This seems to be happening all over the place.
Very short version of my story: 6/14/05 I hesitantly sign a Separation Agreement with my wife under the pretenses that it was a step towards reconciliation (which was discussed at length many times) and she swore it was under the pretenses of assuring financial stability and the fact that I would live up to my responsibilities. We agreed that I would have until 9/28/05 to "come back" to the house (that was our anniversary) and she agreed that I needed to have some time to get my head straight. She assured me she wasn't going anywhere and would be "around". Fast forward to week 1, July 2005, and I finally take some summer clothes to my parents house and finally have some time to myself to put things into perspective. A few weeks later (3) I get together with her and my seven year old daughter for a day at the beach. A few days after that, roughly 3-4 weeks after I left, I came back to say that for the sake of the kids, for the sake of what we used to be, blah blah blah that we should try to work this out. She basically chews me out for an hour and a half and tells me that she has no interest in a reconciliation. I was flabbergasted and stunned that she completely mislead led me and basically negotiated a separation a means for divorce (which never, to this day, entered any of our conversations). I didn't hire a lawyer, believed in what she said, and was devastated that this happened. I never would've signed anything nor would I have left had I known that this was what she ultimately had in mind.
What does this have to do with this thread? As if the above weren't bad enough, within a week of that day in July my daughter tells me that she went out on a boat with "Paul" and my soon-to-be ex-wife. Within 2 weeks of her telling me to hit the road, there was a guy with his four kids (all boys) living at my house with my little girl. Sure, I wanted to tear him apart and all that, but it solves little and the guy was probably told a load of shit from this deceptive piece of crap lying whore.
It takes time to move on and realize that you were the better person and all that. Time and nothing else.
