Possible to be just friends with an Ex?

So, yeah,like the topic says, I've never been able to do it. Im making an attempt currently because my ex is a really nice girl, good to talk to,and is extremely pretty, good kisser,etc. She's awesome.But, from the luxury of just being friends I have to put up hearing about her and her current. Like gushy shit I dont want to hear. And then ,I remember that is usually the main reason why I dont talk to ex's.

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Like today, I was hanging with an ex and her female friend. Her friend asked her when was the first time she was ever kissed, a real kiss (kiddie high school shit,right?). She said about 2 months ago when she met her current (said in a not jokingly manner).She gushes about this fag way too much, for having known him for so short a period. I said something along those lines and how I think shes more in love with the prospect of leaving town and starting new ( as shes moving in with this guy to a different town shortly as she hates this place) then she is with the guy himself. "2 months? LOL " is how the rest of that conversation went.

I dont know, maybe im just projecting my bitter "singleness" on her. Like being mad that she's happy with someone and Im currently not.I always said the best revenge on an ex-girlfriend is for her to see me living a good life without her. we didnt break up badly. It just didnt work. That happens.

I came to the conclusion that its only possible to be just freinds with an ex if you personally have a current. And even then its a grey area because the current will be suspicious.

How about you guys? Have ex's for just friends? Am I the only one who gets assholery and tells off my ex's when they bait me?

I think it's really easy. I don't usually hold much resentment about things in the past that I can't control so it's all up to them. I know a lot of people who have issues with this though so you're definitely not the first person to be stuck on the fence.

Edit: After reading your initial post I'd say it's you. You get defensive and let your emotions be controlled by circumstances you no longer have any control over. Not a bad thing (I personally consider it a weakness), but I don't see how you could possibly be good friends with a girl when you jump on them for talking about guys. I also find it weird that girls talk openly about that stuff with you right there. Most guys who have that done to them are stuck permanently in the non-sexual threat / friendzone. That kiss comment sounded like a deliberate bait on their behalf. You should've used the kiss comment to spin it around on them and flirt with the other girl.

A. I don't know if it is possible, but I will say it isn't worth it, assuming she isn't a billionare who buys you cars everyday for being her best bud.

B: she is a bitch

C: quit being emo, forget this girl, and GO FUCK YOU SOME WOMENZ!

It depends on wether or not you still want to fuck her.

Unless she's in the business of hooking you up with her friends, or coming out with you to bars, it's really not worth it.

I'm friends with most of my ex's. You guys front horribly.

I said the same thing you did you bastard.

Don't talk to them for at least two years. When you don't care about her anymore and when nothing she says can do anything to you, you can be friends.

You're being a jealous pussy. If one of your male friends fell in love with some girl after only a couple of months, would you similarly flip your bitch switch about how that's too soon?

My girlfriend of 1.5 years dumped me right after Christmas. I'm friends with her, why not? Why let all that emotional crap run your life? It's just pointless. If you have a lot of expectations out of people you're just going to be perpetually disappointed. Accept that people are selfish by nature and everything's much easier, like being friends with an ex.

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Originally Posted by torgo

My girlfriend of 1.5 years dumped me right after Christmas. I'm friends with her, why not? Why let all that emotional crap run your life? It's just pointless. If you have a lot of expectations out of people you're just going to be perpetually disappointed. Accept that people are selfish by nature and everything's much easier, like being friends with an ex.

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I don't see how moving on would be "emotional crap runing your life."

I'd only be her friend if I've already hooked up again but I wouldn't go out of my way for it or something.

That period of time after the breakup? No fucking way.

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Originally Posted by buttcheeks

I don't see how moving on would be "emotional crap runing your life."

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Who said anything about moving on? He said he's mad she's not single anymore but he still is. That's pretty much the opposite of moving on. Most people in this thread are saying they'd only be friends if they've found someone new.

