Horrible Neighbors

So I have a horrible neighbor. He's a sad motherfucker who gets his kicks by treating women like a dogs to gain a sense of authority.

This motherfucker has lived next door to me for 2.5 years, and we've tried our best to ignore his bullshit. Now that we have a baby in the house, he's decided it's war, and is being a complete cunt.

This is an ongoing problem, but for example - Last night he was playing obscenely loud music. I can't even hear my TV with all my windows and doors shut. So I go outside and politely ask him to turn it down. I am met with hostility and complete non-communication. I ask him what the actual issue is, in hope of resolving it, and I am told to 'Fuck off'. I explain that if he doesn't stop his bullshit, I'll be forced to escalate shit. Again, I'm told to 'Fuck off', and he then threatens my wife and child.

So I call the cops, they rock up and get him to turn the music down. They explain to me that there's not a lot they can do in this situation as it is, but that I should consider taking out an Apprehended Violence Order. With this in place, any breach of the Order (that is, verbal harassment, threats, physical violence) would then be treated as a criminal offense. If I were to call the police, he would be arrested and charged. To apply for one, I need to show that he's a repeat offender and I consider him a danger to myself or my family. The link above suggests keeping a diary of any incidents that occur to be used as evidence - but how long do I need to do that for? He's made it clear he's not going to stop - 4:55am this morning he has his car in his driveway with the doors open, radio full volume, for 20 minutes. I don't know if I can put up with it for another week or two.

Jesus fucking christ. All we want is to live our lives and have nothing to do with the motherfucker. If he'd just talk to me maybe we could avoid all this shit. It takes every fiber of my being to not beat the living fuck out of the cunt.

And you know what pisses me off the most? The fact that I can't stop thinking about this. That he's affected my life in such a way.

Cunt.

I apologize for the rant, but I'm worked up. feel free to talk about any experiences you've had with cunt-whore neighbors and how you solved (or didn't) the problem.

Argh, that fucking cunt. I remember when he followed me and dad home once for some reason. Just remember, its richmond, and you're connected to the maco mafia (lol).

It's so weird. Last night I was actually thinking of ways I could hurt him without it being connected to me. I very badly want to hurt him. And hurt him in such a way that he can't retaliate.

But I won't, of course. Me on an assault / murder charge won't exactly be beneficial to G and Oscar.

Fuck.

edit: Also, hello dchu. I'm leaving work at 12 if you want to ditch early.

Bad neighbors are the worst feeling in the world because there isn't a single fucking thing you can do about it until the guy hurts someone or makes someone go insane and kill people. In a perfect world, cops would hang with you for a couple of days to understand just how bad it is.

Tommy Tallarico

This sounds alot like my downstairs neighbor. Well, some parts of it.

Essentially this guy is a psychopath that needs serious help (he plays hockey as a form of anger management).

List of events to call him a psychopath:
One night, before I got off work, Samba was watching our daughter who learned to walk/run and she was letting her do so. Apparently the dude downstairs did not approve, as he blasted his stereo and TV loud enough to be heard very clearly through the floors and vibrate the walls.

Samba calls the police to file a noise complaint, only to have the guy come up to the apartment about 10 mins later, confront us on if we called the cops, after we confirmed that we called the cops, this guy and his girlfriend/whore/whoever it was tried to barge into the apartment, Samba shut the door, deadbolted and chainlocked it, the guy is beating on the door COPS sytle and yelling all sorts of obscenities. After about 45 seconds of yelling, and we were well away from the door, I hear out kitchen window break from a rock(or his goddamn fist) going through it.

At this point I call the police again, because if your going to fuck with my family, you're going down. Hard.

Cops come out, look at the damamge (its now almost 10:30 at night and maintenance has gone home). Since they talked to HIM first, he said it was an accident and he was "knocking on our window because we did not answer the door", for one, it was his bitch, who needed several stitches, and two, I asked the cop "So if I were to go down there and break his window, as long as I say it was an accident, I'm in the clear right?" the cop didn't like hearing that and gives us some kind of bullshit runaround thing.

From our first experience, the cops did jack shit and the only thing that happened was I had to bug the maintenance guy at 11:30 pm to come our from 3 citys away to find me a replacement window since the cops were so unhelpful and 2 to fine a complaint with the apartment office.


Fast forward about 6 months down the line.

This time, Samba was typing on the Wii, writing something down. Psycho starts BANGING on the wall, I have no idea its a "shut the fuck up" knock, I figure he's seeing shit on the walls. Anyway, at 3 am I get a knock on my door, and its the apartment security. I have NEVER seen apartment security before this, so I kinda laugh to myself, he asks me whats going on, Samba and myself tell him the psycho downstairs is banging on the wall, he says "oh ok, well I must have misheard the apartment to go to."

About 20 mins later, same thing happens, knock on the door, now its apartment security AND a cop.

I am told that "neighbors" are complaining about how loud we are. I explain that we aren't being loud at all, my TV was at a more than reasonable volume with Rob & Big on it, and Samba was typing on the Wii.

I never noticed but this asshole security guard who wasn't the first one had a phone in his hand, and after we explained everything, Asshole neighbor is on the other line via speakerphone claiming we are "Playing the drums or something, because I'm a drummer and I know what drums sound like," I laughed and said to the guard "come on in, I don't have any drums and that man is on crack or drunk because this is NOT the first time I have had problems with this guy."

Once again the cop takes his side and basically threatens to take Samba and my into custody. After explaining all the problems we have had with him to a second officer, he told us to just keep a record of it and to contact the office.


NOTHING HAS HAPPENED. I'm not sure if things are nearly the same in Aussie land, but keep a record of it anyway in case things go further south and legal action needs to be taken.

Keep calling the cops, he will get sick and tired of it and so will the cops, and they will see that you're only trying to protect your family.

What is the background situation? Do you own the home? Does he own his? Are you neighbors in an apt building, or houses next to each other on the street? If he's a renter you can complain to his landlord. What was the first incident you remember? Definitely document the threats. Next time you walk out there to talk with him record it.

Edit: NGE beat me to it. :lol:

My advice to you, do whatever you can do to be able to press charges and have the law on your side. Document like crazy and every time there's an incident, call someone out so you can have a record of it. Also, try to not let it bother you. I lost alot of sleep over that fucker and where did it get me?

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Originally Posted by stormy

What is the background situation? Do you own the home? Does he own his? Are you neighbors in an apt building, or houses next to each other on the street? If he's a renter you can complain to his landlord. What was the first incident you remember? Definitely document the threats. Next time you walk out there to talk with him record it.

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We're both renting, houses. We actually have a pretty good relationship with his landlords, who lived in the house the first two years we were here.

The first incident was the weekend he moved in, about two and a half years ago. He jacked some bad speed and went crazy. We had his bitch and one of the kids pounding on our door screaming for help because they thought he was going to kill him. The police came out and took him away in a wagon, but I don't think any charges were made. After this one, we spoke to his landlords, but they were unable to get him out, as he had not broken any laws or some shit.

Then there has been that passive aggressive bullshit towards my wife for the last 2 years - staring her down, making snide comments, all that kind of shit.

I would contact his landlord to keep him in the loop every time there is an issue as well. Also, it sucks to have to do it, but you should consider moving. It's not worth staying when a situation like this can escalate, and there isn't much else you can do. At least you have this option since you're a renter.

this sucks man esp since he threatened your family. you cant even mess with him because there is no telling what he may do.