My girlfriend broke up with me tonight...

We had been going out for alomst 2 years (our 2 year aniversary would have been in a week), and now she broke up with me. I can't say I didn't expect it, but It doesn't hurt any less. I didn't want to break up, so sucks for me. Worse of all is that she has a crush on this jackass friend of her, who will just fuck her over.

It's not like I have a million friends either, she was like my best. And I don't have anyone else lusting after me (I.E. Interested in me). Things just haven't been that great for the last couple months (constantly fighting, jealousy, and a bunch of other trivial shit), so this wasn't the biggest shock. I haven't exactly been the happiest with her lately either. She hasn't been treating be very good lately (Nor I to her). But no matter what was going on between us, and how bad she was making me feel, I know I would feel 50x worse without her. And guess what.....I was fucking right.

I hope I die in my sleep, so I don't have to fucking feel like this in the morning (and every fucking day from here on out).

dunno dude. eventually you know, with some time...you'll get over it. shits hard though. condolences.

No one is worth feeling that bad over. No one.

I know that wasn't what you wanted to hear, but it's true. Pick yourself and work on making yourself better without the aid of anyone. You aren't missing anything now that she is gone. No one can complete you. And no one contains any missing puzzle pieces to what makes up your whole.

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Originally Posted by Aurora

No one is worth feeling that bad over. No one.

I know that wasn't what you wanted to hear, but it's true. Pick yourself and work on making yourself better without the aid of anyone. You aren't missing anything now that she is gone. No one can complete you. And no one contains any missing puzzle pieces to what makes up your whole.

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Well, I really don't care what I hear, because what you say probably won't make a huge difference on how I feel. But I understand what you're saying. I know, I don't need her to complete me... But being with her makes me happy. And i'm not as happy without her. Time, yeah, I'm sure time will help. But right now, I don't even know what to do. I have no one by myself, and my thoughts to keep me busy. which fucking sucks... cause I'm a paranoid mother fucker.

we all get paranoid after breaking up with someone. i went through it twice, not so much the second time though (i just said fuck it after a month), and one of my best friends is kinda getting over it (he's a punk ass crybaby). it definitely ain't fun having just your thoughts keeping you company, but that's just how it is. best thing to do is probably try to hang with whoever you consider to be your closest friends. keep occupied as best as you can. ain't fun falling into that rut.

Geez Crit, that sucks the big chaloopa. While trying to be as serious as possible I'd consider yourself lucky to even have had a great ride with your friend at all. Alot of people *hint* never even dated someone. My problem is being liked every month or so but I'm too picky and just drop the chance. And about the paranoid part, it's normal, but you might not get over it, you know if you're not confident enough. Still sorry...

It was because of your username.

In all seriousness, and I know you'll hate me for saying this - you're seventeen. Nothing is permanent, especially at that age, and much less wanting to die over some girl. I've been there, and everyone on else in this place has too. It gets better, you'll get better and you'll wind up with someone better.

Rinse, repeat if necessary

don't dwell on it. obsession is the waterslide to crazytown

give him some boobers to look at 680. maybe that'll cheer him up a little.

animated tits work better than prozac
http://www.tc.umn.edu/~eric0935/yoko-run.gif

You'll be fine.

Life teaches its lessons in love to each of us in different ways. Some learn faster than others and those of us who do not require examples of pain to learn them do not outnumber those who think the grass is greener somewhere else. Your smarter than her, but you cannot tell a speeding train to slow down. Understand that if she has half a brain, and this new dude will fuck her over, she will be taught that lesson by being burned.

I've been through this with every girl I've ever dated, and the most satisfying thing I can say as I watch one of them walk around with a baby and another date every jackass in town, is they know deep down, it wasn't worth it. They are changed, and really can't even look me in the eye when I walk by them, but they know I was the one who wouldn't have abandoned 'em, and they know I don't want anything to do with them.

It's a step to empowerment and emotional maturity. You did nothing wrong Criticom, except maybe fall to hard at your age for a girl who obviously has a lot of lessons to learn before she realizes how important this relationship was to you by realizing how important it was to her.

Sleep on it, each day you'll feel better, and do yourself a favor, cut ties for now. You'll be better off.

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we all get paranoid after breaking up with someone. i went through it twice, not so much the second time though (i just said fuck it after a month), and one of my best friends is kinda getting over it (he's a punk ass crybaby). it definitely ain't fun having just your thoughts keeping you company, but that's just how it is. best thing to do is probably try to hang with whoever you consider to be your closest friends. keep occupied as best as you can. ain't fun falling into that rut.

