELY up to you.

As an ammendment to my earlier post I'd like to add that in addition to "making" a child of my own I'd also like to adopt one someday. So many children out there need homes it seems like a good thing to do. But I'd also like to have my own because, well, it's a cool thing. ;)

I'm 17, so i'm not after any just yet, though one day for sure.

Hell's no.

No way. I don't think I'm something that should be introduced to the gene pool.

Wow, alot of the responses here are the same as when I put this up at gaming force. One response that I agree with from there, is that I wish more people would actually sit down and wait til they have the financial means to support a child before doing so. I see too many people with 4 or 5 kids, who quite honestly, really shouldn't have.

Eh I never really think about it, the least of my priorities.

I think kids are ok, I dunno am I the only one here who hasn't changed a diaper? Never had the opportunity.

The point is moot in my case -- I have two daughters.

Still, let me offer the following, personal observation (and realize this is coming from someone who is immature in certain ways, and was even more so when younger): having and raising my children will probably wind up being the greatest, most fulfilling thing I ever did in my life. Yep, it was surprise to me, too.

Kids? Ahhh... my mother would love you for posting about such things.

Personally, I don't plan on having any in the foreseeable future. No girlfriend/fiance/wife for one thing and second, I'm going to be too busy. I've got my job, my company (which is the most important thing to me at this time), I'm involved in politics, I may even get into politics, etc, etc, etc. I'll get married someday but kids? I don't know. I'd like them but you need time for kids, and time is one thing I don't have.

Nope. Uh-uh. No way. Luckily, I married a woman who likes kids even less than I do. She can put up with older kids, but neither of us has any maternal/paternal instincts. We baby our dog, that's enough for us. There's enough unwanted kids in this world. I figure by not having my requisite 2, I can help that a little.

More than likely I would like to have a child....but not until I am prepared and ready.

kids aren't robots who are programed to be a certain way. you can be the best parent in the world, and provide everything you need for your child, an' the kid could still end up a lunatic. in the end, it's gonna be your childs decision how they live thier life.

HA!

*-neo

This thread is dedicated to all my babies mommas, and all my momma's babies.

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Originally posted by Kinopio
This thread is dedicated to all my babies mommas, and all my momma's babies.

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is you is or is you aint the father of the baby

Not likely, though it's the least of problems now. I imagine one day it may happen - but now, no.

Looking at my results. I think it best that i have no kids. =/

http://www.the-nextlevel.com/board/s...threadid=11833

heh - me neither

I have a lot of opinions on this...

Alright, so I want kids, and my spouse & I are financially & emotionally ready... except now after over a year of trying... nothing. We won't adopt, either, because doing so would be too much of a consolation prize for me. I feel depressed but also pissed off.

Back in junior high, teachers in my health classes brainwashed me to think "one time is enough;" they forgot to add that "over a hunded times also may not be enough."

At work, I've been harassed by coworkers who call us "d.i.n.k.s" (double income, no kids). What the hell is with these people that it hadn't crossed their minds to think that perhaps we have been trying but with no success?

With relatives, I get asked by my in-laws if we have any news for them yet. Of course, they'd be among the first ones to know if we were lucky. They tell my spouse to pray daily. Why!? Conception is pure developmental biology. Praying will not overcome infertility if that's the culprit.

So now, because I agree with this...

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Originally posted by Lordmrw
I've always looked at having kids as something you do when you are content knowing that you've done everything you wanted to with your life.

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...where am I left? Run out the remaining 50-60 years of my life? :(

I'm not sure how adopting a child from a bad or broken home and giving them love and a positive influence can only be a "consolation prize"...

Anyway, no kids for me until the world isn't so fucked up.

For other couples, adoption could be a suitable alternative. For us, it's not. Together we've lost 4 of 6 siblings to various accidents. One of those surviving has remarried and won't have kids. The other on my side just had a child with severe birth defects as a result of premature birth, and they won't be trying again for a long time. It feels like both of our families are dying.

Well, We have 1 now :) And will be having another some time in the future.

I like children, been with/surrounded by children all my life, since my uncle had 2 from one marriage, and 5 in another :)

I hope that I'm doing good job as the father, and I'm very happy that DJ loves me :)

Guess I don't really qualify since I already have an 18-month old daughter.

But I just want to say a couple things.

1 - Don't have any kids if you honestly do not think you can commit your life to another being.

2 - You can never be financially ready to have children. Even millionaires can't possibly be prepared for children. It goes beyond money. Especially if the child is born with a birth defect. No amount of money in the world is going to change things. And raising a child has more to do with your emotional stability and moral values than deep pockets. Sure, lots of money is great. Opens lots of doors. But it's nothing compared to time and dedication. Being there. Caring. Sharing. I would kill for my daughter's smile.

And sometimes, I don't feel like being bothered. Sometimes I get annoyed when my wife asks me to help her out. But at the end of the day, when I see my daughter sleeping soundly, contently in her crib, no force on Earth can move me more than she. It's truly a blessing.

I can't wait for her to get older and into comics, sci fi and video games like her old man! We'll drive Mom crazy!!

Hmm, there really was no point to this post, was there? I just love my kid, and think that those who can should plan on experiencing this kind of love.

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Originally posted by Klonoa
is you is or is you aint the father of the baby

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bitch, if you want my child support money, you best earn my money

NO.

Not in the near future, anyway. If I had any interest in it at the moment, it'd be a low priority.

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Originally posted by Kinopio
bitch, if you want my child support money, you best earn my money

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OH NO YOU DI'INT! OH NO YOU DI'INT!

Yes, I plan to have kids.

I think I'd be a bad dad, just because thinking of how to raise a child draws up blank everytime I think about it. I have no method or skill or technique to do such, and the idea of accidentally doing something that would screw him/her up for life frightens me to no end.

So until I come up with a way to rememdy that aprehension, I'd say no. Even if I was involved with someone I loved deeply.

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Originally posted by bloodyarts
Guess I don't really qualify since I already have an 18-month old daughter.

But I just want to say a couple things.

1 - Don't have any kids if you honestly do not think you can commit your life to another being.

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Heard and duly noted.