Macromedia Flash MX
That's the software you need. There are alot of other "plugin" type programs for it, but like filters for photoshop they all are fairly generic, and projects that use them have that "cut from the same mold" appearance.
www.flashkit.com
That's the only site you'll need when you start out. Start checking source code, download lots of .fla files to see how they work, and do tutorial, after tutorial, after tutorial.





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