This is a real simple poll...this just arose recently, so I want to make sure I'm reading the situation correctly...
Also, if you pick the second or third options, what word(s) do you use to describe option 1?
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This is a real simple poll...this just arose recently, so I want to make sure I'm reading the situation correctly...
Also, if you pick the second or third options, what word(s) do you use to describe option 1?
If a boy gives me his class ring it means we're going steady.
hehe, I'm going to go with the first option.I can have sex with a girl and not necessarily be dating her, although sometimes option one will be a follow-up to two - depends on the girl.So you may date after teh sexers.
I think when I have a girlfriend though I dont really tell people I'm dating someone -- just "Hey, I have a girlfriend."
Well, I didn't mean, do you have to be dating to have sex? I dunno about on this board, but the majority of people I know have had the experience of a one nighter.
My question, really, is when you or someone else says that the two of you are dating, what thought occurs to you first?
Well, like I said it depends on the couple, but usually when someone tells me that they are dating, I assume that they recently met and are going out doing stuff together (dinner,movie,whatever)/talking/most likely not fucking....yet. That's the first impression I get.Quote:
Originally Posted by Schlep
Wait till you learn about the wonders of being a "fuck buddy"
Yeah, but if you go to the cinema with a girl, it doesn't necessarily mean you're going out...dating is a mutual thing, if she goes with you to the cinema or a restaurant, it doesn't always mean that she like you, especially if you're paying...
if you get your fingers wet......you're dating.
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Originally Posted by burky
you should ask a girl about this. When I was in higschool they had it all broken down into liittle groups. Like Just dating, just talking, talking, dating, fuck buddy, serious, steady, engaged, married, flirting, seeing each other, girlfrined/boyfriend, just making out, etc etc.. It never made sense to me. I was dating one girl, but apparently we were not dating though. i could have girlfriends that I'm not even aware that I had apparently.
I had convos about this with my gf before she became my gf. I think its really up to what both people think, because I think its more of an inner feeling and what not. I dont think sex has much to do with it.
The thing is, though, if theres any confusion - "is this girl my gf? Are we dating or just hanging out? Was this a date?" type of stuff, its probably not going anywhere.
IDBTN.Quote:
i could have girlfriends that I'm not even aware that I had apparently.
tough shitQuote:
Originally Posted by diffusionx
Yes Dating is much like the Force.Quote:
Originally Posted by diffusionx
IDBTN.Quote:
Originally Posted by IronPlant
Its a personal thing between two people. Imagine that! Hard and fast rules are useless.Quote:
Originally Posted by IronPlant
Tough shitQuote:
Originally Posted by diffusionx
What if she wants it hard and fast?Quote:
Originally Posted by diffusionx
IDBTN.Quote:
Originally Posted by IronPlant
Well... it may or may not be dating, or a relationship.Quote:
What if she wants it hard and fast?
tough shitQuote:
Originally Posted by diffusionx
maybeQuote:
Originally Posted by diffusionx
It's not that I'm personally having any kind of in-depth issue with a particular girl, just a simple situation made odd by the wording. I'm just looking to see what other people feel has become the common use of the word 'dating.'
I've been told recently that "hanging out" with a girl has replaced "dating a girl", as dating implies a more serious commitment where there's probably some sort of sexual activity involved now. If I were defining it, I'd say dating is option 1, but it wouldn't be the first time that I've been out of the loop. :p
Girls probably started that. They have more issues with each other having sex than guys do. dating and hanging out with doesn't set in stone that they are fucking. If anything guys want it known that they are in fact getting some. So they would say "Oh yeah, we're dating.....and hitting it, OH RIGHT" Give or take Giggity, Giggity, GiggityQuote:
Originally Posted by Schlep
You'd know if you were dating a girl or just hanging out with her. It's the way she reacts around you, the closeness she has, that look in her eye, all that bullshit. If she is just there, having fun with you, odds are you're just hanging out.
I can go on dates with girls and not be dating them. Usually I assume that when you say you are dating somebody that you are consistently hanging out with them in preperation for what may or may not turn into a serious girlfriend type relationship. Sex really has no play in it, cause that can come in at any time and is often able to exist outside of a relationship experience entirely, which I classify "dating" as.
Gozen has news to believe. You're dating for a little while, then if it continues you've got yourself a girlfriend.
Please keep in mind when you're responding, I know the difference between being close to someone and not being close. That isn't the question. All my exes are in Texas, and there's a lot of them at this point.
