I Am Losing My Best Friend

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Originally Posted by The Gas

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:lol:

I fell in love, got my shit wrecked by a girl that in the end was just slime.

I swear I'm so happy with my current girl because she's so mellow. She's playing the wii right now and I'm taking care of my shit. However, it's time to go to the wedding :(

I agree with Calliander.

If you want my honest opinion, what I would do in this situation? Write up a list of everything that's wrong with this woman, and why, and when the preacher asks if anyone have any objections, list them.

Both families may hate you (Though probably just the wife's family) But I'd rather do everything I can to save this person even if it meant ostracizing myself from his life.

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Originally Posted by Thief Silver

If you want my honest opinion, what I would do in this situation? Write up a list of everything that's wrong with this woman, and why, and when the preacher asks if anyone have any objections, list them.

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Make sure to get a tape of that and put it on youtube. You will be instantly famous, get invited to Oprah and then write a book and a movie deal is not far behind.

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Originally Posted by Thief Silver

If you want my honest opinion, what I would do in this situation? Write up a list of everything that's wrong with this woman, and why, and when the preacher asks if anyone have any objections, list them.

Both families may hate you (Though probably just the wife's family) But I'd rather do everything I can to save this person even if it meant ostracizing myself from his life.

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I sooooo agree with this course of action.

If you do this, you will get my vote for TNL Person of the Year.

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Originally Posted by Calliander

Up until September of this year I hated weddings, thought they were the dumbest ideas ever, never cared at all about whether I got married or not (actually, I was vehemently against it, probably drove SapphirePhoenix nuts bitching about it). Then, I attended my best friend's wedding in the aforementioned month.

Wedding Pics / Reception Pics

Never seen two people more perfect for one another. Yeah, they look weird or whatever but who cares? I have literally never seen him so happy before, nor have I ever seen him be so motivated about anything. They make one another happy.

So the wedding story... He invited this girl he chased ALL through college to the wedding because they became really good friends after they realized a relationship wasn't the best course. I met up with her at the Starbucks so she could follow me to the wedding and she looked ridiculously hot. A few drinks into the wedding reception, I was dancing with her and stuff. I went inside to enjoy the air conditioning and she went with me. We fooled around on the couch (some pinot noir helped out, too) but didn't want to crash the wedding so we waited until after the festivities. Best fucking sex ever.

And that's the girl I'm with now. Heh.

All that said, Cow... prenup? I'll bet the answer is no. That marriage will not last at all. Even the lazy mofos like your buddy will realize that there are better women out there. Also, nothing wrong with small breasts.

EDIT: I just realized there's a picture of SpoDaddy in that second set. I look like SHIT in that pic! WOW.

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This is the problem, though. You're posting from the perspective of an outsider to a new marriage. Wait a couple of years and see how much his life has changed for the worse (or maybe the better if he's a lucky guy) before writing this marriage down as a success.

The fact of the matter is that marriage does more harm than good to a man, on average. There is a time and place for marriage, but that time is ESPECIALLY not when you're young. Your supposed to be out in the world trying to earn money and gain some kind of substance to your life. Nesting can wait, since you can do that any time.

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Originally Posted by Melf

I'm seeing so many people here treating marriage like it has to be some kind of business proposition, with all this bullshit talk of assets and financial risk. You're dealing with a human being, not some property or stock option. If you're so convinced that marriage = divorce and financial ruin then just stay single and fuck bitches like mad. There's nothing wrong with deciding to not be married, and while society does put a lot of stupid and unnecessary pressure on young people in this regard, no one's putting a gun to your head (unless you got her pregnant. :p ).

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Marriage IS a business decision. You can love somebody without marrying them, and even raise loved children without marrying them. Don't go in to a marriage blind about money or you'll be rudely awakened one day. You're absolutely right about Gooch's hilarious assessment of a woman's value -- they have more going for them than looks. But as a whole women are socially irresponsible with their money, typically hoping a man they marry will bail them out of debt. Not to mention the cost of most marriages most women desire is enough to start off any marriage in financial hardship.

You have to really be careful. Loving someone does not mean putting all your eggs in one very brittle basket. Anybody who would ask you to do that isn't exactly thinking about you that much in the first place.

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Originally Posted by Drewbacca

This is the problem, though. You're posting from the perspective of an outsider to a new marriage. Wait a couple of years and see how much his life has changed for the worse (or maybe the better if he's a lucky guy) before writing this marriage down as a success.

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Which I normally agree 100% with. Knowing my buddy, though, and knowing this girl he married real well already (there was almost no breakin period, she just fell right in with us as though we'd all been friends from day one), I can tell he won't just give up if things get bad and neither will she.

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The fact of the matter is that marriage does more harm than good to a man, on average. There is a time and place for marriage, but that time is ESPECIALLY not when you're young. Your supposed to be out in the world trying to earn money and gain some kind of substance to your life. Nesting can wait, since you can do that any time.

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Hehe. How young do you think we are? My buddy's been through college, has his job, is earning his money, just bought a house, etc. She has a job, is earning money, etc. Here's something interesting, though, that may change your mind about their particular instance: she cannot have kids. He wants to. She suggested that he sleep with one of her friends who can, then they can raise the child. When I asked her why she would be okay with that, she said, "He gets laid, so does one of my friends. I don't see a problem there."

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Originally Posted by Drewbacca

Marriage IS a business decision. You can love somebody without marrying them, and even raise loved children without marrying them. Don't go in to a marriage blind about money or you'll be rudely awakened one day. You're absolutely right about Gooch's hilarious assessment of a woman's value -- they have more going for them than looks. But as a whole women are socially irresponsible with their money, typically hoping a man they marry will bail them out of debt. Not to mention the cost of most marriages most women desire is enough to start off any marriage in financial hardship.

You have to really be careful. Loving someone does not mean putting all your eggs in one very brittle basket. Anybody who would ask you to do that isn't exactly thinking about you that much in the first place.

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Marriage is more than a business decision because the laws of our land is kinda kooky. If you have an accident and your gf wants to see you, isn't that not allowed? Or if there is a decision that must be made on your behalf, only the spouse or next of kin has the authority right? I remember reading that somewhere, maybe someone who knows the law better can chime in.

I know there is common law thing too.

I agree with you in theory, but in practicality, there is an advantage to being married than just living together. One example is getting insurance coverage for the spouse (that falls under the business decision).