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I moved away from all my friends to be closer to her (among other reasons), a couple months ago. I don't have any friends where I live now. Horray.

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I moved away from all my friends to be closer to her (among other reasons), a couple months ago. I don't have any friends where I live now. Horray.

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NEVER move away from your friends to be with ANY girl unless its absolutely neccessary, like marriage neccessary. I mean jesus.

Your seventeen and you moved to stay with a girl? Explain this story please, I am fascinated by your independence.

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Geez Crit, that sucks the big chaloopa. While trying to be as serious as possible I'd consider yourself lucky to even have had a great ride with your friend at all. Alot of people *hint* never even dated someone. My problem is being liked every month or so but I'm too picky and just drop the chance. And about the paranoid part, it's normal, but you might not get over it, you know if you're not confident enough. Still sorry...

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Thanks for the sorry.

I'm sorry too. :'(

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It was because of your username.

In all seriousness, and I know you'll hate me for saying this - you're seventeen. Nothing is permanent, especially at that age, and much less wanting to die over some girl. I've been there, and everyone on else in this place has too. It gets better, you'll get better and you'll wind up with someone better.

Rinse, repeat if necessary

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I know, everyoen said that we would break up eventually, I was just too naive, and actual thought we could be different. I was wrong, but like you said, everyone goes through it... I'm just choosing to talk about mine on a fucking video game message board. How depressing.

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animated tits work better than prozac
http://www.tc.umn.edu/~eric0935/yoko-run.gif

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THat's neat... but didn't really help... nice try though.

hey,

at least you're not teh homo gay like me.


;)

We're pretty close to the same age. I went through the same shit a while back. Roufuss can tell you how much I bitched about it on aim. I got over it, every member of the population that's actually lived has gotten over it, and you'll get over it.

Without downsides life has no upsides.

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You'll be fine.

Life teaches its lessons in love to each of us in different ways. Some learn faster than others and those of us who do not require examples of pain to learn them do not outnumber those who think the grass is greener somewhere else. Your smarter than her, but you cannot tell a speeding train to slow down. Understand that if she has half a brain, and this new dude will fuck her over, she will be taught that lesson by being burned.

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Well... They may not even go out.. she just has a crush. She wanted to break up with me anyway... things were just hurting too much.

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I've been through this with every girl I've ever dated, and the most satisfying thing I can say as I watch one of them walk around with a baby and another date every jackass in town, is they know deep down, it wasn't worth it. They are changed, and really can't even look me in the eye when I walk by them, but they know I was the one who wouldn't have abandoned 'em, and they know I don't want anything to do with them.

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Well, I really don't hope that on her... as she means too much to me.. I really want her to be happy with whatever she chooses. I in a way, hope he fucks her over... but in another way... she's been through enough shit with me. And she really deserves to be happy for a while.

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It's a step to empowerment and emotional maturity. You did nothing wrong Criticom, except maybe fall to hard at your age for a girl who obviously has a lot of lessons to learn before she realizes how important this relationship was to you by realizing how important it was to her.

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First off... I never said I didn't do anythign wrong... I did a shit load of stuff worng... I didn't trust her when she's more trustworthy then anyone I've fucking met... Got jealous all the fucking time... Was a needy bitch.. and a bunch of other shit. Not saying she didn't have things she needs to work on two. But I defintely have mine. I'm very much to blame for this breakup. I may not have actually done it.. But I may have well with my actions.

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Sleep on it, each day you'll feel better, and do yourself a favor, cut ties for now. You'll be better off.

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That's one thing, I'm really mulling over.... cutting ties... I in a way, know I really need to do that... but I don't know if I have the will power to do so. I'm confused on that part.

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Thanks for the sorry.

I'm sorry too. :'(

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ah dude, i feel bad for ya. Just dont tell any shmuck here force ya to put on a fake smile, live threw the misery it'll pass in like a week. I promise you'll be teasing teh black in no time!!!

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Originally Posted by youandwhosearmy

NEVER move away from your friends to be with ANY girl unless its absolutely neccessary, like marriage neccessary. I mean jesus.

Your seventeen and you moved to stay with a girl? Explain this story please, I am fascinated by your independence.

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Like I said, "among other reasons". She wasn't THE reason, she was (at the time), just a plus in the thick of things. I was very unhappy with my home situation with my parents, with where I live (on a farm/ranch, whatever.. .in a shit hole "house", with out electricity (Solar Panels, which give out DC power). Not life there... nothing going for me. So I decided to move in with my Grandma (who is getting old, and it's good that there is someone else here with her). Because I was sick of living how I lived. It just so happens that My grandmas is a lot closer to where my girlfriend lives.