The question is "What does dating mean to you?" The options I put above are kind of like the 3 different stages for most people; I'm trying to find out which stage people label "dating."
I appreciate people's desire to help, but that's not what I'm looking for. Mman's is the closest without going over.
I've went out with girls as friends and they describe it to other people as a date. I've had my share of intimate encounters with girls but it rarely got to the point where she became my girlfriend.
When it comes to how women feel towards me, I'm completely oblivious. I just go along with whatever is happening at the moment.
Dating is sex with the pretense of paying attention. #1 is what wimps do because they can't get laid. #2 is dating. #3 is the same as #1, really, except that #1 may be a bit less personal.
I think 'Dating' implies exclusivity. A series of dates. Otherwise your are just hanging out or going on dates. It's kind of that wierd time right after you meet someone, but aren't bold enough to call him/her your gf/bf.
Dating is stupid.Quote:
Originally Posted by Schlep
To crush your enemies, to see them driven before you, and to hear the lamentation of their women.Quote:
Originally Posted by Schlep
"am I dating someone or not?"
Q1- when people see you, do they say "where's ________(name of girl here)?"
Q2- are friday/saturdays spent hanging out implied, or do you have to ask?
Q3- 2 or more calls a day?
Actually... those rules arent bad. Good job.Quote:
Originally Posted by Satsuki
See, I told you a girl would know.
Fucking.
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Originally Posted by Satsuki
That's dating? To me that would fall under definite girlfriend category, not dating. Dating leads up to that.
The only thing I know about dating and girlfriends is that I don't have either. Fuck all of you.
I think having one or two is dating, but all 3 is definitely relationship material.Quote:
Originally Posted by Jetman
Some people make their entire lives relationship/dating centric. Which is pathetic. It's the sex were all after. Nothing more.Quote:
Originally Posted by ChaoofNee
Yeah but sex is better when you actually like the person you're with... so that it doesn't suck when they want to hang around afterwards.
Paddle boating it is!Quote:
Originally Posted by Dragonmaster Dyne
If you go out together and have sex you are "seeing each other"
If you are doing the above plus holding hands, cuddling, that type of shit you are "dating each other"
Its a small difference, but in my mind it exists. I think I just moved from the first to the second within the last week when I was drunk and told her "don't fuck anyone else". Im such a hypocrite though because i've been with two girls besides her in the last couple weeks and I don't think I'll be able to be exclusive any time soon.
How romantic. You should probably put a plastic bag over your head and suffocate yourself. Just for kicks.Quote:
Originally Posted by Kinopio
Oh, and odds are she's probably fucking other people too. So, next time you kiss her remember you're lip-locking with the local gloryhole.
I should commite suicide becuase I'm fucking more than one girl at once? You sound like a moron. Or a jealous loser. I'm not sure which is worse.Quote:
Originally Posted by g0zen
Feel free to pray for my sins.
If I'm just going out on dates with a girl, I call it dating. If i'm fucking a girl, I call it an affair. If I'm fuckin a girl in the ass, it's an affair to remember.
To me it the terminology goes the other way around. Dating = starting off/sex/messing around,etc., Seeing each other = holding hands/cuddly/relationship shit.Ah well, it is interesting to see how people have different takes on this.Quote:
Originally Posted by Kinopio
That's funny that you had to tell her "dont fuck anyone else".Should go w/o saying.But, if you arent exclusive either than the two of you may be a perfect couple.Quote:
Originally Posted by Kinopio
HA - Flux that is rad.Quote:
Originally Posted by flux=rad
That's a stinky generalization. It's not that way, at all.Quote:
Originally Posted by Rocca
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Originally Posted by Kinopio
It's because of shitheads like you that it's hard to find women who don't sleep around on you. You're worse than a moron; you're the typical, everyday, garden variety asshole.
Feel free to lick my brown eye.Quote:
Originally Posted by Kinopio
Wow, I agree with g0zen 100%
And Kinopio, you shouldn't commit suicide because of your promiscuity (is that even a word? heh). I can think of better reasons.
I agree with g0zen too. Kinopio is indeed part of the problem, but then again Ive been saying this for a long time about many different topics. Itll catch up to him, though. Shit like that always does.
I don't think terms really matter much on something like this, do they?
My most recent girlfriend and I were together for half a year or so before things got ugly, and we always referred to it as "dating." Kinda obscure, considering we never did the "go on dates" thing before we got together. Never been much for the whole dating thing, I always ended up with girls by chance, or something like that. I don't know.
