Never even think or fantasize about it, I have enough trouble getting just a regular date.
totally for it. everyone should get married!
not for me. other people might dig it.
marriage is for suckers!
i'd like to settle down some day but i don't want to get married.
i'm married and happy with the one i'm with.
i'll get married when i feel i'm good and ready.
Do you prefer dogs or cats?
Yeah, that's sick. People don't even know when it's right to marry anymore. It seems to me that more marriages are based on "hey, we've been fucking for a long time, why not just get married?" or "He/she has a lot of money. Lemme get married so I can nab it all in the settlement." Garbage.Originally Posted by Dolemite
Hmmm...
Never even think or fantasize about it, I have enough trouble getting just a regular date.
neurobashing
Most people these days either don't take marriage seriously, do it on a whim, or marry for the wrong reasons.
My wife & I are going to celebrate our third anniversary on Halloween (I'm 31). We dated for four years before taking the next step, and there was no doubt in either of our minds that it was the right thing to do. We have disagreements all the time, and the relationship isn't perfect (no relationship ever is, which I think ends up surprising people who want a fairy tale). But we have enough respect for each other and know each other so well that we can always come to terms, one way or another. The "in-love" feeling certainly comes and goes, but the love itself never wavers. She's my best friend, and the best friend I've ever had, which I think is pretty important. Marriage is hard work - it takes more effort and time than my paying job - but is of course infinitely more rewarding.
Our non-religious ceremony consisted of me, her, a priest, and a witness. Cost $200 and took twenty minutes (and no, it wasn't in Vegas). Neither of us would have it any other way, and we figure if we ever change our minds and want a big traditional-type ceremony shin-dig, we'll do it for an anniversary later.
I'm not an expert, but the best thing I could say about marriage is make absolutely sure it's the right person - in my view, you're going to be bound to them for the rest of your life.
Satoshi Kon: 1963-2010
I got married recently and am very happy about it.
My only advice to you is, don't get married until you absolutely positively 120% sure that she is the one you want to spend the rest of your life with, the mother of your children, the person that you know you will be making compromises with day in and day out, and that she will tolerate your quirkiness and all.
That's alot of things to think about, you have to be able to project well into the future and know that she will be there for you and that you will be there for her through thick and thin. If you have any doubts, or that you feel like there is someone else out there better, don't do it. Because it will be a mistake down the line, sooner or later.
And meeting that someone whom you can trust and love unconditionally is very difficult, but definitely worthwhile and infinitely more meaningful than leading a lonely existance!
all IMHO of course
robot boy
cynical: Expressing jaded or scornful skepticism or negativity: cynical laughter.
no.....i hope that's not how my choices for the topic come off. that wasn't my intention. vote or don't vote, s'ok with me. at least i know how you feel about the topic.
that lonely existance part turns me off a lil bit. i mean.....allot of people are happy being alone. and it's not even like....total isolation or anything. people who aren't married still have friends and family and...whatever. maybe they feel that that's all they need to be happy. just to have people around that care about them or whatever. no, that kind of lifestyle isn't for everyone, but, there's just so much negativity casted onto it.
And meeting that someone whom you can trust and love unconditionally is very difficult, but definitely worthwhile and infinitely more meaningful than leading a lonely existance!
all IMHO of course
Sausage King
I agree with Howard Stern on marriage.
You can tell your woman that you love her as many times as you want, but she wants it stated loudly and in view of MANY people. She wants a ring on your finger so that other women will look at it and realize that you are taken, thus somehow magically keeping you faithful to her.
Women are in a dream world.
Having a ring on his finger will not keep him from cheating if he is inherently unfaithful. Forcing him into a marriage will only make him MORE likely to cheat. There's a very simple rule: If a man does not ask you to marry him, then it is not a good idea to marry him.
So many marriages fail because people think you have to be married to have kids, that it will be better to raise a child born out of wedlock if the parents get married, the man was coerced and pushed until he eventually gave up. (I'm using men as the victims here, but it's not the rule; this stuff also happens to women, just not as frequently.)
To me, the only reason people should get married is because of love. If two adults love each other, truly, they should get married. Marriage should not be a prerequisite to having children. Getting married young is a mistake because most people are going to realize that they are missing out. Again, maybe some 21 year-olds do know that they truly love someone, but it's not common.
And the people above are right, the poll is sort of cynical. I don't believe marriage is wrong, I just believe that far too many people get married incorrectly - be it too early, forced, whatever.
There are exceptions to everything I said. My cousin is six years older than me. (I'm 24, she's 30.) She met her husband at 23. They dated for six weeks before she proposed to him and he accepted (I don't know if it was right away or grudginly or whatnot, but still). They married four months later and conceived a daughter four months after that. They've been happily married for six years now with another child and not even one problem. So, to me, nyah.
Where's the "I'm Married and It Sucks" vote?
robot boy
...didn't think of that one.
zero bubble
My 10 year anniversary is coming up. Marriage is interesting -- if nothing else (and there is, in fact a lot more), my wife and kids have brought wisdom and maturity that I otherwise would never have obtained. Having a family, being responsible for them, loving them, and providing for them will probably be the best achievment of my life. I'm not complaining.
Newsflash, though: this notion of finding your "soulmate", and being "absolutely positive he/she is perfect for you" is hilarious. You can't possibly know someone that well (most people don't know themselves that well); and you can't possibly predict your individual and mutual responses to all of happenstance that will occur in the rest of your life. This is a harsh lesson for many people.
Basically, you start with being in love (if you don't even have that, you can forget it), and from there you take a big blind leap. Best of luck.
"Fiends! Animals! Bastards!"
metal = rude
Most of the people i know who are married are miserable. And even if they aren't, married people are the most boring people i know. They never go anywhere anymore, don't have fun, and are generally uninteresting people. If you're married and feel this description doesn't apply to you then congradulations, i know it's certainly not a rule, just something i see all the time.
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