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I'm just choosing to talk about mine on a fucking video game message board. How depressing.

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you're not the first, and you most likely won't be the last. it beats not trying to deal with it in some fashion.

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NEVER move away from your friends to be with ANY girl unless its absolutely neccessary, like marriage neccessary. I mean jesus.

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that's just common sense. unless you've got major fucked up family problems too, like your dad is a deadbeat drunk and your mom is a skank who'll whore herself to a man wearing aqua velva. or brut. the not having any friends thing is a killer, dude. they're some of the only people that'll keep you sane enough until you get over things. i'd say to go out and get some, but you're not going to want to be at all social right now.

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ah dude, i feel bad for ya. Just dont tell any shmuck here force ya to put on a fake smile, live threw the misery it'll pass in like a week. I promise you'll be teasing teh black in no time!!!

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Well, you're half right.... I can gurentee that I wont be better in a week. But You're right that I'll be teasing the negroes... as bringing down other people gives me joy.

I'm just playin' with ya. hey, you're alright. /rodney dangerfield

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you're not the first, and you most likely won't be the last. it beats not trying to deal with it in some fashion.

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I suppose. Really, nothing you people will say will really help me... This is more of a way to vent. So whatever.

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that's just common sense. unless you've got major fucked up family problems too, like your dad is a deadbeat drunk and your mom is a skank who'll whore herself to a man wearing aqua velva. or brut. the not having any friends thing is a killer, dude. they're some of the only people that'll keep you sane enough until you get over things. i'd say to go out and get some, but you're not going to want to be at all social right now.

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See the post above yours.

I'm surprised about all the support, I completely expected this to be a STFU thread, and was eager to participate. Oh well.

Yeah, sever all ties, it helps a lot. And the same thing happened to me, blah blah blah, this girl is different and you're all dumb for telling me that, we'll always be together, I'm a freaking idiot.

Well, now you know how they all are, at least.

I'll let this thread slide, but you better not act like a bitch anywhere else on the board.

Atleast you have TNL...

*snicker*


















But seriously, it has happened to just about everyone at some time or another. To love is to live loss, or something along those lines. It will suck for a while, but you'll get through it. Even though I know that's no help for how you're feeling now, it's the truth.

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Atleast you have TNL...

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BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!

I was going to just post that...

But I couldn't be that heartless.

ah cheer up man, what...you want to start 2004 like this? turn that frown upside down fool

I remember a few times when I was your age thinking that my life was over because of no longer having a specific girl. "I'll never, EEEEEVER find anybody who understands me the way she did" I'd sob.

Looking back, I thank my lucky stars that I got away from those girls. Had I stayed with them, I would have lost so many great opportunities. As well, I never would have gone on to meet better girls who I enjoyed much more fulfilling relationships with.

You're seventeen. No offense, but christ, you're still a baby when it comes to these things. I won't say that you shouldn't have moved for the girl, because I think it's good that you did - doing stupid crap for girls at that age teached you good lessons. You'll think that your romantic life is over, but trust me, you're still in the beginnings of it.

Bros before Hos.

Now you have more time for TNL and videogames. Life could be worse, you could be going to jail.

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Bros before Hos

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A life lesson to be sure. 4 life.

Nothing that hasn't been said before. You'll live kid and a few months from now (weeks even) you'll look back on this thread and think you sounded like a dope. You'd be right but it happens to everyone. Cheer up.

I'll be sure to bump it up much later.

It's in my PDA already.

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Jesus, is that Yuuka? I wasn't even feeling shitty and I'm feeling better.

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P.S.


NEVER move away from your friends to be with ANY girl unless its absolutely neccessary, like marriage neccessary. I mean jesus.

Your seventeen and you moved to stay with a girl? Explain this story please, I am fascinated by your independence.

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I 2nd this. Don't let your feelinsg for your GF dominate so much that you end up pushing all your freinds away also. She should be able to accept you as you are and the freinds you keep.

People shouldn't be having committed relationships before the age of 30. Not that that helps you feel better in any way, and there are exceptions, but you should be out getting as much poontang as possible instead of stressing over some chick before you're even allowed to smoke a cigarette. shidoshi hit it on the head, though.

On a serious note, though: Are you able to move back to where your friends are? Can you talk to your parents about it? No matter what you were expecting from her, the only way to feel bettter about this is to discuss things with people who know you and know her - people who can talk to you straight about it. What you DON'T need is people telling you, "It's okay, man, she was a bitch," etc. If you get that stuff then you're not focusing on the good times you had and using those good memories to (firstly) get you over this and (secondly) help you learn from it and apply it to future relationships.

