marriage

[rama]

I could imagine a scenario where marriage would be something thats fucking awesome, but I dont think it'll happen for me.

why do you think that?

[station82o]

why do you think that?

Looking at facts I have a pretty good indication already that it won't happen, I'm not ruling it out completely, but the odds aren't in its favor. Any relationship I have had in the past has been a total disaster, only some were disasterous for longer periods of time than others, but suffice to say I'm not very good at relationships. Not to mention I don't believe in taking over your own baggage to someone else's life, as this tends to happen in relationships, so I figure I'd have to deal with all my life crap first.

Without getting too melodramatic, I'll just say that I'm alright with this revelation for now, I dont know how I'll feel a couple years down the road but who does? Marriage is a pretty powerful concept to me and I wouldn't want to mess around with it unless I really felt a conviction in it - time will tell for that. My brother got married recently and got divorced in a year, and he went into it for all the wrong reasons, which is a mistake I would not want to make.

[rama]

was it babies? 'cause babies are the worst reason to get married.

[Tracer]

No... it's a long story.

[rama]

tracer.......you stations brother?

[station82o]

Haha no - but I know Tracer in real life, we've been friends since high school and he pretty much lives down the street from me (its a startingly long street though), so he knows what went on.

No it wasn't babies, although that could've been one of the minor reasons, but was more related to his feeling the pressures from society's edict of 'get married before you hit thirty or you'll be a failure' type thing... something which I've tried to pull him out of, but admitedly I dont talk to my brother that much thesedays, he's in California and I'm in Houston and regardless we both pretty much keep to ourselves.

[rama]

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No it wasn't babies, although that could've been one of the minor reasons, but was more related to his feeling the pressures from society's edict of 'get married before you hit thirty or you'll be a failure' type thing....

y'know, i wish society's thing were something like......i dunno....."get yourself an' your life right....and then get happy.....and get married if you feel you should" or something allong those lines.

[Fe 26]

I wish Society's thing was was "quit being a dick and fix the parts of you that are insane and annoy/hurt others" instead of getting married and make money.

[Lordmrw]

for me, i've always said that if i get married it would be nice, but if not, so long as i'm happy, then i'm perfectly fine with it. i think one of the main reasons people get married is because they want to start a family, and since i don't plan on having any children, what's the likelihood of me finding someone who feels the same way? i've never given a damn what society or my family has to say about both topics, so i feel somfortable about my decision. i do have alot of respect for the people who have gotten married and have made it work. its not easy, and more power to you for sticking it out when so many others find it easy to just walk away.

[Josh]

I am totally up in the air on marrage.

I have been with a girl for over five years, we have a house together, two dogs, cars, joint bank account... all that grown up shit.

However, the concept of marrage completly terrifies me. I don't understand it.

Sometimes I question if I am in love anymore. I can lie in bed next to her at night, and be totally blissful, while being uneasy and sick at the same time.

I can't imagine life without this girl, but I also can't imagine being with her for the rest of it either.

Does any of this make any sense at all?