My girlfriend broke up with me tonight...

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Originally Posted by Calliander

People shouldn't be having committed relationships before the age of 30. Not that that helps you feel better in any way, and there are exceptions, but you should be out getting as much poontang as possible instead of stressing over some chick before you're even allowed to smoke a cigarette. shidoshi hit it on the head, though.

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Well, yes, I sort of agree with you. People really shouldn't have exclusive relationships at my age. But that's what we had... I can't change that. That's not the issue at hand. So don't point out the obvious. But I would like to say... we shouldn't... but everyone (or almost) does. So you can say this to as many 12 year olds as you want, before they start dating... but if they find that right girl, or boy. They'll forget what you said in 2 seconds.

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On a serious note, though: Are you able to move back to where your friends are? Can you talk to your parents about it? No matter what you were expecting from her, the only way to feel bettter about this is to discuss things with people who know you and know her - people who can talk to you straight about it. What you DON'T need is people telling you, "It's okay, man, she was a bitch," etc. If you get that stuff then you're not focusing on the good times you had and using those good memories to (firstly) get you over this and (secondly) help you learn from it and apply it to future relationships.

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Well, I don't think I'll have people saying she was a bitch... everyone loves her. She's great. My whole family loves her (I mean, she has been like a part of it for 2 years). As as for moving back with my parents. That's not what i want. I've stated (by the time I'm replying to your post) that I didn't move away just because of her. Many many many other reasons as well.

Also, yes, talking about it with people close to me, probably would help... But here's the problem... the person I'm closest too, and would be able to talk to, is the fukcing one that dumped me. I don't really have a whole lot of other close family/friends I'd feel comfortable talking to about this.

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I would tell you to go for a long drive, but if you're in Southern California, there aren't any long, winding roads. ;)

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I don't have my licence... another reason things have been harder then they need to be.

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Originally Posted by MVS

Is she 18 and on the west coast?

Rebound guy gets the easy in, always.

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She's jail bate. I'd stay away if I were you.

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Originally Posted by Criticom

Also, yes, talking about it with people close to me, probably would help... But here's the problem... the person I'm closest too, and would be able to talk to, is the fukcing one that dumped me. I don't really have a whole lot of other close family/friends I'd feel comfortable talking to about this.

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You're acting like no one else in the world has ever been best friends with a long-term girlfriend. Everyone has, and everyone has gone through this. Stop being a whiny bitch and listen to all of the help everyone is giving you.

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Originally Posted by Kidnemo

Yep, you're gonna hear it all the time...

If it helps (it won't) but the girl that broke my heart stabbed me in the shoulder, tried to run me off the road multiple times, got physical with me more than I can remember (once she did a flying jump kick to the middle of my back when I was facing the other way, that was fun), called the cops on me, and lied to our friends and family about how horrible I was. Not to mention she slept around behind my back like a mo'fo...

It all worked out in the end because she has herpes now. :D

(I don't)

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She sounds like a bitch. She sounds like a psyco.

Mine isn't... even through all of this... she's trying to be really sweet. Which is tough... because it's just making me want her back more.

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Originally Posted by Nomi

And Criticom, I'm not going to bother bullshitting you with the usual stuff. Simply said, I hope things work out and you feel better. That's all I can offer.

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Thank you very much.

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Originally Posted by Mzo

I'd talked to my first love very nearly every day since grade school.

Now I'm going on 2 years. It's horrid at first, and everyone will get tired of how everything reminds you of her, but time really does get rid of everything; but only once she's out of your life. Make sure it's what you want, first. Don't let anybody pressure you into the wrong decision.

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I'm really not sure, I'm ready to have her out of my life.... Yes it hurts, but it will still hurt just as much not being able to see/talk to her.

This is the fucking hardest decision I've had to make in my short life. This bites ass.

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Fag.

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Thanks.

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EDIT: Ditto on the best friend stuff from your post below. That really was the worst part, having to lose that part of her.

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Word.

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Originally Posted by Criticom

Mine isn't... even through all of this... she's trying to be really sweet. Which is tough... because it's just making me want her back more.

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THAT'S THE WHOLE FUCKING POINT.

Think it feels bad now? Wait until she's fucking someone else.

I think there's some things you have to learn for yourself... hell, it took me a long time to figure it out, and I wouldn't listen to anybody else, either.

With that, I am gone forever from this thread. *POOF*

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Originally Posted by Criticom

She sounds like a bitch. She sounds like a psyco.

Mine isn't... even through all of this... she's trying to be really sweet. Which is tough... because it's just making me want her back more.

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She's trying to be sweet to you because she doesn't want to see you hurt or sad. But that doesn't mean she wants you as her boyfriend or anything, it just means she doesn't want to hurt people she has cared for in the past.

Ultimately it's your call but staying away from her is the best thing you can do. But it's something you are going to learn the hard way, just like every other guy on Earth.

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Originally Posted by MVS

Anyone who stays friends with a girl that dumps them for someone else, and continues to suffer, is a pussy. I'm sorry, but if you do that you get what you deserve.

Cut her off and there's a 90% chance she'll be drunk on your doorstep in 30 days.

Stay friends and there's a 100% chance you'll be a miserable bastard.

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Ok, well... I really don't think she dumped me for him directly (Though I can't say she didn't either, as I highly doubt she would tell me if things have been going on already...even though I don't think there has been anything yet)... She just has crush... and if for some reason she persues that crush, then she doesn't want to do it while we're together. which I'm quite gratefull full for (hence me saying she's very trustworthy).

Also, she's been pretty unhappy with how things have been going for us for a while... she's sick of being in a relationship.. she wants to be 16. Which I understand, because in a lot of instances, I'd just hold her back.

This whole situation in 75% my fault, so I'm not going to make it seem like it's her fault, and she broke my heart, And she's a huge bitch. She's Not. Not in the least. She just wants to be free.

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Originally Posted by bbobb

Boo fucking hoo... I'm sorry but I have no sympathy in this... you're only 17... what the hell were you doing in a relationship for two years at that age? Live the young life while you still can... it's not worth your time to try to be grown up when you're still a kid... I learned that the hard way.

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I'm learing it too asshole, so fuck off.