Sure makes it hard to figure out where you're going to find the next one, though, when the last one leaves you in the dust. Great.
I don't see how sleeping around w/ other girls makes me an asshole when i'd only been dating the girl for 3 weeks. If she isn't my GF and we haven't had a talk about being exclusive, its fair game. Last year I was in a situation with a girl and the roles were reversed; she was still sleeping with her ex girlfriend for the first month we were dating and I was only sleeping with her. I wasn't pissed at her because we hadn't agreed to be exclusive.Quote:
Originally Posted by g0zen
But I guess others have a different perception when it comes to dating. I think thats the point of this thread: people have different opinions on dating.
I can't even believe you're dignifying their shitty criticisms with a response. It's obvious these fuckers are just jealous cause you're getting more pussy than they ever will.Quote:
Originally Posted by Kinopio
Hmm...Quote:
Originally Posted by Kinopio
You make this too easy.Quote:
Originally Posted by Kinopio
LAWL.Quote:
Originally Posted by flux=rad
I'm with Sats minus the phone calls. I hate talking on phones.
You can screw without dating, and some people can date without screwing. Sex doesn't define dating, so I guess I go for relationship.
Yeah, actually I hate the phone thing myself. I just sort of figure it's like "oh, hey, I really like this guy, I guess I'm going to have to make an effort to talk on the phone and not just screen his calls, blah blah."
I just text message everyone anyway. I plan to one day break up with someone this way, just to see if i can do it.
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You left out the part where I said I was drunk when I said that. Obviously Im not gonna be say something like "listen babe, I was drunk when I said we shouldn't fuck other people. I'd like to talk about this but I'm meeting up with another chick in about 5 minutes."Quote:
Originally Posted by g0zen
I'm resurrecting this fucking thread because it's shit like this I can't handle. I think I actually agreed with gozen in some thread or another, but this ain't it. How in the fuck are you going to come down on a dude for fucking 2 chicks at once? Seriously. Fucking think for a second. Fucking 2 chicks at the same time is fucking awesome. In the god damn yaer 1200 it was awesome as hell. In the fuckin year 8309 B.C., it was expected. How in the fuck do you think you can come down on a dude for that? Women's lib? Nah, fuck that. Having sex with 2 girls just becomes harder, not shittier. Not worthy of admonition. Gozen, we both think that master of 7s is gay. Please come together with me on this. Fucking 2 chicks at once is awesome, not worthy of denunciation.Quote:
Originally Posted by g0zen
Once again, flux proves that he is indeed rad.
seriously
When two people (opposite sex or not) decide that instead of hanging out comfortably in familiar situations while they have their conversations that lead to make out and sometimes even sex sessions, decide that instead of such nonsense, they would much rather go out to a really uncomfortable place, or a movie that neither one wants to see, and waste their time and their money while both mutually pretend to be interested in the situation they have put in front of themselves rather than the fact that they'd both rather just be home masturbating.Quote:
What is dating?
Your welcome.
If some chick was fucking with another guy and you, would you feel the same way? Didn't think so. Also, if you'd actually read his post you'd realize he never fucked two chicks at once.Quote:
Originally Posted by flux=rad
EDIT: What he did was fuck some chick then demand she not fuck somebody else, then turned around and fucked somebody else. That shit is low down and dirty. Fuck'um.
lol, seriously, don't even listen these other guys, you don't have to explain your actions to anyone. This is the old jerk vs nice guy debate. You're not to blame for anything.Quote:
Originally Posted by Kinopio
I don't have a problem with anyone screwing more than one person, as long as all parties are aware of it and are on equal terms. Kinopio telling her to be exclusive is shit, because it's hypocritical. If she can run off and screw three other guys then him and he's okay with that, then no problem. I'm all for monogamy, but if you aren't I'm fine with that. Just play it the same on all sides and don't be retarded (STD/I's shall kill us all, I'm sure.)
What are you, a sensitive mommy's boy? If a girl and I weren't serious I would do the same thing. I would tell her to be exclusive because the only person you can trust to be careful with their sexual acts is you (and a lot of morons can't even do that). I know that I'm going to use protection every time. I don't know that about some girl I just met and whom I banged. I'm not saying I'd go out and start messing around, but I'm not going to deny it if it comes up and I'm available.Quote:
Originally Posted by g0zen
Dating is simply going out with someone you feel could become your girlfriend or boyfriend.
Dating often leads to a relationship which in itself can still warrant many 'dates' although you don't call them that because you are now officially 'together'.
