I'd only be her friend if I've already hooked up again but I wouldn't go out of my way for it or something.
That period of time after the breakup? No fucking way.
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I'd only be her friend if I've already hooked up again but I wouldn't go out of my way for it or something.
That period of time after the breakup? No fucking way.
Who said anything about moving on? He said he's mad she's not single anymore but he still is. That's pretty much the opposite of moving on. Most people in this thread are saying they'd only be friends if they've found someone new.Quote:
Originally Posted by buttcheeks
I'm saying after the break up you can be mad, upset, depressed, and all that (like I was when she first dumped me), or accept that if it wasn't meant to be it wasn't meant to be and be civil to her. It's a lot easier to be nice to your ex and not let the situation eat you up and mess up your life than it is to stew in it and be miserable all the time.
Maybe you can't do that right away, sure, but at some point you've gotta just deal with it and, well, move on.
I'm friends with an ex. It sucks I do not recommend it.
If you can't handle them while single you still won't be able to when you're with someone, because instead of being regular bitter the remarks will likely instead become a battle of who can one-up the other. If you don't think you can be friends with them then don't even bother trying, just tell them you can't handle it and leave it at that. I've done that before and it worked a lot better then the times I've tried being friends.Quote:
Originally Posted by Jetman
I once had an ex who I tried to be friends with afterwards and she ended up hooking up with another guy a few weeks later. All she wanted to talk to me about was how awesome he was so I told her I didn't want to hear about him and this situation won't work. About a month later she called me just to tell me they broke up (I suspect she wanted attention from me), I told her I didn't care, haven't spoken to her since and it worked out great for me.
It's obviously going to vary from person to person and regarding the situation, so just take it as it comes.
I recommend being friendly with an ex, meaning, if you cross paths, you'll say hello or whatever, but I wouldn't go out of my way to be best friends with her. UF is bursting at the seams with attractive females, so I guess I just don't see a reason not to move on. And this isn't me just spouting off, my girlfriend and I broke up just earlier this week. We dated for almost 2 years. If I kept talking to her, it would just keep reminding me of the good times, etc., and that makes the recovery a lot more difficult.
I'm friends with only one ex. Every other one hates me because I broke up with them. Whatever, she's cool and whenever she's single she gives me head with no strings attached.
I agree with tones. A good question is, why do you want to be friends with your ex? For me that situation was easy to avoid because a) at least one of us didn't want to be with the other and b)totally separate friend circles and hometowns. It's pretty clear you can't handle it (or at least this one) so why put yourself through that shit. Cut out the stress in your life whenever you can.Quote:
Originally Posted by Tones
That fucking rules.Quote:
Originally Posted by Razor Ramon
Jetman is letting the prospect of pussy with an ex cloud his
judgement.
Razor Ramon wins TNL.Quote:
Originally Posted by Razor Ramon
If a breakup is is amicable you both wanted out, then there's no reason not to remain friends.
If you're just waiting for the other person to change in some way, or if you don't really want to break up, then you shouldn't try to remain friends.