I'm saying after the break up you can be mad, upset, depressed, and all that (like I was when she first dumped me), or accept that if it wasn't meant to be it wasn't meant to be and be civil to her. It's a lot easier to be nice to your ex and not let the situation eat you up and mess up your life than it is to stew in it and be miserable all the time.

Maybe you can't do that right away, sure, but at some point you've gotta just deal with it and, well, move on.

I'm friends with an ex. It sucks I do not recommend it.

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Originally Posted by Jetman

I came to the conclusion that its only possible to be just freinds with an ex if you personally have a current.

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If you can't handle them while single you still won't be able to when you're with someone, because instead of being regular bitter the remarks will likely instead become a battle of who can one-up the other. If you don't think you can be friends with them then don't even bother trying, just tell them you can't handle it and leave it at that. I've done that before and it worked a lot better then the times I've tried being friends.

I once had an ex who I tried to be friends with afterwards and she ended up hooking up with another guy a few weeks later. All she wanted to talk to me about was how awesome he was so I told her I didn't want to hear about him and this situation won't work. About a month later she called me just to tell me they broke up (I suspect she wanted attention from me), I told her I didn't care, haven't spoken to her since and it worked out great for me.

It's obviously going to vary from person to person and regarding the situation, so just take it as it comes.

I recommend being friendly with an ex, meaning, if you cross paths, you'll say hello or whatever, but I wouldn't go out of my way to be best friends with her. UF is bursting at the seams with attractive females, so I guess I just don't see a reason not to move on. And this isn't me just spouting off, my girlfriend and I broke up just earlier this week. We dated for almost 2 years. If I kept talking to her, it would just keep reminding me of the good times, etc., and that makes the recovery a lot more difficult.

I'm friends with only one ex. Every other one hates me because I broke up with them. Whatever, she's cool and whenever she's single she gives me head with no strings attached.

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Originally Posted by Tones

I recommend being friendly with an ex, meaning, if you cross paths, you'll say hello or whatever, but I wouldn't go out of my way to be best friends with her. UF is bursting at the seams with attractive females, so I guess I just don't see a reason not to move on. And this isn't me just spouting off, my girlfriend and I broke up just earlier this week. We dated for almost 2 years. If I kept talking to her, it would just keep reminding me of the good times, etc., and that makes the recovery a lot more difficult.

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I agree with tones. A good question is, why do you want to be friends with your ex? For me that situation was easy to avoid because a) at least one of us didn't want to be with the other and b)totally separate friend circles and hometowns. It's pretty clear you can't handle it (or at least this one) so why put yourself through that shit. Cut out the stress in your life whenever you can.

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Originally Posted by Razor Ramon

I'm friends with only one ex. Every other one hates me because I broke up with them. Whatever, she's cool and whenever she's single she gives me head with no strings attached.

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That fucking rules.

Jetman is letting the prospect of pussy with an ex cloud his
judgement.

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Originally Posted by Razor Ramon

I'm friends with only one ex. Every other one hates me because I broke up with them. Whatever, she's cool and whenever she's single she gives me head with no strings attached.

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Razor Ramon wins TNL.

If a breakup is is amicable you both wanted out, then there's no reason not to remain friends.
If you're just waiting for the other person to change in some way, or if you don't really want to break up, then you shouldn't try to remain friends.

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Originally Posted by Andrew

Edit: After reading your initial post I'd say it's you. You get defensive and let your emotions be controlled by circumstances you no longer have any control over. Not a bad thing (I personally consider it a weakness), but I don't see how you could possibly be good friends with a girl when you jump on them for talking about guys. I also find it weird that girls talk openly about that stuff with you right there. Most guys who have that done to them are stuck permanently in the non-sexual threat / friendzone. That kiss comment sounded like a deliberate bait on their behalf. You should've used the kiss comment to spin it around on them and flirt with the other girl.