I would tell you to go for a long drive, but if you're in Southern California, there aren't any long, winding roads. ;)

Is she 18 and on the west coast?

Rebound guy gets the easy in, always.

Should've been here a page ago.

That should've been the first damn post.

Hehe. Matt's poised to strike...

What if Criticom likes the plumpers? Would you rebound-bang a fat chick?

Yes, I would.

Rebound is the perfect system.

Easy sex, you don't have to spend a lot for them to really think you are nice since things probably ended badly with the last dude, they tend to really get their freak on since they've been tied to one penis for a few years, and then generally get weepy and then apologize to you for leaving to go back to the ex.

It's a win-win-win-win-win situation.

Um...

EDIT: Fuck, it won't let me do the picture again, since it's in another thread. That's stupid. It's a No Fat Chicks shirt.

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Well, you're half right.... I can gurentee that I wont be better in a week. But You're right that I'll be teasing the negroes... as bringing down other people gives me joy.

I'm just playin' with ya. hey, you're alright. /rodney dangerfield

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no respect, no respect at all /rodney dangerfield ;)

Easy chicks > weight issues.

Always.

Not saying that all big chicks are easy, but you'll likely not find a more desperate and easy lay than a chick that just dumped a LTR dude.

First off... I'd like to address the move situation one more time.

I didn't move JUST for her!! I fucking hated were I lived, I hated how I was living, and my friends got jobs and fucking worked all the time. I couldn't stand being were I was. True... The move had a lot to do with my girl, but she was very far from the only reason.

Now that I've said that yet again.... I'll reply to some individual posts, as I have nothing better to do.

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I'm surprised about all the support, I completely expected this to be a STFU thread, and was eager to participate. Oh well.

Yeah, sever all ties, it helps a lot. And the same thing happened to me, blah blah blah, this girl is different and you're all dumb for telling me that, we'll always be together, I'm a freaking idiot.

Well, now you know how they all are, at least.

I'll let this thread slide, but you better not act like a bitch anywhere else on the board.

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I expecting all the STFU shit too, this thread is weird.

Sever all ties is something I'm debating.... I've talked to this girl just about every night for the last 2 years....I just can't even fathom not doing so. In fact, she's on her way over to pick me up and go shopping right now (hopfully that goes well). Breaking all ties, is going to be the most difficult decision I'll have to make (I made none in the break up....so I guess this is my time to choose shit)

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Atleast you have TNL...

*snicker*

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You're a funny guy.

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But seriously, it has happened to just about everyone at some time or another. To love is to live loss, or something along those lines. It will suck for a while, but you'll get through it. Even though I know that's no help for how you're feeling now, it's the truth.

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You're right, it's no help.... try harder next time.

But seriously, I know, I'm goign to be hearing this every time I discuss her, or say how I miss her. I know you'e probably right, but it doesn't make me want her back, any less.

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Originally Posted by station82o

ah cheer up man, what...you want to start 2004 like this? turn that frown upside down fool

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No, this isn't how I want to start 2004, but it's sure as hell how it's going to happen. Happy fucking new year.

Yep, you're gonna hear it all the time...

If it helps (it won't) but the girl that broke my heart stabbed me in the shoulder, tried to run me off the road multiple times, got physical with me more than I can remember (once she did a flying jump kick to the middle of my back when I was facing the other way, that was fun), called the cops on me, and lied to our friends and family about how horrible I was. Not to mention she slept around behind my back like a mo'fo...

It all worked out in the end because she has herpes now. :D

(I don't)

Whores and harlots, every one.

Sometimes, I envy Aurora.

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Yep, you're gonna hear it all the time...

If it helps (it won't) but the girl that broke my heart stabbed me, try to run me off the road multiple times, tried to beat me up all the time, called the cops on me, and lied to our friends and family about how horrible I was. Not to mention she slept around behind my back like a mo'fo...

It all worked out in the end because she has herpes now. :D

(I don't)

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I'm assuming she had some good qualities in there... Right?

And Criticom, I'm not going to bother bullshitting you with the usual stuff. Simply said, I hope things work out and you feel better. That's all I can offer.

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You're a funny guy.

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That's why I'll kill you last.

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Sever all ties is something I'm debating.... I've talked to this girl just about every night for the last 2 years

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I'd talked to my first love very nearly every day since grade school.

Now I'm going on 2 years. It's horrid at first, and everyone will get tired of how everything reminds you of her, but time really does get rid of everything; but only once she's out of your life. Make sure it's what you want, first. Don't let anybody pressure you into the wrong decision.

Fag.

EDIT: Ditto on the best friend stuff from your post below. That really was the worst part, having to lose that part of her.

