Losing a loved one

[Calliander]

EDIT: shit...this is so not gaming related.


Ever since I'm on a night shift at work, I haven't been able to stay up during the afternoon. So I woke up tonight and noticed the red light on my phone was blinking (means I have messages). It was my father, calling to let me know my grand mother didn't have much time left... what a way to start the day, huh?

So I called dad back and used that opportunity to give some news, knowing that he had something sad to tell me. So he explained me the situation. Grand mother was placed in one of those centre for the elderly people just a year ago. She wasn't in the best of shape already, not that she was having health problems, but more like starting to suffer from alzeimer. So it was painful enough for us that she couldn't remember our names. The last time I visited, she was happy to have company and it showed. But she couldn't tell which of his grand son was talking to her. She had a smile on her face, but a lost look in her eyes.

So anyway, my dad told me her kidneys no longer works. That means the blood is getting infected and that's no good sign. She's apparently on morphine to slow the pain. There's not much else to do, going to the hospital at this stage won't do shit. She is old and nobody wants to see her spend the last of her days in there.

She was the last of my grand parent to be alive. So by her death, our family loses an entire generation. This is a sad day indeed and a cruel reality check for us. If my grand parents are aging, then so am I. In the family though, we haven;t lost anyone else but grand parents. I mean nobody died early in an accident or anything. And we should be grateful for that. But since I'm not used to seeing someone close to me dying (well you can't ever get used to that fact), it's a weird feeling I'm experiencing.

Thanks, I just needed to write that off somewhere. Feel free to add whatever you want about grand parents.

It's good to get your feelings out. If you don't tell anyone, you'll keep them pent up inside and you run the risk of turning in on yourself and losing touch with the real world. My mother's best friend lost her father last month. He was 92 years old, and he was healthy up until the last week or so. She barely talks to my mother now, stays inside, doesn't do anything. Stay strong, man.

Three of my four grandparents are still alive - both of my mother's parents and my father's mother. My grandfather passed away in January of 1995 after a short battle with lung cancer. All of his working years were spent on the railroad until he retired at 60. For most of those years, especially the early ones, he was inhaling coal smoke basically all day. The cancer surfaced about two years before he died, and we had to watch as the cancer spread from his lungs down throughout his other organs. He was 6'1" and around 215 pounds and gradually lost his weight until he was about 110 pounds before he died.

It's a terrible thing to see. My father's side of the family lives in Utah and I was in Connecticut at the time, so I didn't get to see him in the last year. The last time I saw him, he still had a good deal of weight and his memory was okay. I spoke with him on the phone three weeks before he passed away and he couldn't remember who I was, and my grandma had to take the phone from him.

I tend to be a rather unemotional person, but that really bothered me and still does to this day. It took a long time to get over, but I did. Make sure to be around your family and help them get over it. By doing so, you're helping yourself and they're helping you.

Take care, man.

[Acid Dragon]

That DMX song you spoke of eightbit drives my cousin to tears everytime he hears it because of the same reason.

I pretty much can't be around any music when someone dies because that song will always bring me back to the day of the death. Its taken me over 10 years to hear Anita Bakers "Rapture Of Love" without crying and thinking of my lost aunt/godmother.

But as was said earlier in the thread, the sun will rise tomorrow and we all must still go forward. All our past loved ones would have wanted it that way...

[680x0]

That reminds me of a song called "gotta get mine" on Born Jamerican's Yardcore LP that always gets me a little misty. But then again my mama never gave me a 9mm...

[Gutsman]

When my grandmother died a few years ago, I cried like a girl, she was the sweetest kindest person who ever lived, until now I still feel the pain. The timing was especially ironic, we just had a rare huge family reunion, and a few days later she collapsed from a stroke and died in a week.