Anyone that doesn't get a prenup nowadays is an idiot.
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Anyone that doesn't get a prenup nowadays is an idiot.
Wau, the young girls who are in love with me at 24 are all 18 (heh yeah, 18), so its good to see the age limit doesn't shoot up as you get older.
Eh, seriously, do it all with as little burning as possible.
And good luck.
it all goes back to what Mykozo and myself were saying here http://www.the-nextlevel.com/board/s...ad.php?t=34460Quote:
Originally Posted by Dolemite
Bang the 20 year old. You'll be pissed off if you don't.
good luck with everything dude
Listen to the man. After however many years with the same poon, that fresh young 20 year old vagina will feel like heaven.Quote:
Originally Posted by Josh
Bang it.
Bang it hard.
I'm just going to whistle happily here and you can infer what you will.Quote:
Originally Posted by Dolemite
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Originally Posted by haohmaru
Really sorry to hear about this, man, but I had a few questions for you (if you don't mind answering them, of course). Please remember that I am not trying to be rude or mean or anything, even if it looks that way. And I may not be married, but from what my parents have gone through I wouldn't call myself ignorant of the matter.
My first reaction to that is, "Hook, line and sinker." It happens so frequently that it's the most common thing, but what was the reason for marriage? Was it your idea? Obviously, if your daughter is only six, at least you didn't knock her up and then get married because "it's the right thing to do" (even though it's not). How long did you see one another before the two of you were engaged? Did you live together beforehand, to see how things would work out (a test drive, of sorts)? What sorts of things did you discuss before the marriage - who would raise children, finances, expectations, etc.? Was she open sexually beforehand and then constricted as soon as the ring was on her finger? Were you? Did it happen over time? Was there anything before the marriage that you knew she was never willing to do but you wanted to?Quote:
Originally Posted by haohmaru
I know it's cliched to the fullest extent of the ban, but have you tried marriage councilling?Quote:
After years of internally trying to make this work, I realize that I either have to suck it up and be miserable for the sake of my kid, or try to be the best "absent" dad that I can be and find another love down the road.
Do you two fight a lot? Is she miserable, as well, or is it just you? Does she nag you a lot? Does she work? Who pays the majority of the bills?Quote:
Obviously, I'm thinking the latter option as the first can only serve to make things worse.
That's the biggest problem here. If you were married and didn't have any kids, I probably wouldn't hesitate to tell you to ditch the lady, pay her what she wants, and be done with it. However, with a child involved, you are no longer your primary concern - your daughter is. Anything that you do needs to be for HER. If she were around the same age as I was when my parents divorced (19), this wouldn't be such a big problem. I know that it may seem like you've tried to keep things together and have been doing so for a long time, but at least see if anything else can be done, for her sake. I know it sounds really cold in regards to you, but once you have a child, you no longer have a life of your own for the most part... If you do leave her, however, do it before 10 years because otherwise you pay vaginamony for life. Make sure, also, that if you do finalize a divorce you split on good terms because you don't want her to be angry and alienate your child from you, wittingly or unwittingly.Quote:
The relationship dying doesn't bother me nearly as much as the traumatic effect that this will have on my daughter, who's probably the happiest kid on the planet. Life can really, REALLY fucking suck sometimes.
Congratulations on not cheating, though. You're more of a man than most other guys. :)
Sorry to hear this haoh. It wouldn't be *such* a big deal if there wasn't a kid involved.
I got my girlfriend pregnant when I was twenty. We tried to make it work, but she had some serious problems. We stuck it out from what, '92 to '95? My son was born in 1993. I married her in '94 to try to salvage some reasonable facsimile of a relationship. When my son was 18 months old tho, I told her I couldn't deal with her anymore and took Tristen (my son) with me and moved out, just him, me and some clothes, and never looked back. He's still with me.
A bad relationship can be a lot worse on the kid than the divorce. Your daughter is six now, so she'll be confused, but she's young enough that in the future she'll probably adjust really well. It sounds like your relationship with your wife really just hit a brick wall, unlike mine where, well, it was a complete and utter mess and my sanity was seriously at stake. I mean, it was BADDDDD.
Since there is a kid involved, I'd recommend counseling. You fell in love with your wife for a reason and maybe with an intermediary, there's some hope of rediscovering what that reason was. At the very least, you'd have gone the extra mile to try to save things, and in doing so you'll open up a line of communication that sounds like it's been closed for a long time now, if it ever was open.
This wasn't a consideration for me because, like I said, there's only so much you can do with a person who is bi-polar, can't drive, refuses to work, gets kicked out of the school you got her into and whose sweet nothings she whispers in your ear as you try to fall asleep at night are I hate you... I really, really hate you..., not to mention the actual bad stuff... From your description, your relationship with your wife is not like this, so you have to ask yourself, 'why not try counseling?'
Regardless, I feel for ya. And I've discovered something in the past couple of years: It's worse to be in love and not be able to do anything about it, than to fall out of love and be able to do something about it. Reading that back to myself, I realize it actually can be taken a couple of different ways.