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It was a bait. Thats what pissed me off. Or she could have just gave a normal answer without trying to insult me. Like, "I had my first kiss at 14, tee-hee". Otherwise, I would have generally had no problem with her talking about him (But when she goes on and on about the dude it does make me nauseus - but women drone like that).And I dont mind being in friendzone with her.

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Originally Posted by Stibbons

You're being a jealous pussy. If one of your male friends fell in love with some girl after only a couple of months, would you similarly flip your bitch switch about how that's too soon?

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I will rip on ANY male friend who says he loves a woman after two months. Incessantly. Especially one that says over and over how much in love he is. I never use that "L" word lightly if ever.

The two year thing might be a good rule btw....

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Originally Posted by torgo

My girlfriend of 1.5 years dumped me right after Christmas. I'm friends with her, why not? Why let all that emotional crap run your life? It's just pointless. If you have a lot of expectations out of people you're just going to be perpetually disappointed. Accept that people are selfish by nature and everything's much easier, like being friends with an ex.

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Sorry about the break-up by the way.1 year has been my max on a relationship. Lame that she did it after Christmas. Hope you got an awesome gift before it happened.

Love isn't real. It's about time everyone realized it.

What the fuck, do you not have other friends? This girl is clearly an idiot if she's whining about being in love with some dude she just basically met, so the whole (flimsy at best) "I like her as a person" shit is out the window. Plus it's just fucking disrespectful for her to flaunt the shit in your face regardless of how OK you are with it, which frankly, you don't sound like you are.

Ditch her. Either she'll get all rattled and put out or she'll leave you alone. Preferably both.

And if you're tired of being single, date somebody. Hanging out with your ex isn't gonna get you anywhere. Even if you're not the bitch here, you sure look the part.

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Originally Posted by icarusfall

I'm friends with most of my ex's. You guys front horribly.

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I'm friendly with most of my exes. There's a huge difference.

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Originally Posted by MechDeus

If you can't handle them while single you still won't be able to when you're with someone, because instead of being regular bitter the remarks will likely instead become a battle of who can one-up the other. If you don't think you can be friends with them then don't even bother trying, just tell them you can't handle it and leave it at that. I've done that before and it worked a lot better then the times I've tried being friends.

I once had an ex who I tried to be friends with afterwards and she ended up hooking up with another guy a few weeks later. All she wanted to talk to me about was how awesome he was so I told her I didn't want to hear about him and this situation won't work. About a month later she called me just to tell me they broke up (I suspect she wanted attention from me), I told her I didn't care, haven't spoken to her since and it worked out great for me.

It's obviously going to vary from person to person and regarding the situation, so just take it as it comes.

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Ugh, feel like an ass. I really do want her to be happy. But not rub it in my face, you know?

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Originally Posted by Tones

I recommend being friendly with an ex, meaning, if you cross paths, you'll say hello or whatever, but I wouldn't go out of my way to be best friends with her. UF is bursting at the seams with attractive females, so I guess I just don't see a reason not to move on. And this isn't me just spouting off, my girlfriend and I broke up just earlier this week. We dated for almost 2 years. If I kept talking to her, it would just keep reminding me of the good times, etc., and that makes the recovery a lot more difficult.

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Truth. Gainesville has some babes. Sorry btw man. Two years is way longer than I've ever been hooked to someone.

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Originally Posted by Rumpy

I agree with tones. A good question is, why do you want to be friends with your ex? For me that situation was easy to avoid because a) at least one of us didn't want to be with the other and b)totally separate friend circles and hometowns. It's pretty clear you can't handle it (or at least this one) so why put yourself through that shit. Cut out the stress in your life whenever you can.

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You're right. And I was being friendly because she was, and figured I'd be mature about it and try to do the friend with an ex thing once in my life at least once and try to make it work.

