Death

[Gymkata]

Like Rumpy said I get comfort through faith. I know why they died I know to some its hokey. But its not God's plan ... to those people I want to punch them in the face. And I hate the people that tell me "I know how you feel." BULLSHIT YOU DO, MOTHERFUCKER. BULLSHIT! My grandparents died, cause of health aka old age. My father died cause of not taking care of himself. What faith helps in is that knowing they are somewhere looking down on me and telling me that what I do everyday ... they are proud of.

That's what faith provides, knowing they are there. Like they were when they were alive.

Well my condolences go out to GP and all who are going through such a tragedy. However the whole "Gods plan" business is just a cliche. Coming from a believer Ill tell you that the plan is to not live forever on Earth. "Gods plan" shouldn't refer to trying to understand why someone died. Doing that will just make you angry and have you fight with things you cant control. Just dont try to "get over it". Taking time to mourn and feeling effected by what hapened means you have a normal head on your shoulders. Take care man.

[Gohron]

Death is a difficult thing to deal with. I've had two best friends die over the years and much of my great grand-parents (who were all alive when I was born).

My friend Matt Richardson died when I was 12. I had been away when he was killed and when I came home my mom just flat out told me that "Matt got hit by a car...he died." The past three years he and I did a shit load of stuff together and had developed a fairly strong bond. When I went to his viewing it was the first time I had seen a dead body. His mom was standing at the front, greeting the guests but she couldn't stop crying. He had been a popular kid at the middle school and his death was very tragic for many people.

Around the time when I signed the paper-work for the Marines when I was still in high school, my friend Mike died. He too was only 24 and died of a heart attack. Until this day he was one of the best friends I had ever had. His brother and I were just as close (his brother was my age) and it felt like the both of us had lost a brother. I remember coming home from school and getting the phone call from my friend Dave: "Matt...Mike went to the hospital today...he didn't make it." He had grown up with a lot of health problems despite being an exceptional athlete (who would've certainly been a top notch pitcher in the Major Leagues if not for an extremely rare genetic disease he was born with) and had faced life threatening situations nearly once a year. A lot of the times I still wish he was here as he was one of the most non judgemental people I've ever met and could offer advice or just an open ear on anything I had to talk about.

Besides that, I've lost three of my great grandparents, two of them being in the past several years. Their deaths never bothered me though, I felt that they had lived long and productive lives and it was time for them to rest without concern. My dad is coming close to his time I believe as his liver has suffered major damage due to the Hepititus C he contracted from previous heroine abuse. He recently was placed on a liver transplant list and basically told me he doesn't have too much longer to go. My dad and I have always had ups and downs but we've generally been extremely close as despite his problems, he was always dedicated to being the best father he could be.

Death is just something that we have to deal with, no matter how hard it is. Even monkey's grieve over the loss of their family, it's just something that nature never equipped us to deal with. I feel your loss Giga and I hope that things work out for you and your family.