I don't really care for the phone thing myself. 2-3 times a day seems like a bit much! If that's the only way you can converse, then by all means do that.
I have been going out with my girlfriend for about 9 months now and we still go on 'dates' but it's less likely we will call them that because that's usually what you call them before you call each other girlfriend/boyfriend.
what's a fuck buddy?Quote:
Originally Posted by Revoltor
LAWL!!!1
I gotta be honest about the not monogamous thing.
Its never worked for me. It never will. I'm sure there are some people who wanna go out there and do it all. People who fantasize about all this threesome shit. But I've never seen or had nothing but heartache when it comes to this stuff, and quite frankly, if thats what its like on the outside of it, I can't imagine what it gets like on the inside.
Threesomes and multiple parterns are akin to drugs, you do it for the experience, not for the lifestyle.
When you find yourself living that way, well, your just a fucking noncommital loser.
Also someone explain to me why some of the more insightful comments on this in this thread are coming from a 17 year old.
My explanation on the previous page was awesome. Yours is not as awesome.Quote:
Originally Posted by jonas
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Originally Posted by Ballwarts
I hope you are kiddin' :sweat:
Joke account for sure.
Yeah, that seems bad ass to me. It seems like a pretty honest approach to the situation to me. I'm sure every dude in here would do the same thing if he had the balls. I'd fuck girls left and right if I could, and I'd be pissed if they were sleeping around on me. Not that it's rational or fair or anything like that, but that kind of stuff is for crybabies.Quote:
Originally Posted by g0zen
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Originally Posted by g0zen
For response 1 above, correct 2 dudes and one girl would pretty much suck ass.
For response 2, you are either a virgin or an idiot, jury is out on that one.
My advice, go out and get a woman(or two) and then settle the fuck down, take some B100 complex, that will help!
Or you could always ass rape the family :chick:
dude, I need to come down there, and us go out and drink and light some shit on fire. Maybe blow something up too.Quote:
Originally Posted by flux=rad
You need to get out because your'e talking like you haven't been out to do anything in months.
So that really is you in your avatar... Sorry.Quote:
Originally Posted by Ballwarts
Fuck buddy = someone you bang without dishing the bling [typical date crap].
Right.Quote:
Originally Posted by Ballwarts
Oh Ok. I got one of those.
f. buddy -->http://www.the-nextlevel.com/board/a...id=16077&stc=1
Why does your fuck buddy have his arm around that girl?
dude, he's totally fucking Jerry O'Connell.
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Originally Posted by youandwhosearmy
I bet you wear speedos.
I would describe that as seeing someone.Quote:
Originally Posted by Schlep
I'm in a situation now where I was doing just that, then it turned into sex and all that, and despite telling the girl I didn't want a relationship and that I would much rather just stay freinds (and her agreeing that was the best plan) she now considers us 'dating'. I was going to tell her today that the whole thing isn't working for me, but it's her birthday. I'll tell her tomarrow.
God I hate these stupid semantics questions.
1, 2 are dating... 3 may or may not be something more imo
Fuck buddies still ftw.
I like g0zen and his opinions. Does that mean we're dating or just fucking?
Have you ever had a girl say "wrong hole?"
I have. I guess she wanted it in the ass.
Dating is something that strangers do to figure out whether or not they want to fuck each other.
Anyone who can have threesomes with attractive people on a regular basis and not get neurotic about it is the farthest thing there is from a loser. I can only dream of being that secure about myself and my sexuality.Quote:
Originally Posted by youandwhosearmy
I don't know why the hell this was bumped, but it does give me a good opportunity to admit I was wrong on this one.
Bitches ain't nothin but hoes and tricks.
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Originally Posted by Ballwarts
dating...
I'm pretty sure it's hardwired in our DNA to decide whether or not we want to fuck the opposite sex within a few seconds. You don't need to go on a date to figure that out. Dating is to figure out if your prospective partner will make a good long-term BF/GF.Quote:
Originally Posted by kedawa
The poll results don't really interest me that much 2 years later, but I am curious as to what people like to do on dates. I threw up dinner and movies originally because it's the status quo "date". I remember I tried that one time years ago and it was an awkward experience at best, and seems really outdated. Worst advice ever for a date, imo.
dinner and a movie is more appropriate for couples - more specifically movies. Dinner is alright - imo. First dates should be interactive and short. I like bowling during cold months and mini-golf, etc. during warm months. Bottom line - do activities that will involve both people and force some kind of interaction.