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Originally Posted by burgundy

What the fuck, do you not have other friends? This girl is clearly an idiot if she's whining about being in love with some dude she just basically met, so the whole (flimsy at best) "I like her as a person" shit is out the window. Plus it's just fucking disrespectful for her to flaunt the shit in your face regardless of how OK you are with it, which frankly, you don't sound like you are.

Ditch her. Either she'll get all rattled and put out or she'll leave you alone. Preferably both.

And if you're tired of being single, date somebody. Hanging out with your ex isn't gonna get you anywhere. Even if you're not the bitch here, you sure look the part.

I'm friendly with most of my exes. There's a huge difference.

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haha, I knew if anyone could lay the deal down it was Burg. And thats what I am worried about is playing the part of bitch.

If her relationship is really bothering you it's just not worth it. If she starts jabbering about how in love she is, and you (justifiably) get pissed because she's stupid, not because you're jealous, you'll STILL be perceived as jealous, because her brain is going to interpret your behavior as evidence of your jealousy and NOT her stupidity. And if you're jealous, mission accomplished. No need to spread the legs.

The only way you win here is if you act like you don't give a fuck, and unless you're a budding DeNiro, the only way you're acting like you don't give a fuck is if you don't give a fuck.

My advice? Bang some chick before you head out to meet her.

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DISCLAIMER: I'm not fronting that I would always do exactly what I advise other guys (or girls, a lot of relationship advice is unisex)...and I absolutely have not always done this in the past. Nor am I saying this is always easy. (Although finding some random chick to bang is.) I'm just saying this is what you SHOULD do...and what people have told me in the past when I was being a blatant or even borderline pussy, and should I wind up in a vulnerable situation in the future, what I hope people would tell me again.

When I met Burg he was a pussy. Junior is all grown up now.

Thanks Burg. Sound advice and duly noted.

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Originally Posted by Josh

When I met Burg he was a pussy. Junior is all grown up now.

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Hey, I was stellar except for like three shitty days.

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Originally Posted by Jetman

Thanks Burg. Sound advice and duly noted.

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Beer is delicious but it's not that delicious.

Attention : girls :: sex : guys

If you give her the attention for free, she doesn't need to put out. Just like how sluts don't get boyfriends.

I mean, it's theoretically possible she's diabolical, but she'd probably be flirting with you and not gushing about him. She wants the attention. Not only is it not worth the effort, but effort is completely counterproductive. She needs to make the effort to get what she wants.

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Originally Posted by burgundy

If her relationship is really bothering you it's just not worth it. If she starts jabbering about how in love she is, and you (justifiably) get pissed because she's stupid, not because you're jealous, you'll STILL be perceived as jealous, because her brain is going to interpret your behavior as evidence of your jealousy and NOT her stupidity. And if you're jealous, mission accomplished. No need to spread the legs.

The only way you win here is if you act like you don't give a fuck, and unless you're a budding DeNiro, the only way you're acting like you don't give a fuck is if you don't give a fuck.

My advice? Bang some chick before you head out to meet her.

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DISCLAIMER: I'm not fronting that I would always do exactly what I advise other guys (or girls, a lot of relationship advice is unisex)...and I absolutely have not always done this in the past. Nor am I saying this is always easy. (Although finding some random chick to bang is.) I'm just saying this is what you SHOULD do...and what people have told me in the past when I was being a blatant or even borderline pussy, and should I wind up in a vulnerable situation in the future, what I hope people would tell me again.

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Yes to all of the above.

If you can't carry yourself around her with dignity, you need to cut your losses and get the fuck away. If you're still hung up on her, you will inevitably walk away miserable every time. Don't torture yourself, and don't give her what she wants.

I'd only consider one ex a friend, and we only really started talking again after two years. If you legitimately want to be friends with her and are not just desperately searching for an in to fuck her again, two years is a pretty good time frame. You'll fuck other people, you'll have plenty of time to get her out of your system, and it'll seem ridiculous that you got so bent out of shape. Always does.

And yeah,Grave, that two year rule is looking better and better,

You don't seem happy and she seems like a bitch. Why are you doing this?

