double team imo
p.s. jetman... you should have just yelled "switch" and it would have been all good.
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double team imo
p.s. jetman... you should have just yelled "switch" and it would have been all good.
Gainesville is a college town, find some whores and some blow and call it night.
Seriously though, it is going to be rough for next few months. Best thing to do is hang with some buds and do things with them to keep your mind off of what happened. While a door just closed on a part of your life, a bunch more just opened up. Enjoy it.
You could've just hit her while the other guy was still plowing away. You would've felt so good TNL would never have seen this thread.
Damn this is the 2nd time this year something similar happened with someone I knew. Same shit, didn't have enough guts to at least break it off with bf, and bam. He was messed up for a while until I finaly told him "Look, why do you care now? Do you think she sitting at home right now thinking of you? No she's probably on that guys cock right now..." This help him get over it alot. Just think by the time this actually happened she really didn't give to cents about you.
Just bust out that little black book of yours.
I'm really sorry to hear that Jetman, you've been having some bad luck lately.
I've never been cheated on (that I know of), so while I don't know exactly what you're feeling, I'm sure it's a little worse than being dumped for someone else. It's really tough, and from experience, my breakup hung over my head for about 2 months. All I wanted to do was sleep, which really ruined everything.
The best best best advice I can give you is to hang out with your friends as much as humanly possible. They are probably the only people that can make you feel better right now.
I didn't read any of the replies just your initial post Jetman.
I have to say that have been in a similar situation with someone I was with for years. It deffinately seems like she wanted to get cought by you. Possibly to end whatever you two had going or as a cry for attention. Her reason why is something she would have to tell you but will more than likely not be honest with you about it.
Though you were guarded your kindness and just being nice is probably why she ran you over like that. Nice guys do finish last. After my situation I trusted people/females less than I already did and I haven't really had any deep relationships since and probably won't till I feel I can trust whatever bitch I end up with.
Let me read the rest of the thread though.
Okay you did the right thing imo. I'm glad you found out after only 3 months not 3 years like I did. Like a few people already said don't shelter yourself from friends and family. Keep your life as close to normal routines as possible. Alot of time when busy you'll forget about your troubles till you have time to sit there and have something trigger your memory about her or what happened.
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My situation I didn't get to see thank the gods again. Here it quick version of it. We were together for a little over 2 years (lived together), break up, still fuck for the next year and half or so, we kinda get back together move back with each other, BS starts up again and I move out.
One night I'm calling her after she gets out of work she give a bs story that she doesn't feel good and is going sleep it off. I call her up after an hour or so later to see whats up. 1st try it just rings, 2nd and 3rd time it goes straight to her voice mail. Next morning I call again no answer. After several tries I listen her voice mail (yes I know the pw) I hear some guy telling her he is waiting in her driveway for her and calls her baby. Right then there I knew it was bad. I got to her house dude was still there and she is standing by the door wearing her skimpy booty shorts and my white T with her titties all over the place blocking me from entering the house. I saw the guy by the windows watching tv. I cursed her out and walked away, jumped in my car and drove away mad as hell.
She calls back like 3 mins later crying saying it's not what it seems blah blah, I wait till she goes to work and I go to her house to see if the guy is still there. Niether of them is there. I check her goodies drawer and saw some of the jimmy hats were missing found the wrappers in the bathroom trash bin :link: along with the nasty used condom and the guy left a $2 dollar bill on her coffe table with a note written on it saying thank you, you have a big heart. Don't let others hurt you or something like that. I got my shit and left.
I felt just like you man. Just take this weekend to get wasted it kinda helps but try to leave the drugs to a minimum they don't really help in any positive way. Alot of what the guys have said already is true from the guys POV.
Be easy.
I've had three girls cheat on me, and I've cheated on two girlfriends. It's easy to blame yourself and your shortcomings, but it's not your fault. They would've done that to any guy they were with. Don't be the kid that blames himself for his parents' divorce. Simply put, cheating happens when one or both members of the relationship know shit isn't going to work out, so they just don't give a fuck about what they do anymore. It's not that you're not good enough, it's just that sometimes people plain aren't compatible. Maybe you've also had the thoughts like "yeah, she really isn't the one" but you didn't act on it because she's all you have right now and you didn't want to lose it.
You did the right thing in that small moment where you had the chance to think it over and react. By just walking out, you're not giving in to her self-esteem issues, and you're showing you don't give a fuck. I probably would've thrown in a "have fun, my balls were in her mouth last night" just to fuck with the guy.
I can't really relate to how you're feeling now since I don't stress over girls anymore, but don't let your issues with this girl affect your trust of future girls that come your way. You could possibly end up throwing away a good thing because you're holding on to a stupid ex that didn't treat you right anyway. I would suggest not getting in so deep in the future and just riding the wave. I've been with my girl now for 2 years, and if I found her licking on five dudes' knobs at the same time, I'd just boot her out, steal her shit, and call up a backup fuck. That doesn't mean she's not totally awesome. She's great, but don't get deep into shit until you're married. It just ruins lives. I don't know how you got so attached in three months, but don't do it again.
Wouldn't going into marriage before it's deep shit be even more of a problem?Quote:
Originally Posted by omfgninjas in iraq
Jetman, I'm really sorry to hear this. Things apparently aren't going well for you at the moment, but if it's anything we both know it's that time heals all. In the interim, maybe try starting a hobby in something you never thought you would, or have been meaning to but haven't had the chance. Swimming at the bottom of a bottle can help you ease the shock, but don't let it go too long.
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Originally Posted by Josh
LOL spring break.
Jetman- You have lived my worst fear. It's the worst thing a girl could ever do to a guy. Don't let it ruin your ability to have relationships in the future since you did nothing wrong. Sorry man.