Just like you blacks to run away from commitmentQuote:
Originally Posted by Yoshi
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Just like you blacks to run away from commitmentQuote:
Originally Posted by Yoshi
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Originally Posted by Biff_Pocoroba
You're married though. What happened?
I'm thinking that her asking me to be faithful for two years while she goes to grad school is a lot to ask. She is going to the closest grad school that she can find (it's in Manhattan) and she'll have to live there if she wants to work and do all that grad school entails. I have a business that's 80 miles away and have a kid that loves me and I have to spend time with. The distance isn't terribly far but given the hours that I work, the commitment to my daughter, etc... it would be nearly impossible to see each other at all and she'll be tied up as well.Quote:
Originally Posted by buttcheeks
To me, taking a break from the relationship for a while and seeing what happens down the road was the answer and I thought it was fair.
She replied with "either we stick together or we don't. I can't see breaking up for two years and magically getting back together".
So, it's her way or the highway and I'm leaning towards the highway.
My misery exists as a warning to others.Quote:
Originally Posted by haohmaru
LAWL,
Living with them is bad enough, trust me. Now you would owe her half of your 360 games and money if she decides to get rid of your ass.
Pre-nub, bitch.
Since any woman I marry will probably make more than I (unless I hit a job at a national newspaper or television newsroom) I have to convince her not to make me sign one.
Not only is it long distance, she's in grad school. Shes going to have NO time for you. I've been through this one, and I felt the same way about my girl - it wasn't worth it in the end, and I broke up with her after 5 months. She's going to have to put school ahead of you alot, you're going to realize she makes more time for her friends than you because they're there whenever she's got time, you're not. You'll get to see her like once a month, and she'll have to cancel some of those meetings.
There's going to be some guy friend she tells you about who you want to stab because he's in the same major, gets to see her all the time, and they've got sooooo much in common.
Basically, you're going to try and suffer to be noble, telling yourself she's worth it, but all it's going to do is twist your guts around and make you feel like she's constantly putting you second or third. Unless you're goiing with her - and paying her rent - bad scene in general.
I'd make jokes, but since I feel I know ya a bit more then most of TNL I'm going to give a serious answer here.Quote:
Originally Posted by haohmaru
When I saw you talking long distance I thought you meant across the country or something. 80 miles isn't really that long of distance. Fuck I drove 30 miles to college every day for a year when I was being a cheap fuck and living off of my parents, and I drive 20 miles a day to work now just so I don't have to live in the shithole town I teach in. You can't tell me you wouldn't be able to get together at least once a month. Obviously you won't be able to see each other as much as now, but that's not a terribly long distance relationship either. It comes down to you figuring out if you really love the girl or not. If you really do love the girl, then give it a try. It may work, it may not, who knows? But don't just cut and run so quick. If you find that you don't really love her then be done with it, this is only something to attempt if you're serious about it.
Reading what you've been saying it sounds to me like you're not really sure. Take some time and try to be sure. You don't want to drag this out if you don't need to, but it may also be a bad call to cut and run so quick too.