He answered the question, I don't see what the problem is.Quote:
Originally Posted by g0zen
Besides, Saph, I thought you weren't looking for a one-night stand. Why are you even talking to a hot bartender?
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He answered the question, I don't see what the problem is.Quote:
Originally Posted by g0zen
Besides, Saph, I thought you weren't looking for a one-night stand. Why are you even talking to a hot bartender?
Does hitting on a hot bartender automatically mean a one-night stand? I asked him for his number and what he did for fun (I talked horseback riding, this is sexy talk right here). Or do guys interpret this as "I want to fuck you."?
The latter.
Yes it does. Especially when you're talking about riding anything.Quote:
Originally Posted by SapphirePhoenix
I mean, let's be honest. You're talking about a hot bartender. Do you think he has a couple notches on his bedpost? It is his job to have drunk women throw themselves at him.
Also: I'm going to assume that any chick that offers me her number that fast wants to hit the sack, because there really isn't any innocent "courtship" reason to do that. Especially if you are the cute little bubbly type that TNL seems to think you are. If you are flirting and making yourself available in conversation in a situation like that, any guy worth his balls will pick up on that and ask for your number if he is interested. (Unless the guy is clearly painfully shy/gameless and you are interested anyway, then be more aggressive.)
Don't get me wrong, you should be proud of yourself to have had the nerve to do that at all. I just think you should pay more attention to the type of guys you're going after and how vis-a-vis what you want to get out of it.
I know your mindset on this is different, Sapphire, but if the girl approaches the guy she wants sex. Or, at least, it's the foremost thing on her mind at that moment. A bartender, of all people, is going to assume this. The past three times I've gone on a date, the girl has approached me and it's been PAINFULLY obvious what's been on her mind during the small talk at the bar/club.
You were totally brave for going up to him and talking, though, don't let whatever happened as a result of that bother you - it was your first attempt.
No, he said he wasn't married at first because he was willing to cheat on whoever he's going to be tied to. Or they have an open relationship. The girls I've hung out with think I'm being dishonest just because I'm also seeing a girl who happens to live in another state and don't mention her or say I'm involved with someone. They probably think it's weird when I explain we're not committed to one another, too.Quote:
Originally Posted by g0zen
If you're out somewhere and you meet someone you think you might like, exchanging numbers right away is pretty much the only way you're ever going to speak to that person again. I don't see it as an indication that anyone wants to necessarily "hit the sack" right away at all.Quote:
Originally Posted by burgundy
Unlikely, since he was upfront about being engaged. The more likely answer is:Quote:
Originally Posted by Calliander
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Yes, and it's the male's prerogative to initiate that numerical exchange. Also, you need to be quiet until we figure out what sex you are.Quote:
Originally Posted by Compass
True, but maybe it took him a couple of her visits to realize he needed to drop the engagement bomb. That's a great book, by the way.Quote:
Originally Posted by burgundy
Hell, I've talked to a few chicks who seemed interesting but who ended up being obnoxious bitches, then told them that I was engaged.
Even under these circumstances burgundy is right. You just met this person, so the only thing really cranking your button is the fact that you're thinking with your dick. If you're attracted to someone upfront and ask for their number sex is involved (and there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. In fact it's a great and honest outlook). Once you sit down with someone and get to know them in a casual setting then that's when the mind starts weighing in on who they are and what they're worth to you (you can also find a common interest in the initial encounter like a book or video games that would help you identify with her/him, which is the exception. But really if you're looking at a cutie you have one thing on your mind).Quote:
Originally Posted by Compass
But upfront encounters is really just about raw attraction in most cases.
You'll never find a girl who's on the same page about everything as you. If a girl seems like she's always on the same page she's not being honest with you or you haven't been together long.Quote:
Originally Posted by Glitch
I wasn't assuming you who you were with. Just that they were a woman who will eventually grow attached (or you attached to her) or find someone else and moves on.
My point was to enjoy the single life. And if you get in a situation like that enjoy it for what it is, ride it out as long as you can, and enjoy it while it lasts.
i think it's just asian americans (since i've never been to their homeland) that are horny in general. every one that i have ever known or hung out with was always trying to incorperate titties and sex into EVERYTHING.Quote:
Originally Posted by Type Ryan