Sense there seems to be so many opinions on what love is here, i've decided to ask the good posters of TNL, what exactly is love.
Please also give your age and gender. I'd like to see if there is any consistences.
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Sense there seems to be so many opinions on what love is here, i've decided to ask the good posters of TNL, what exactly is love.
Please also give your age and gender. I'd like to see if there is any consistences.
"...baby don't hurt me, don't hurt me, no more..."
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Master:
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The simpliest way I can put it, is I know I'm in it when I want to make them happy, and I'd rather do things for them than think of what it will do for me. At it's best, it's acceptance and knowing that you care for a person with all their good and bad, at it's worst it's pretty close to weakness and need.
Its' 99% good though.
that's a good way of putting it
Exactly what I was going to post. Exactly.Quote:
Originally posted by Master
"...baby don't hurt me, don't hurt me, no more..."
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Got to do with it
When I can stand them for more than five minutes and actually wanting to keep them in my company and wanting to make them happy...Simply put.
yup, I agree 100%. But you described it better then I could.Quote:
Originally posted by MVS
The simpliest way I can put it, is I know I'm in it when I want to make them happy, and I'd rather do things for them than think of what it will do for me. At it's best, it's acceptance and knowing that you care for a person with all their good and bad, at it's worst it's pretty close to weakness and need.
Its' 99% good though.
yeah, MVS is right imo. Its kind of weird.
If greedy: Love is the feeling you get when you just know her trust fund is about to pay off...
Bad joke time:
What's the difference between like and love?
A spit or a swallow.
you know, had I asked what hate was, or something that had nothing to do with love, I'd probably got the replys I want for this thread.
Ask the tavern then.
I did, I think my fav reply was:
"Love is the look on your girl friends face as she gags on your <TNL EDIT>"
I like that reply... A girls gotta love you to do that...
exactly. and vise versa.
love is giving a shit about somebody else. its good when its returned.
Is there a pun in there?Quote:
Originally posted by M
exactly. and vise versa.
love is giving a shit about somebody else. its good when its returned.
Love is driving to work and all of a sudden out of nowhere you start thinking about how sad you'd be if the person you love wasn't in your life anymore.
Love is also doing the dishes.
Another question: How can you tell when love ends? All this talk leads me to remember how my girlfriend and I used to be... and how she's treating me now. I know I still love her, but I can't tell if her recent behavior is her still loving me...
Bah!
Telling whether or not somebody still loves you is a much harder thing. Best way to go about it is just be open and ask her outright how she is feeling. Open dialogue can solve many problems.
If you have to ask, the answer is no.Quote:
Originally posted by ChaoofNee
Another question: How can you tell when love ends? All this talk leads me to remember how my girlfriend and I used to be... and how she's treating me now. I know I still love her, but I can't tell if her recent behavior is her still loving me...
Bah!
The thing is you shouldn't have to think aboout love. There really is no way to say exactly what it is, though.
I think a lot of people confuse love with other things and that's why they don't stay together. Many people rely too much on sexual chemistry to determine whether they are in love and that's why so many people let sex screw up their relationships. I say, throw sex out of the equation and see if you can still be with that person for the millions of other reasons you should be...and then you'll know if that person is right for you. That's not to say that sexual chemistry isn't important, but chances are, if you have the other stuff, the chemistry will be there to.
Love is having someone that makes everything else unimportant...love is knowing that the reason you are alive is to be with that person and share a life together--it really is about being soul mates...don't think too much, because as soon as you start rationalizing and over-analyzing and all that, it's done and it never was what you thought it was...you shouldn't have to find a reason to love someone, you just need to trust your instincts and know...love is easy, if you let it be...
Yeah, that's part of my problem. My girlfriend refuses to move forward in our relationship until THAT happens. She says it's the next "step." I say no. Meanwhile, she says any other touching is teasing her.Quote:
Originally posted by ssbomberman
I think a lot of people confuse love with other things and that's why they don't stay together. Many people rely too much on sexual chemistry to determine whether they are in love and that's why so many people let sex screw up their relationships. I say, throw sex out of the equation and see if you can still be with that person for the millions of other reasons you should be...and then you'll know if that person is right for you. That's not to say that sexual chemistry isn't important, but chances are, if you have the other stuff, the chemistry will be there to.
Meh. It's complicated. I've just gotta see what happens and try not to be stupid.
step? what like bases? weird...
Exactly. Everything has steps to her.
It is indeed weird.
I'd like to add another tasteless (ha!) joke.
What does a woman most want from a man?
The serious answer- Respect
The funny answer- Not to get it in her hair.
I would never get it in a womans hair if I respected her... the best of both worlds!
You know do what you're comfortable doing. It's hard to stay true to how you feel, especially in this type of society, but seriously love does not come from sex, sex (especially good sex) comes from loving someone unconditionally. If she loved you that much, she could wait until you are comfortable...sex is just that sex, it's no big deal and it isn't necessary for life (despite what many people believe)...I'll take a perfect conversation over that anyday.Quote:
Originally posted by ChaoofNee
Yeah, that's part of my problem. My girlfriend refuses to move forward in our relationship until THAT happens. She says it's the next "step." I say no. Meanwhile, she says any other touching is teasing her.
Meh. It's complicated. I've just gotta see what happens and try not to be stupid.
I wouldn't go as far as to say that sex is just sex. It can be pretty much whatever you want it to be. It can be everything from a spirtual binding experence between two people, or it can be one hell of a good time. And sex is never just sex when that sex is bad.