I mean, I'm friends with the recent ex, who ended up dating a friend of mine after all was said and done.

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Originally Posted by Jetman

Im thinking, I should go out drinking with the roommates and not answer my phone when she calls.

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Are you an alcoholic? Can you only turn down free beer with other beer?

PROTIP: When the phone rings, you don't have to answer it. No matter what you're doing, or even if you're doing nothing. Or you could just be decent and call her to cancel.

I mean, do what you want, but basically, the underlying issue is that you're overthinking everything. The more you act like every act is a crucial move in this game of get in the pants again, the less you win.

I'm going out with my first and only gf. She broke up with me after we went out for 2 months in 2005. I hung around her friends and the same area she did at school. She got with a guy (one of my ex friends) but he broke up with her. Towards the end of the year/start of 2006, we hooked up a long until we made it official. We just picked a random day and said that was our day. Currently we've been going out for 7 months.

In my experience, you usually stay friends with an ex because you're still not over her and you're hoping that it'll work out again. If that's the case, you got to be patient and keep calm whenever she mentions another guy (her bf or whatever). Then, maybe one day it'll work again.

If you just want to stay friends, good luck. You're going to get annoyed a lot whenever she mentions any other guy. If you can handle that, then by all means stay friends with her. Just don't let it get to you.

Or you could find someone else to be friends with or to offer you vagina. Just saying.

The nice thing about vaginas is that every girl has one. Not coincidentally, the nice thing about girls is that every one has a vagina.

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Originally Posted by burgundy

Are you an alcoholic? Can you only turn down free beer with other beer?

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.....I'm thinking....could I get back to you on this one? Seems like a trick question,

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Originally Posted by burgundy

I mean, do what you want, but basically, the underlying issue is that you're overthinking everything. The more you act like every act is a crucial move in this game of get in the pants again, the less you win.

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Its not even that. I just need to come to terms with the fact that some ex girlfriends may make good friends and others just dont. I have other girls for friends and pussy doesnt always have to be a prospect, I just enjoy hanging out with them. I was just curious to see if other TNL'ers had just cut off ex's completely or what, as thats what I used to do, and looks like I made a mistake in changing my habits.

I ran into one of my exes today at school and it TERRIFIED me. I'd never run into an ex so abruptly before. Friends? ha. At least, not with that one.

however, i can see being friendly-ish with some exes. Depends on them, really. For instance, did you dump them because they are a complete loser? If so, you probably don't need complete losers in your life as friends.

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Originally Posted by aren

I'm going out with my first and only gf. She broke up with me after we went out for 2 months in 2005. I hung around her friends and the same area she did at school. She got with a guy (one of my ex friends) but he broke up with her. Towards the end of the year/start of 2006, we hooked up a long until we made it official. We just picked a random day and said that was our day. Currently we've been going out for 7 months.

In my experience, you usually stay friends with an ex because you're still not over her and you're hoping that it'll work out again. If that's the case, you got to be patient and keep calm whenever she mentions another guy (her bf or whatever). Then, maybe one day it'll work again.

If you just want to stay friends, good luck. You're going to get annoyed a lot whenever she mentions any other guy. If you can handle that, then by all means stay friends with her. Just don't let it get to you.

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Was she impressed when you crashed her car?


In my opinion Jetman you should back off for awhile, it seems like you're still a little torn-up and you and I have talked about both of our experiences with girls when it comes to that. It's no big deal to be torn up, you can't exactly will yourself to get over somebody, but you can stay away from them and do your best to keep them off your mind.

I'm friends with an ex or two but not really from any significant relationships and things were a little awkward immediatly there after.

You have already lost. If you're going in even thinking a little bit like this she's already won. Burg is right, she knows what she's got, she knows you want it, and she's stringing you along. For you right now, it's not possible for a positive outcome if you hang out with her right now. You'll either knock boots and see her as weekend pussy, or she doesn't give it up and you get bitter.

