Last night, I found out that my father died...

[George]

I'm sorry to hear this, Jeremy. The feeling of loss coupled with the feeling of regret. When my mother's stepfather died, I felt so much regret for never really getting to know him that well. He was aloof, grumpy, and most of all, silent. But there was a lot to know, and when he died down in Florida, it made it apparent that we were distant from one another not only mentally, but physically upon his death. The only advice I can offer now is to get involved with the loved ones and family members you've never really gotten to know, especially those who are alone. They will greatly appreciate the friendship.

[Revoltor]

No more depressing threads plz . My condolences though.

My friend's little brother passed away last week at the age of 18.

[Burky]

My mom went through that while I was in college. She didn't bother to tell me until after the operation, because she didn't want it to affect my studies. I'm still a little bit pissed at her for hiding it, but she's fine now.

Yeh my mum also didn't tell me until I finished my exams in case it affected my performance.
She knows a few other people who have had it done, so I'm hoping she'll be ok.

[Videodrone]

Jeremy, my heart is with you man. Keep strong.

[MechDeus]

All I can really say is that at least you had a father to grieve. Mine died when I was two and it's made me rather ambivilant to the whole thing, and there's been many times when I wondered what my life would be like if he had been alive.

In Josh's thread, I said that using positive memories of the past can help overcome this, but I have none of those, so has anyone else here been in a similar situation, where they've lost either an estranged loved one, or a relative they've never met, and still felt grief?

I've been wondering that myself, as my not-liked-by-much-of-the-family grandmother gets older. At some point she'll be gone but there really aren't any happy memories that she ever provided, just a lot of in-fighting and turning family members against each other. Ah well, I suppose I'll just have to figure that out when the time comes.

Good luck.

[Shinobi128]

My grandfather passed away earlier today.

WTF is going on?

[avatar]

Fuck. Josh,Kev,Me and now Jeremy. This has been a shitty summer.

I don't really know what to say in this situation. One part of me wants to say fuck him and forget about him(He did forget about you) but on the other hand that sound cruel.

[SpoDaddy]

I'm sorry Jeremy, that really sucks. I've lost people under similar circumstances and I've come to the conclusion that the grief is over a loss of hope. I always hoped on a semi-subconscious level that someday I'd have a "Dad" finally, that he'd suddenly care and want to take me to baseball games and all that shit, and when he died that dream died too. I also felt like a part of me died, since I came from him, and I couldn't help but love him despite how lousy a Dad he was because he was my father. I hope this helps you in some way, stay strong man. If you want to talk about it privately PM me anytime.

[voltz]

Sad to hear your loss Jeremy, hope you can get over it soon.

[FX]

Sorry about that, Jeremy.