Then agian, there is always the "let's just fuck" interaction, which is always more realistic since the whole "dating" thing is just a series of events leading to the horizontal dance.
or if you really like the person, that's a whole 'nother story
What would you put under the "let's just fuck" date? Going to the grocery store and buying food to make back at your place?
1) Dating is going out and grabbing a drink or dinner with someone that you plan on fucking. Dating is casual, and doesn't imply shit. It can, but does not always become...
2) A Relationship. These are when you actually like the person you're fucking. At least at first, then she makes you want to die. Then you go back to number one with someone younger and dumber. Or if you can pull it off...
3) Fuck Buddy. This is someone you can fuck without going out to dinner. They usually won't try to talk to you about shit you don't care about either. These are good to do the kind of fucking that you wouldn't normally have with someone you like. If they ever call you for a reason that has nothing to do with fucking you have to kill them.
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Originally Posted by Schlep
If you got the balls to say, "Let's just fuck" to girl and get her to say "OK" immediately thereafter (without getting hit by her) - you're my hero. I just used that phrase to describe the underlying context of body language that is displayed by two people when they're interested in each other.
I reference Halloween a few years ago when I met a girl at a bar and we hit it off. There was no "date". I was reading her like a book and I acknowledged that we were both very attracted to each other. Later, we wound up making out on the dance floor and after that went to the back of my car for a little extra romance. In that instance, that was an example of the "Let's just fuck" scenario.
See Also: Bullet #3 in Josh's post. That is also a good descrption of the "Let's just fuck" scenario.
I like to go to rock and roll shows. I also enjoy dinner. No movies though... unless its something interesting. I don't go to theaters much.Quote:
Originally Posted by Schlep
For example: Last night my girlfriend and I watched Edward Scissorhands projected on the side of a large multi-story building. It was free, it was a nice night, and nobody gave me the hairy eyeball for bringing a bottle of vodka.
Bowling and mini golf are my favourites. You can get close and you just fuck around. For a first date, anyway. Rock shows (and clubs if she likes them) are fun dates too, but I'm not big into clubbing. Rock shows yes, especially if she's a rock chick. Ever fuck in a bathroom at a rock show?
Other than that, I like dinner and a movie home-style. Cook her dinner and rent a movie, serve booze. Works well.
I can't even remember what dating is like. That's for being married for many years.
Use a flask for God's sake you fucking Neanderthal.Quote:
Originally Posted by Josh
Ok fucking seriously, Stop Necro bumping old posts like this....Quote:
Originally Posted by Pineapple
I don't think it was Pineapple. I asked him about it , and he said he saw the thread and posted in it. Some ass must have voted or something.
Ever since I found the two theaters here in town that also double as a bar I stopped going anywhere else.Quote:
Originally Posted by Josh
It's not that hard man. I do agree that Kinopio was not making any sense. Differenciating "seeing" each other and "dating" each other is just dancing around semantics like a retard. I don't disagree with him going out with more than one person though. He's living the dream.Quote:
Originally Posted by g0zen
EDIT: God damn I didn't realize this fucking thread was so old.
Birthdays, Christmas or Valentine's days are the best times to break it off. Then you don't have to spend time and money pretending to care enough to buy a gift. The boss at my very first job gave me this amazing advice. I had half a mind to hand him my paycheck that week for it.Quote:
Originally Posted by Pineapple
She wouldn't have been able to say anything if you had it in the right hole.Quote:
Originally Posted by Rich
Josh's method of rolling up with a basket full of liquor is heroic, courageous and doesn't try to hide anything. It shows a lot of heart and character to pull this kind of great feat off. You are a coward. I very much dislike agreeing with Josh so much but in this instance he has made all the right decisions. You are wrong.Quote:
Originally Posted by Doc Holliday
Bravo! Well said. I have seen the error of my ways and you sir are correct.Quote:
Originally Posted by Drewbacca
I would also like to say it is nearly 5:00 on Sat morning and I do not know where I am or who's computer I am on...
We all make mistakes. Well, not me, but most of us.
as JC was about to say...Quote:
Originally Posted by BonusKun
this man speaks the truth. plsblv.Quote:
Originally Posted by John Cena
she left for vacation a few days before her birthday, so I had already got something for her. s'arite, I ended it last night. :tu:Quote:
Originally Posted by Drewbacca
Christopher Walken can do no wrong. You guys must be related.Quote:
Originally Posted by Drewbacca
Well most of us don't have to pay for them....Factor that in your google math you're working out to defend yourself.Quote:
Originally Posted by g0zen