Find something else for you to do.

For what it's worth I'm alright with people I've dated before, because I'm a grownup, you pussies.

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Originally Posted by Jetman

Sorry about the break-up by the way.1 year has been my max on a relationship. Lame that she did it after Christmas. Hope you got an awesome gift before it happened.

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Haha, she got me a Wii (and paid an obscene amount of money for it). Awesome gift? I guess that's debatable :)

(I'm making fun of the Wii, not the gift. I really appreciated her going to that length to get me it)

Why would you ever want to be friends with a woman you are no longer trying to sleep with?

I've remained friends with ex's before, but only because I wanted to fuck them. But I want to fuck pretty much every girl I'm friends with, so that's not saying much.

You should ignore her.

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Originally Posted by Satsuki

I ran into one of my exes today at school and it TERRIFIED me. I'd never run into an ex so abruptly before. Friends? ha. At least, not with that one.

however, i can see being friendly-ish with some exes. Depends on them, really. For instance, did you dump them because they are a complete loser? If so, you probably don't need complete losers in your life as friends.

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Yeah, I think it depends on the ex. We split just due to differences.

Sounds like you had a former stalker or something though. Especially being TERRIFIED? I've had a couple of inoppurtune times of having ex's show up at parties when Im with my current. Those are always awkward and slightly embarrasing. especially if the ex let herself go. "Did you date HER?"

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Originally Posted by Gohron

In my opinion Jetman you should back off for awhile, it seems like you're still a little torn-up and you and I have talked about both of our experiences with girls when it comes to that. It's no big deal to be torn up, you can't exactly will yourself to get over somebody, but you can stay away from them and do your best to keep them off your mind.

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I dont know,man. I was bummed the first couple of weeks, obviously when it went down, but Ive been ready to move on.

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Originally Posted by chux

You have already lost. If you're going in even thinking a little bit like this she's already won. Burg is right, she knows what she's got, she knows you want it, and she's stringing you along. For you right now, it's not possible for a positive outcome if you hang out with her right now. You'll either knock boots and see her as weekend pussy, or she doesn't give it up and you get bitter.

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Guess for me it still remains true that I cant be friends with an ex.

Yes and No.

Yes if...

A) The breakup wasn't so bad
B) You both realized it wasn't really working
C) There are no cheating stories that you'll find out about down the road

No if...

A) You hated each other before the end.
B) Your tolerance for hearing about the sexual escapades of an ex is worse than your tolerance for hearing about the sexual escapades of a girl you have a crush on
C) You have a problem with diminished chances to spend time alone or reminiscing, because the second either of you are dating those opportunities will all but vanish.
D) Your current fling doesn't hate her.

I'd love to see how Super Hot Jetman's EX is still?

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Originally Posted by Korian

I'd love to see how Super Hot Jetman's EX is still?

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Very

You can be friends, but there has to be some no-contact time and you have to bang out a few other people before that will happen. I'm friends with most of my ex's, but it took some time. In my experience, knocking boots occasionally down the line is also common.

If she's baiting you like that she's not trying to be friends, she just wants to know you care enough that she can get a rise out of you.

The only way I could see hanging out with her (right now at least) working for you is by going to that bar with her, and then proceeding to succesfully hook up with another female. If she genuinely wants to be friends, problem solved. If not, she'll get riled and end her shennanigans with a quickness and you'll be bumping uglies with her by week's end if you so choose.

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Originally Posted by Jetman

Very

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Verily? Forsooth.

I don't know what any of my exes are doing, where they are at, if they are dating again, what age they are, and I can't even remember some of their names.

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Originally Posted by Jetman

Sounds like you had a former stalker or something though. Especially being TERRIFIED? I've had a couple of inoppurtune times of having ex's show up at parties when Im with my current. Those are always awkward and slightly embarrasing. especially if the ex let herself go. "Did you date HER?"

