So, yeah, I don't post a ton so this is coming out of the blue, but I felt the need to collect thoughts and didn't want to discuss this with anyone I actually know. Hello anonymity of the internet!
I am single and recently moved. Haven't gotten the hang of meeting new people yet but I've got a friend who has a girlfriend who has single girlfriends only one of whom I've met. We didn't even hit it off or anything but another night when I was drunk I told my friend to pass my number on to his girlfriend to hand off to her.
This happened, and it took awhile but eventually we went on a double date with my friend and his girlfriend. It was fun but I've never really felt me and the girl had a lot of potential. Don't think we'd have a ton in common, etc, but she's hot so I've been trying to get her to go on a second date.
That was supposed to happen tonight but she stopped answering her phone so I guess I got stood up, but it wasn't a big deal as we hadn't made too concrete plans. I sent her a joking text about how I took great offense to this and awhile later she sent one back about how she had just found something out and was very scared to get into a relationship.
So my thoughts were two. One; it's just a second date and one that probably wouldn't have gone super well (see above) and hardly a relationship. And two; "something" can't be good.
Well, it wasn't. Turns out she was raped a few months ago and just found out she's pregnent. She texted me that and said if I didn't want to talk to her she'd understand then called me up. I answered even though I had no idea what to say, and then said pretty much nothing.
I offered to pick her up and bring her over to my appartment though if she wanted to talk. She texted me a few minutes later and said no but she would like to tomorrow.
In retrospect my offering was very a good plan as once she saw my supernerdy action-figure filled uncleaned appartment (I have back up decorations I switch to when impressing women. Also I clean) she would decide she's out of my league anyway and that would certainly have taken the pressure off her thinking a relationship was going to happen. Mainly though I really didn't have anything to offer her other than to listen and give her a hug. So I figured I'd offer that.
Now that it's moved to tomorrow I feel like it'd be, like, inappropriate to not clean up.. do I offer food.. also my Mom's planning on coming up so I'd have to blow her off.. I just don't know how to act about it all. I wanted to see her spur of the moment because I can't imagine what she's going through and I just wanted to try to be there for her in my ratty Final Fantasy VII tshirt I was wearing as pajamas and everything else I normally downplay when I'm dating someone. Just honest like. Now I gotta, like, plan for it, and how the fuck do you plan for getting together to talk about something like that.
I'm not bitching, this really is about her, and it's such a horrible thing and I have no idea if or how I can help her. She certainly shouldn't have felt obligated to tell me but she has so...
Bleh. We went on one double date, I barely know the girl. She's close to a stranger and now she's a stranger I feel horrible for and want to help but have no idea how to.
