marriage

in the past few years it seems like the number of people getting married that i know personally are growing. i'm definately happy for all of them. i hope they all have happy lives with the people that they are married to. i'd like to get married some day and have kids myself, but recently my views on marrieage have changed.

if i can find someone that i'd like to share the rest of my life with, i'll be one happy dude. if i can't find that person, then i just hope that my life will be fulfilling and that i'll be content with it. there's this whole stigma in our society over "being old and alone".....seems like to me anyway. i remember meeting people who were older (over 30) when i was younger. they weren't married but they seemed allot happier than most married people that i met.

allot of times it seems like marriage is something that people think that they have to do in order to have a "complete" life. i dunno.....lot's of shit on my mind around this topic an' i just wanted to open up some good conversation with my gamin' budies here at tnl.

For me, I've never felt that getting married was a pre-requisite for happiness and fulfillment. I think it should really only be done if you happen to find that special someone you want to spend your life with and you BOTH want to stand at the alter and make the vow to one another in front of a priest/minister/other holyman, instead of just privately to one other.

Personally, I really look forward to hopefully someday find my soulmate, get married, and have several kids...but then again, I'm an old-fashioned borderline-effeminate Christian male, so... :p

To marry someone I'd have to be deeply, madly, crazily in love with them. Rachel talks about it as though we're required to, which we are not. Honestly we rushed things and we will not work out, she's a great friend but as a girlfriend... she sucks. Her trouble is that she can't let go, she just hangs on til there's nothing left to love, so every time she brings up marriage I bring up fuck buddying. It's cruel, yes, but it helps me keep her in check with reality. The last thing I need is for my daughter to be brought up in a home with parents who hate eachother, so I'd rather not get married yet.

it's a bit too early for me to be thinking about marriage just yet, but - it doesn't seem out of the question.

rama, you talk like you're already in your 30's :)

I look forward to meeting some who is very special to me, marrying them, having kids, and then growing old together, hopefully, with some grandkids running around.

Meh.

My dad always said why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?

HEY ROOKIE..DID YOU JUST CALL MY GIRL A COW?

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I was married at 20. Divorced recently at 22. Not only did she cheat on me twice. Bitch fuckin robbed me too. I'm STILL bitter about it

With good reason, it sounds like.

I've also been raised to view it as some kind of prerequisite for success, which annoys me somewhat. I feel like I'll be a failure if I hit 40 and I'm single. Bleh.