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I do have more than enough stalkers to spare, but no, this wasn't especially a stalker. I was just a bit unnerved because I heard through a reliable source that he moved out of state, so I was like "whew, don't have to worry about that akwardness anymore." So to see him at school, MY school, was very unnerving. Surprising, really. Obviously he is not out of state.
Also he got really ugly and grew his hair out and looks like a homeless fellow.

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Originally Posted by Satsuki

I do have more than enough stalkers to spare, but no, this wasn't especially a stalker. I was just a bit unnerved because I heard through a reliable source that he moved out of state, so I was like "whew, don't have to worry about that akwardness anymore." So to see him at school, MY school, was very unnerving. Surprising, really. Obviously he is not out of state.
Also he got really ugly and grew his hair out and looks like a homeless fellow.

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Ahh, haha, sounds like you were in a similar state as me and afraid of being embarrased by the guy and his loserly-ness.The key is to not make eye contact. Like an Ostrich. Just avoid it at all costs. If they remember you're name though, you have to improvise...

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Originally Posted by Jetman

All I need it TNL's crew to see her online sometime and be all , "Oh, Shit," lol " You're Jetman's girlfriend from that thread on TNL.com!@1 who isn't as hot as I fronted".

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Originally Posted by Jetman

Ahh, haha, sounds like you were in a similar state as me and afraid of being embarrased by the guy and his loserly-ness.The key is to not make eye contact. Like an Ostrich. Just avoid it at all costs. If they remember you're name though, you have to improvise...

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ugh, I wish. It was COMPLETELY unavoidable. Like, small sidewalk, walking toward you, no escape sort of thing. He smiled at me and said "hi" and I said "what are you doing here? (I meant as in what are you doing in California, you fucking douchebag)" and he said "I'm going home" and I said "oh" and walked away.

so. Now school is full of traps, traps and exes.

That was the most meaningless anecdote in the history of TNL.

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Originally Posted by Satsuki

ugh, I wish. It was COMPLETELY unavoidable. Like, small sidewalk, walking toward you, no escape sort of thing. He smiled at me and said "hi" and I said "what are you doing here? (I meant as in what are you doing in California, you fucking douchebag)" and he said "I'm going home" and I said "oh" and walked away.

so. Now school is full of traps, traps and exes.

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At least you didnt give him an inch though. If he doesnt want to look like a chode and embarrass himself he'll just walk the other way and wont look up the next time he sees you.

Facebook will cure all of your problems.

1. Send me a link to hers, so I can deny/confirm her hotness.

2. Revoke her friendship, and make your profile friends only. Game over.

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Originally Posted by burgundy

That was the most meaningless anecdote in the history of TNL.

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I know. Forgive me?

You'll have to earn it.

Actually, it was only meaningless if you randomly ran into the guy, which is what I assumed. If the guy actually sought you out (and who wouldn't! <3) then it was actually story-worthy.

I have an interesting twist to add to this thread: I met this friend of a friend who happened to be a girl, and we both hit it off great. We have been hanging out a lot, because we get along so well. Anyhow, this girl isn't much of a looker, and so I've been hanging out with her a lot purely as friends. Slowly though, I find myself growing more and more attracted to her, and I can tell she's feeling the same. I have no desire to be in a relationship, and I know this girl is not very attractive, yet I can't help but find myself being slowly drawn to her. What do I do?

Doesn't sound like anythinga paper bag or total darkness can't fix. It's that simple.

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Originally Posted by napalm

I have an interesting twist to add to this thread: I met this friend of a friend who happened to be a girl, and we both hit it off great. We have been hanging out a lot, because we get along so well. Anyhow, this girl isn't much of a looker, and so I've been hanging out with her a lot purely as friends. Slowly though, I find myself growing more and more attracted to her, and I can tell she's feeling the same. I have no desire to be in a relationship, and I know this girl is not very attractive, yet I can't help but find myself being slowly drawn to her. What do I do?

