marriage

[Kidnemo]

Good tax breaks/insurance/financial benefits.

[Kidnemo]

Good tax breaks/insurance/financial benefits.

[innova]

I am all for it if you find that someone who understands you and forgives your faults then yeah it is nice to go through life with someone who understands you and loves you for who you are.

[JM]

Getting married to complete your life is a big mistake. Make sure you are cool with who you are in the first place, because if you have issues, the other person can't fix them & you will just make him/her miserable too. That said, marriage can be great, & your partner will change you for the better if you are in a healthy relationship. I had plenty of crazy fucking girlfriends, so I knew exactly what not to get into. My wife is much older than I am (6 years) so she was more mature than other girls I had gone out with. She also wasn't crazily jealous or clingy. I have done the whole "No friends" thing in the past, & it is a relationship breaker. At the end of this month my wife & I will have been married for five years, & our son will soon be three. I am very happy with my relationship. BTW, I got married when I was 21, so don't take Raziel's experience as a rule.

JM

[Despair]

Married 4 years and happy

And I agree with what Kidnemo said.

[rama]

it's a bit too early for me to be thinking about marriage just yet, but - it doesn't seem out of the question.

rama, you talk like you're already in your 30's

yeah, people've been tellin' me that recently.

allot of people don't realise the whole "getting your issues straight" thing before getting married. i haven't been in a solid relationship in a while because i pretty much know what i can and can not tollerate in a relationship. some times i feel lonely...or like i'm not doing something right when i see my friends dating or whatever, but then i realise that, hey, when i do actually find the girl that'll understand me, respect my views, and treat me as an individual i'll be in a better place with my self and hopefully ready to actually work at the relationship. well, i hope it won't be actual work.....that stinks too. some people "work" on relationships for years and shit doesn't get any better/resolved. life is so full of work. it's like....non stop.

[bahn]

I was married at 20. Divorced recently at 22. Not only did she cheat on me twice. Bitch fuckin robbed me too. I'm STILL bitter about it

Oh man, dude. That sucks, seriously. I thought that you and Jen were going to be together forever. And to cheat on you twice. Wow...just, wow!!!! O_o

I'd stuff my girlfriend in a cartridge if she did that to me.

[Dolemite]

As far as I'm concerned, marrige is the ultimate expression of love between two people. Most people just get married because they're afraid of being alone or they're "used" to someone. I'd like to get married but only if I meet someone who is perfect for me and who I'm madly in love with. Otherwise, I don't give a shit. I don't need to be married to just anyone like most people are programmed by society to do.

50% of all marriges end in divorce...hmmm....

[M]

more than that I thought... My parents are still married... though all they do now is yell at each other.

I dont really like any of the options of that poll.

I do want to get married someday. I'm just not sure if I want the huge stress filled wedding or a nice small civil ceremony.

[bahn]

agreed. the poll seems mostly cynical. r(I didn't even bother selecting any of those options) rama, you were better off simply leaving this just as a discussion.