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I remember a few times when I was your age thinking that my life was over because of no longer having a specific girl. "I'll never, EEEEEVER find anybody who understands me the way she did" I'd sob.

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no, I know there will be other girls I like, but right now, that's the last thing on my mind. She's been my best friend (girlfriend aside), for the last two year....Now, I have to lose both (she wants to still be best friends, but I can just see this going badly). I'm just as crushed about not having that, as not having her as my girlfriend... So in a way, you're right, to some extent. I don't want another girl right now, I still want her... But I know eventually, we'd have to go our seperate ways... I just didn't want that to be now.

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Looking back, I thank my lucky stars that I got away from those girls. Had I stayed with them, I would have lost so many great opportunities. As well, I never would have gone on to meet better girls who I enjoyed much more fulfilling relationships with.

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Well, she's given me so many oppottunities, that I wouldn't have gotten had I not been with her. I know there will be stuff that I experience, now, because she's not with me anymore... But I'm not sure it will be worth it in the end (not that I have a choice).

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You're seventeen. No offense, but christ, you're still a baby when it comes to these things. I won't say that you shouldn't have moved for the girl, because I think it's good that you did - doing stupid crap for girls at that age teached you good lessons. You'll think that your romantic life is over, but trust me, you're still in the beginnings of it.

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I didn't move JUST for her!! I fucking hated were I lived, I hated how I was living, and my friends got jobs and fucking worked all the time. I couldn't stand being were I was. True... The move had a lot to do with my girl, but she was very far from the only reason.

If you are a smackhead, and you give up smack, why would you want to hang with your old smackhead pals?

You can call that the Renton Rule.

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I'm assuming she had some good qualities in there... Right?

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A persons first love does crazy things to your mind...

Kidnemo, I LOVE that last post. My ex left me for a guy who didn't tell her he had herpes, and who got pissed at me for telling her that he did. When my ex and I broke up, it sucked quite a bit, mainly because we'd been together for about three years, and I'd just spent hundreds of dollars on her for prom, on top of birthday stuff. Anyways, good luck getting over this girl, and hopefully, your new year will improve.

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EDIT: Ditto on the best friend stuff from your post below. That really was the worst part, having to lose that part of her.

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Eggs in one basket. Bad idea.

Every man needs a Batcave and his Justice League to be healthy.

Heh. Right on that.

Even though I'd been neglecting them for years, my buds took me in and made me a part of their group and routines afterwards. I'm very grateful towards those fucking pricks. Sometimes they even lurk, right, you assholes?

Anyone who stays friends with a girl that dumps them for someone else, and continues to suffer, is a pussy. I'm sorry, but if you do that you get what you deserve.

Cut her off and there's a 90% chance she'll be drunk on your doorstep in 30 days.

Stay friends and there's a 100% chance you'll be a miserable bastard.

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Kidnemo, I LOVE that last post. My ex left me for a guy who didn't tell her he had herpes, and who got pissed at me for telling her that he did. When my ex and I broke up, it sucked quite a bit, mainly because we'd been together for about three years, and I'd just spent hundreds of dollars on her for prom, on top of birthday stuff. Anyways, good luck getting over this girl, and hopefully, your new year will improve.

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I remember her saying to me like I was supposed to feel jealous "and I even found a new guy who loves going down on me", and I remember thinking "congrats for you, because I for sure as hell wouldn't be eating out your herpes infested cooter".

Goddam women Jeremy, goddam women...

Boo fucking hoo... I'm sorry but I have no sympathy in this... you're only 17... what the hell were you doing in a relationship for two years at that age? Live the young life while you still can... it's not worth your time to try to be grown up when you're still a kid... I learned that the hard way.

Teenage sex, maybe?

Was it the first poon? That would explain a lot of the attachment.

Can't blame the guy for wanting to have a GF at 17, that's not the issue.

Nah, I don't blame him for wanting to have a GF at 17... but dating a girl for 2 fucking years at that age is out of control.

bbobb's just bitter because he's not getting any.

Sure, but that's one of those things you learn at like 22.

When I was 17, I was happy to have a GF and have a LTR with her.

When I was 22, I resented all that other poon I gave up trying for.

To each his own.

I can't really say anything that hasn't been said before other than sorry to hear it. I went through a similar situation awhile back, hell, even had a thread about it.

I thought I had the worst luck ever after what happened but looking back on it though I'm glad it happened because I wouldn't be where I am today and I'm happy with my current situation. Everything happens for a reason....

And that reason is women are all whores, who are just seperated by price and oppertunity.

Hear, hear.