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You use her for sex.

I haven't read this whole thread, but a few of my thoughts...

I notice you commented on her being hot as one of the reasons you still want to be friends. There ya go. You dated her, in part, because she was hot. If she picked up a crack habit and you saw her again looking all busted, you probably wouldn't want to be friends with her at all. Ladder Theory? You might want to fuck her again sometime? Me thinks so. Deny it all you want but it's the goddamn truth.

Guess what? It very rarely works out that ex's can be friends. There are always resentments of some sort, even if the relationship ended amicably. Admit it to yourself that the only reason you, me, or any other guy wants to stay friends with an ex is because you want to be in good standing should the pussy become available again. The only exception is if the girl is REALLY cool, but gets fat or otherwise loses her attractiveness in your eyes. You can then proceed to care about what she thinks rather than staring at her tits and ass everytime you see each other.

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I have no desire to be in a relationship, and I know this girl is not very attractive, yet I can't help but find myself being slowly drawn to her. What do I do?

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Admit that you are a fag and proceed accordingly.

I will cite step 1 of the 12 step program;

Step 1: Admitted to ourselves that we were powerless over the desire for cock; that our living the lie of ourselves being a heterosexual had become unmanageable.

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Originally Posted by Mykozo

I haven't read this whole thread, but a few of my thoughts...

I notice you commented on her being hot as one of the reasons you still want to be friends. There ya go. You dated her, in part, because she was hot. If she picked up a crack habit and you saw her again looking all busted, you probably wouldn't want to be friends with her at all. Ladder Theory? You might want to fuck her again sometime? Me thinks so. Deny it all you want but it's the goddamn truth.

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Well, yeah, but we actually formed somewhat of a connection when we were together. I had a close member of my family die post us breaking up, and she was there to talk me through it. Like a friend should. And I didnt really want to talk about it or tell it to anyone else.But she was there and listened.I think if she was busted out, I would still be friends with her. Seriously.I'm superficial at times, but a friend is a friend no matter what they look like.

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Guess what? It very rarely works out that ex's can be friends. There are always resentments of some sort, even if the relationship ended amicably. Admit it to yourself that the only reason you, me, or any other guy wants to stay friends with an ex is because you want to be in good standing should the pussy become available again. The only exception is if the girl is REALLY cool, but gets fat or otherwise loses her attractiveness in your eyes. You can then proceed to care about what she thinks rather than staring at her tits and ass everytime you see each other.

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Im beginning to believe this is true. I think if I want to be just friends, I need to find a new girlfriend just as hot if not hotter.If the friendship still lasts through that then I may be in the clear...

I am great friends with one of my exes.

And I'm a real bastard, so if I can do it, its possible.

Note that I said rarely. And you sure are a bastard. But so am I that is why I <3 Josh. I see him as a father figure of sorts on how to be the biggest asshole imaginable.

Lets play some music, fucker.

Suck my dick

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I'm friends with most of my ex's. You guys front horribly.

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word.

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Originally Posted by dementia_

I'm friends with an ex. It sucks I do not recommend it.

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same

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Suck my dick

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LOL

Sorry, I was in shitty mood last night and I needed a target. You just happened to be the unlucky sap that got nailed.

I <3 you napalm. I <3 you alot.

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Originally Posted by Satsuki

ugh, I wish. It was COMPLETELY unavoidable. Like, small sidewalk, walking toward you, no escape sort of thing. He smiled at me and said "hi" and I said "what are you doing here? (I meant as in what are you doing in California, you fucking douchebag)" and he said "I'm going home" and I said "oh" and walked away.

so. Now school is full of traps, traps and exes.

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Fleeing is really fun. Good exercise too.

The feeling is mutual

Fags.

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Suck my dick

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I refuse to be friends with my ex. Simple as that.

The answer is no, unless you never gave a shit about her.