Telling whether or not somebody still loves you is a much harder thing. Best way to go about it is just be open and ask her outright how she is feeling. Open dialogue can solve many problems.
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Telling whether or not somebody still loves you is a much harder thing. Best way to go about it is just be open and ask her outright how she is feeling. Open dialogue can solve many problems.
If you have to ask, the answer is no.Quote:
Originally posted by ChaoofNee
Another question: How can you tell when love ends? All this talk leads me to remember how my girlfriend and I used to be... and how she's treating me now. I know I still love her, but I can't tell if her recent behavior is her still loving me...
Bah!
The thing is you shouldn't have to think aboout love. There really is no way to say exactly what it is, though.
I think a lot of people confuse love with other things and that's why they don't stay together. Many people rely too much on sexual chemistry to determine whether they are in love and that's why so many people let sex screw up their relationships. I say, throw sex out of the equation and see if you can still be with that person for the millions of other reasons you should be...and then you'll know if that person is right for you. That's not to say that sexual chemistry isn't important, but chances are, if you have the other stuff, the chemistry will be there to.
Love is having someone that makes everything else unimportant...love is knowing that the reason you are alive is to be with that person and share a life together--it really is about being soul mates...don't think too much, because as soon as you start rationalizing and over-analyzing and all that, it's done and it never was what you thought it was...you shouldn't have to find a reason to love someone, you just need to trust your instincts and know...love is easy, if you let it be...
Yeah, that's part of my problem. My girlfriend refuses to move forward in our relationship until THAT happens. She says it's the next "step." I say no. Meanwhile, she says any other touching is teasing her.Quote:
Originally posted by ssbomberman
I think a lot of people confuse love with other things and that's why they don't stay together. Many people rely too much on sexual chemistry to determine whether they are in love and that's why so many people let sex screw up their relationships. I say, throw sex out of the equation and see if you can still be with that person for the millions of other reasons you should be...and then you'll know if that person is right for you. That's not to say that sexual chemistry isn't important, but chances are, if you have the other stuff, the chemistry will be there to.
Meh. It's complicated. I've just gotta see what happens and try not to be stupid.
step? what like bases? weird...
Exactly. Everything has steps to her.
It is indeed weird.
I'd like to add another tasteless (ha!) joke.
What does a woman most want from a man?
The serious answer- Respect
The funny answer- Not to get it in her hair.
I would never get it in a womans hair if I respected her... the best of both worlds!
You know do what you're comfortable doing. It's hard to stay true to how you feel, especially in this type of society, but seriously love does not come from sex, sex (especially good sex) comes from loving someone unconditionally. If she loved you that much, she could wait until you are comfortable...sex is just that sex, it's no big deal and it isn't necessary for life (despite what many people believe)...I'll take a perfect conversation over that anyday.Quote:
Originally posted by ChaoofNee
Yeah, that's part of my problem. My girlfriend refuses to move forward in our relationship until THAT happens. She says it's the next "step." I say no. Meanwhile, she says any other touching is teasing her.
Meh. It's complicated. I've just gotta see what happens and try not to be stupid.
I wouldn't go as far as to say that sex is just sex. It can be pretty much whatever you want it to be. It can be everything from a spirtual binding experence between two people, or it can be one hell of a good time. And sex is never just sex when that sex is bad.
And sex really shouldn't be a factor in love. It doesn't matter what either of you believe in the end about sex, if there is love you will deal with their shit. If they really love you, they will put up with your ethics and other crap because they love you. If you love them you will put up with the fact they think otherwise.
That is a big part of love, its NOT about you, its about the two of you, and the one you love. It only has to do with you when the other is harmful to you.