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Boo fucking hoo... I'm sorry but I have no sympathy in this... you're only 17... what the hell were you doing in a relationship for two years at that age? Live the young life while you still can... it's not worth your time to try to be grown up when you're still a kid... I learned that the hard way.

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This is a lesson everyone needs to learn for themselves I think.

I personally am happy that I had a long time relationship when I was younger, I learned a lot about myself and about love which it seems many people my age still don't understand.

Ok, well, I'll reply to everyoen else later, she's here now, and we're going shopping. stfu all of you.

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Meh... If I really wanted to get laid, I would. But I'm just not at the desperation point of lowering my standards.

Staying friends will not work. There is no such thing, don't try putting yourself through that it'll just drag out the pain longer. Unless you're into self torture, don't.

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Ok, well, I'll reply to everyoen else later, she's here now, and we're going shopping. stfu all of you.

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We've lost him...

Oh, she will be his friend, but [b]he]/b] won't stop caring about her, and all the time he spends with her not being able to have her (or, worse yet, hearing about her problems when she starts fucking some other guy) will be complete and utter torture.

LISTEN TO US! It's happened all too often to so many people...

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Sure, but that's one of those things you learn at like 22.

When I was 17, I was happy to have a GF and have a LTR with her.

When I was 22, I resented all that other poon I gave up trying for.

To each his own.

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You know... 22 seems to be the universal life lesson age. That's the same age I figured out how stupid I had been since HS and got my ass back to college. Amazing.

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Originally Posted by Criticom

Ok, well, I'll reply to everyoen else later, she's here now, and we're going shopping. stfu all of you.

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Pussy.

When she comes back in 3 months, after humping the 5th fleet, pregnent/with teh Hiv and you take her back because she's 'special and teh one', I'm going to relish this moment with all the fake joy and piss enducing laughter that text can convey.

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Originally Posted by Rumpy

Staying friends will not work. There is no such thing, don't try putting yourself through that it'll just drag out the pain longer. Unless you're into self torture, don't.

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Agreed... staying friends is the worst possible thing you can do. It just leads to an on again off again relationship that is even more painful when it finally breaks apart.

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Originally Posted by Mzo

We've lost him...

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He's gotta learn for himself I think.

I wouldn't be surprised if they have "teh makeup" sex too, possibly with a little side dish of the "I'm sorry that happened, I just wanted to be with you one more time" line from her.

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Originally Posted by Criticom

Ok, well, I'll reply to everyoen else later, she's here now, and we're going shopping. stfu all of you.

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I'm incredibly fucking disappointed in you.

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Originally Posted by bbobb

You know... 22 seems to be the universal life lesson age. That's the same age I figured out how stupid I had been since HS and got my ass back to college. Amazing.

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I think it's beacuse the booze wears off.

About a year after booze was legal for me, and I'd been drinking for 6 years, some of the luster was lost and sobriety is amazingly revealing.

That or you just feel old and s-m-r-t.

I feel old at 23.

And I think we've all said all we have to say on the subject; and it all seems to say the same thing.

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Originally Posted by bbobb

Agreed... staying friends is the worst possible thing you can do. It just leads to an on again off again relationship that is even more painful when it finally breaks apart.

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It's not just that.

Why give a chick something for free?

I mean, if the price of her having you be a nice guy and the shoulder man, is that she has to be your GF, fine, great. Fantastic.

If she leaves you for another dude, why would you continue to give her all of that and get 0 sex?

It's that satisfying that you can be happier with less of a relationship?

Desperation. Been there myself, hated it, made me better to learn that at 18.

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Originally Posted by Mzo

I feel old at 23.

And I think we've all said all we have to say on the subject; and it all seems to say the same thing.

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Indeed. Some MOD change his name to Anakin. He's gone over and aint' coming back for some time. Maybe if he throws her down an electrical conduit, he'll be redeemed...

First time I felt old was when I turned 22. It's an eye opening age I think.

And I can't believe he went shopping with her. Jesus you're trapped now. Every god damn second you're with her, you're going to wonder how she feels about you now and if you'll get back together now. Enjoy the make-up sex until she stabs you in the fucking heart again.

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Originally Posted by Criticom

Ok, well, I'll reply to everyoen else later, she's here now, and we're going shopping. stfu all of you.

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Don't be such a fucking tool. I did the same thing. LOOK AT RUMPY'S LINK!

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Originally Posted by MVS

Anyone who stays friends with a girl that dumps them for someone else, and continues to suffer, is a pussy. I'm sorry, but if you do that you get what you deserve.

Stay friends and there's a 100% chance you'll be a miserable bastard.

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pure cosmic truth.

