Choices

[Josh]

"What if" is the kind of thing that keeps you awake at nights. Think about this one before you make your decision. How old is this girl... is she crazy?

And yeah. 80 miles isn't shit.

[Mr-K]

I'm thinking that her asking me to be faithful for two years while she goes to grad school is a lot to ask. She is going to the closest grad school that she can find (it's in Manhattan) and she'll have to live there if she wants to work and do all that grad school entails. I have a business that's 80 miles away and have a kid that loves me and I have to spend time with. The distance isn't terribly far but given the hours that I work, the commitment to my daughter, etc... it would be nearly impossible to see each other at all and she'll be tied up as well.

You made it sound like she's moving to fucking London or something. If you really care about the girl 80 miles is not far at all, I drive 200 fairly often to see my girlfriend when school is out and we stayed together when she went to India for a semester. If you really, really loved this girl 80 miles is something you could work out, shit, I drive that far for lunch sometimes.

[Thief Silver]

My girlfriend is 2 hours away going to OSU, I visit her usually every weekend or so, maybe every other weekend. I'd pretty much say that that's the limit of what I'd be willing to put up with, and I don't know anything about how hard grad school is. Plus my daughter doesn't exist to my knowledge. (My son is currently in Japan, and posts on these boards, OH SNAP).

[Cheebs]

If you were dating someone for a while and were "in love", would you "wait" for them for 2 years while they go to grad school and maintain a long distance (exclusive) relationship with that person for 2 years (and see them rarely) or would you give them the heave ho?

Stick with her. For reals.

[bbobb]

(My son is currently in Japan, and posts on these boards, OH SNAP).

Did you really have to tell everyone Dad?

[Mr-K]

Thief time-raped bbobb's mom.

[Razor Ramon]

The traveling is possible but do you really wanna do it? I traveled to see a girl I didn't really like too much (PT, by the way. I don't own a car) and it sucked. It was only about 60 miles, though.

[Mr-K]

This really is a matter of figuring out how much you care for the girl. If your first instinct was to get out instead of trying to figure out a way to make it work out, it seems like a decent indicator that you don't think she's worth the effort. Of course I'm just speculating, what do I know.

[g0zen]

If you two are having the LDR talk over an 80 mile distance then you both are looking for a way out. Take it.

[icarusfall]

"What if" is the kind of thing that keeps you awake at nights. Think about this one before you make your decision. How old is this girl... is she crazy?

And yeah. 80 miles isn't shit.

WORD.