My girlfriend broke up with me tonight...

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Originally Posted by Criticom

This is the one huge decision I have to make, and I'm torn. Yes yes, I know what everyone here says I should do... but really, will I be able to do that (especially with HER most likely, trying to contact me)

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Oh no doubt about it... it will be hard. Very hard. To cut off contact with her straight up will be painful and difficult and youll probably feel like jumping off a bridge more than once. It will be heart-breaking.

But that's short-term. As long as you don't obsess over it, as long as you try new things, meet new people, go new places, you will learn to do something you haven't in a long fucking time - live life without her. Which is what you need to do now.

But if you try to maintain some sort of friend-ish relationship with her, it will still be painful, but it will be strung-out, more intense over a longer period of time, and with no relief in sight. It will drive you absolutely nuts and you may even become seriously depressed over it. Because you're not gonna get over her. She's gonna be there, not doing anything for you, but still there. She's not gonna help you get over her, because people don't work like that. She's already over you, after all.

So, basically, you gotta decide between short-term or long-term pain. The choice, if you ask me, is obvious.

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Originally Posted by Icepick

I'm not dead yet...

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That problem could be alleviated.

Last time my girlfriend broke up with me it killed me. When I saw her next she asked me about staying friends and I flat out told her no. I knew that I cared too much about her and that ever being forced to see her with another guy would hurt too much, even hearing her say his name after the fact pissed me off (the time between her breaking up with me and trying to speak with me again was a couple weeks). I even asked her if there was any possibility of getting back together and she said probably not. I knew I wouldn't be able to take it, so I cut off all contact with her and told her I couldn't be her friend and could probably not talk to her again.

I missed her then and I still do. But I also didn't drive myself crazy and I knew it was the only thing I could do. Life moves on, and even though it might take a few weeks or a couple months, so will you. Whatever you need to do will only get finished faster the faster you start, whether that means becoming an intellectual whore, a constantly tortured friend (arguably the same thing), a friend only when you guys pass by each other every few months, or a seperate person again.

We're all saying exactly the same thing for a reason. It's happened to all of us. And it's always worked out the same way.

Well, this is a terribly motivating thread.

...Thanks.

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Originally Posted by bbobb

That problem could be alleviated.

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:lol:

The ninjas are now on their way.

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Originally Posted by Nomi

Well, this is a terribly motivating thread.

...Thanks.

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Don't worry, it's the guy that usually suffers. You'll just move on to the next guy with the bigger bulge in his pants.

PS - I'm talking about his WALLET!! AHAHAHAHA!!

I kid, I kid...

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Originally Posted by Mzo

Don't worry, it's the guy that usually suffers. You'll just move on to the next guy with the bigger bulge in his pants.

PS - I'm talking about his WALLET!! AHAHAHAHA!!

I kid, I kid...

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But it's true... :cry:

Yah, but maybe not for Nomi. At least not yet. Maybe she'll be corrupted in college.