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Originally Posted by Kidnemo

Yep, you're gonna hear it all the time...

If it helps (it won't) but the girl that broke my heart stabbed me in the shoulder, tried to run me off the road multiple times, got physical with me more than I can remember (once she did a flying jump kick to the middle of my back when I was facing the other way, that was fun), called the cops on me, and lied to our friends and family about how horrible I was. Not to mention she slept around behind my back like a mo'fo...

It all worked out in the end because she has herpes now. :D

(I don't)

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your ex-girlfriend is awesome :D

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Originally Posted by Criticom

Ok, well, I'll reply to everyoen else later, she's here now, and we're going shopping. stfu all of you.

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Don't be such a fucking tool. I did the same thing. LOOK AT RUMPY'S LINK!

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Originally Posted by MVS

Anyone who stays friends with a girl that dumps them for someone else, and continues to suffer, is a pussy. I'm sorry, but if you do that you get what you deserve.

Stay friends and there's a 100% chance you'll be a miserable bastard.

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pure cosmic truth.

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Originally Posted by Kidnemo

Yep, you're gonna hear it all the time...

If it helps (it won't) but the girl that broke my heart stabbed me in the shoulder, tried to run me off the road multiple times, got physical with me more than I can remember (once she did a flying jump kick to the middle of my back when I was facing the other way, that was fun), called the cops on me, and lied to our friends and family about how horrible I was. Not to mention she slept around behind my back like a mo'fo...

It all worked out in the end because she has herpes now. :D

(I don't)

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That's awesome :D

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Originally Posted by Master

Bros before Hos.

Now you have more time for TNL and videogames. Life could be worse, you could be going to jail.

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Bros started wrokign all the time, not having a whole lot of time for me, and started getting different lives, which included me less and less... True, they were still really good friends, but I was by myself, most of the time there as well... and in a lot less comfortable enviroment.

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Originally Posted by Tracer

Nothing that hasn't been said before. You'll live kid and a few months from now (weeks even) you'll look back on this thread and think you sounded like a dope. You'd be right but it happens to everyone. Cheer up.

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I always sound like a dope, broken hearted or not. I'm a dope. That's what I am.

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Originally Posted by BonusKun

I 2nd this. Don't let your feelinsg for your GF dominate so much that you end up pushing all your freinds away also. She should be able to accept you as you are and the freinds you keep.

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I didn't move JUST for her!! I fucking hated were I lived, I hated how I was living, and my friends got jobs and fucking worked all the time. I couldn't stand being were I was. True... The move had a lot to do with my girl, but she was very far from the only reason.

I'd also like to add to this. She didn't ask me to move, she didn't push me one way other the other. I moved because it was my choice. And that's the choice I made.

Also, she loves my friends. She has nothing against them at all, in fact we've all hung out together on multiple occasions.

Sorry to hear about the girl, but take it from someone who knows.

Take every opportunity now that you're a free man to do the stupidest, dumbest, most 17 year old bullshit you can think of. You only get once chance to be 17. Don't waste it. Go drink, and play drunken glow bowling or something.

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Originally Posted by Calliander

People shouldn't be having committed relationships before the age of 30. Not that that helps you feel better in any way, and there are exceptions, but you should be out getting as much poontang as possible instead of stressing over some chick before you're even allowed to smoke a cigarette. shidoshi hit it on the head, though.

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Well, yes, I sort of agree with you. People really shouldn't have exclusive relationships at my age. But that's what we had... I can't change that. That's not the issue at hand. So don't point out the obvious. But I would like to say... we shouldn't... but everyone (or almost) does. So you can say this to as many 12 year olds as you want, before they start dating... but if they find that right girl, or boy. They'll forget what you said in 2 seconds.

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On a serious note, though: Are you able to move back to where your friends are? Can you talk to your parents about it? No matter what you were expecting from her, the only way to feel bettter about this is to discuss things with people who know you and know her - people who can talk to you straight about it. What you DON'T need is people telling you, "It's okay, man, she was a bitch," etc. If you get that stuff then you're not focusing on the good times you had and using those good memories to (firstly) get you over this and (secondly) help you learn from it and apply it to future relationships.

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Well, I don't think I'll have people saying she was a bitch... everyone loves her. She's great. My whole family loves her (I mean, she has been like a part of it for 2 years). As as for moving back with my parents. That's not what i want. I've stated (by the time I'm replying to your post) that I didn't move away just because of her. Many many many other reasons as well.

Also, yes, talking about it with people close to me, probably would help... But here's the problem... the person I'm closest too, and would be able to talk to, is the fukcing one that dumped me. I don't really have a whole lot of other close family/friends I'd feel comfortable talking to about this.