And sex really shouldn't be a factor in love. It doesn't matter what either of you believe in the end about sex, if there is love you will deal with their shit. If they really love you, they will put up with your ethics and other crap because they love you. If you love them you will put up with the fact they think otherwise.
That is a big part of love, its NOT about you, its about the two of you, and the one you love. It only has to do with you when the other is harmful to you.
Love is kinda like a hamburger. because I'm hungry.
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Originally posted by ssbomberman
The thing is you shouldn't have to think aboout love. There really is no way to say exactly what it is, though.
I think a lot of people confuse love with other things and that's why they don't stay together. Many people rely too much on sexual chemistry to determine whether they are in love and that's why so many people let sex screw up their relationships. I say, throw sex out of the equation and see if you can still be with that person for the millions of other reasons you should be...and then you'll know if that person is right for you. That's not to say that sexual chemistry isn't important, but chances are, if you have the other stuff, the chemistry will be there to.
Love is having someone that makes everything else unimportant...love is knowing that the reason you are alive is to be with that person and share a life together--it really is about being soul mates...don't think too much, because as soon as you start rationalizing and over-analyzing and all that, it's done and it never was what you thought it was...you shouldn't have to find a reason to love someone, you just need to trust your instincts and know...love is easy, if you let it be...
Much of what you said is truth, but the rest sounds like so much romantic idealism. Anyone who tells you that love and pain don't go hand in hand hasn't really been in love. Loving someone means always telling the one you care for the truth, even when you know it will hurt them, you, or the relationship. If you can't do that then you might care as much as you think you do.
I never said don't tell the truth, I simply said that if you know in your heart that you have doubts then chances are you aren't meant to be...there should be no doubt...I mean you know or you don't know it really is that simple...Quote:
Originally posted by Master of 7s
Much of what you said is truth, but the rest sounds like so much romantic idealism. Anyone who tells you that love and pain don't go hand in hand hasn't really been in love. Loving someone means always telling the one you care for the truth, even when you know it will hurt them, you, or the relationship. If you can't do that then you might care as much as you think you do.
And as far as pain, well I'm not sure. I've been in relationships where there was a lot of pain and I thought I loved the person, but that's all crap--once I got past it and looked back I realized I wasn't being truthful with myself and that I never did really love her...I confused all that other stuff with love, which it wasn't...
Now I'm married and I mean I do always tell the truth but never really hurt my wife (sometimes I'll be like man that food just wasn't very good)...as long as you are true and faithful person, why would the truth hurt?
I don't cheat and I can't imagine there is anything I could say truthfully that would hurt her, now if I was having doubts or stuff like that, obviously that could do more than hurt the relationship, but then it isn't true love anyway so it doesn't really apply to what I was saying...honestly there should be no pain in love, and if there is then there is something wrong if you ask me...I know people tell me all the time that love isn't really all that, but for me it is...
I know a lot of people have problems with this and I guess I am just really lucky to have found my soul mate, but for me at least love is so easy...I didn't have to think about it, it just happened...and I just let it happen...
You are totally right, it can be amazing and it can be awful, but I just think that too many people put too much of their relationship into sex or confuse the fact that they love having sex with someone as loving that someone...because sometimes you can have amazing sexual chemistry and everything else is terrible, so that's why I said see if you can be with that person without the sex and then if you can, the sex stuff will be no problem to deal with...Quote:
Originally posted by IronPlant
I wouldn't go as far as to say that sex is just sex. It can be pretty much whatever you want it to be. It can be everything from a spirtual binding experence between two people, or it can be one hell of a good time. And sex is never just sex when that sex is bad.
And sex really shouldn't be a factor in love. It doesn't matter what either of you believe in the end about sex, if there is love you will deal with their shit. If they really love you, they will put up with your ethics and other crap because they love you. If you love them you will put up with the fact they think otherwise.
That is a big part of love, its NOT about you, its about the two of you, and the one you love. It only has to do with you when the other is harmful to you.
Love is a silly emotion, reserved for the weak. :p
love v. loved, loving, loves 1 to like with great intensity: I love my wife with all my heart. 2 to enjoy very much, take great pleasure in: He loves to play golf, but his wife loves gardening.
-n. 1 [U] very strong liking and affection: She shows her love for her children every day. 2 [C] strong enjoyment or pleasure: a love of music 3 [C] an endearing person: That little boy is such a love! 4 [U] sexual desire or passion: He is full of love for his new wife. 5 [U] (in tennis) a score of zero 6 a labor of love: a job or project done for idealistic reasons rather than for money: The professor wrote his book on Shakespeare as a labor of love. 7 a love-hate relationship: a strong emotional connection that involves both caring for and disliking s.o.: That couple has a love-hate relationship. 8 Give s.o. my love: say hello for me in a loving way: Give my love to your mother when you see her. 9 neither for love nor money: not for any reason: Neither for love nor money will he give up smoking. 10 to fall or be in love (with s.o.): to begin to feel or to have strong romantic feelings for s.o.: He fell in love with her the moment he saw her; it was love at first sight. 11 to make love: to have sexual intercourse: They made love on their wedding night.
Love from what I have gathered revolved around Flowers and the Color Pink.
you don't say
You are ownage.Quote:
Originally posted by ssbomberman
You know do what you're comfortable doing. It's hard to stay true to how you feel, especially in this type of society, but seriously love does not come from sex, sex (especially good sex) comes from loving someone unconditionally. If she loved you that much, she could wait until you are comfortable...sex is just that sex, it's no big deal and it isn't necessary for life (despite what many people believe)...I'll take a perfect conversation over that anyday.