Originally Posted by
Nick
I think marriage rights should be scaled back overall, so it's difficult to come out in support of gay marriage rights, though I am a liberal athiest who doesn't vote for Republicans except in exceptional circumstances (we had a real scumball Democrat running for a county office one year - he later went to jail, I think). I haven't thought about it at great length, and I certainly haven't researched it enough to come out with a firm decision, but my gut reaction is that we should provide legal advantages tied to marriage only where there is a child to raise (whether the parents are of the same sex or not). I think it is important to provide a stable home in the formative years, so I support tax breaks and such for partners who are raising children, but marriage seems like an anachronism beyond that. Why fight to expand and codify something so outdated? Is that really "progressive" and individualistic or we still carrying around a security blanket that we should have already outgrown?
If you - male or female, heterosexual or homosexual - leave work in order to raise a child, you should be provided some breaks. However, if your children are grown and you went back to work and are doing fine for yourself making your own money, why should you get a tax break in your working years and and an extra entitlement check in your retirement just because you are/were married?
I bring this up only to remind you that free people have very different reasons for taking very different stands. Maybe some of your potential customers support equal parenting rights and things like affording a gay partner the same considerations as a heterosexual spouse in property matters (next-of-kin, etc.), but oppose extending most marriage rights to anyone, gay or not. If you don't think John and Mary should get a special break, you can't very well claim that Peter and Paul should get that same break.
Anyway, that's for another thread. I just posted that to suggest if you are going to profess support for specific political issues (and these are legal protections being debated, not human rights issues), you will come across as a oversimplifying prig to some people, and it is easy to take something like what you wrote as being haughty and dismissive. Making food simple and changing it around yields tasty results, but ideas are much, more more stubborn.