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I would tell you to go for a long drive, but if you're in Southern California, there aren't any long, winding roads. ;)

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I don't have my licence... another reason things have been harder then they need to be.

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Originally Posted by MVS

Is she 18 and on the west coast?

Rebound guy gets the easy in, always.

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She's jail bate. I'd stay away if I were you.

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Originally Posted by Criticom

Also, yes, talking about it with people close to me, probably would help... But here's the problem... the person I'm closest too, and would be able to talk to, is the fukcing one that dumped me. I don't really have a whole lot of other close family/friends I'd feel comfortable talking to about this.

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You're acting like no one else in the world has ever been best friends with a long-term girlfriend. Everyone has, and everyone has gone through this. Stop being a whiny bitch and listen to all of the help everyone is giving you.

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Originally Posted by Kidnemo

Yep, you're gonna hear it all the time...

If it helps (it won't) but the girl that broke my heart stabbed me in the shoulder, tried to run me off the road multiple times, got physical with me more than I can remember (once she did a flying jump kick to the middle of my back when I was facing the other way, that was fun), called the cops on me, and lied to our friends and family about how horrible I was. Not to mention she slept around behind my back like a mo'fo...

It all worked out in the end because she has herpes now. :D

(I don't)

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She sounds like a bitch. She sounds like a psyco.

Mine isn't... even through all of this... she's trying to be really sweet. Which is tough... because it's just making me want her back more.

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Originally Posted by Nomi

And Criticom, I'm not going to bother bullshitting you with the usual stuff. Simply said, I hope things work out and you feel better. That's all I can offer.

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Thank you very much.

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Originally Posted by Mzo

I'd talked to my first love very nearly every day since grade school.

Now I'm going on 2 years. It's horrid at first, and everyone will get tired of how everything reminds you of her, but time really does get rid of everything; but only once she's out of your life. Make sure it's what you want, first. Don't let anybody pressure you into the wrong decision.

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I'm really not sure, I'm ready to have her out of my life.... Yes it hurts, but it will still hurt just as much not being able to see/talk to her.

This is the fucking hardest decision I've had to make in my short life. This bites ass.

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Fag.

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Thanks.

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EDIT: Ditto on the best friend stuff from your post below. That really was the worst part, having to lose that part of her.

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Word.

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Originally Posted by Criticom

Mine isn't... even through all of this... she's trying to be really sweet. Which is tough... because it's just making me want her back more.

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THAT'S THE WHOLE FUCKING POINT.

Think it feels bad now? Wait until she's fucking someone else.

I think there's some things you have to learn for yourself... hell, it took me a long time to figure it out, and I wouldn't listen to anybody else, either.

With that, I am gone forever from this thread. *POOF*

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Originally Posted by Criticom

She sounds like a bitch. She sounds like a psyco.

Mine isn't... even through all of this... she's trying to be really sweet. Which is tough... because it's just making me want her back more.

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She's trying to be sweet to you because she doesn't want to see you hurt or sad. But that doesn't mean she wants you as her boyfriend or anything, it just means she doesn't want to hurt people she has cared for in the past.

Ultimately it's your call but staying away from her is the best thing you can do. But it's something you are going to learn the hard way, just like every other guy on Earth.

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Originally Posted by MVS

Anyone who stays friends with a girl that dumps them for someone else, and continues to suffer, is a pussy. I'm sorry, but if you do that you get what you deserve.

Cut her off and there's a 90% chance she'll be drunk on your doorstep in 30 days.

Stay friends and there's a 100% chance you'll be a miserable bastard.

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Ok, well... I really don't think she dumped me for him directly (Though I can't say she didn't either, as I highly doubt she would tell me if things have been going on already...even though I don't think there has been anything yet)... She just has crush... and if for some reason she persues that crush, then she doesn't want to do it while we're together. which I'm quite gratefull full for (hence me saying she's very trustworthy).

Also, she's been pretty unhappy with how things have been going for us for a while... she's sick of being in a relationship.. she wants to be 16. Which I understand, because in a lot of instances, I'd just hold her back.

This whole situation in 75% my fault, so I'm not going to make it seem like it's her fault, and she broke my heart, And she's a huge bitch. She's Not. Not in the least. She just wants to be free.

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Originally Posted by bbobb

Boo fucking hoo... I'm sorry but I have no sympathy in this... you're only 17... what the hell were you doing in a relationship for two years at that age? Live the young life while you still can... it's not worth your time to try to be grown up when you're still a kid... I learned that the hard way.

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I'm learing it too asshole, so fuck off.