I seriously need some advice right now.

[AstroBlue]

what is this? fucking hamsters up the ass? serious.

Fucking Her Up The Arse

[Damian79]

Anyhow damien, i see a problem here, a lot of people have given you advice,and in response you have given a lot of excuses. Now heres the thing, you came asking for help, andit has been offered, once you decide you are willing to make the effort to change, talk to us, but right now all i see are excuses, and some are pretty lame. When you decide to change, it will be a major thing, for your life, and you will find yourself doing many things you previously didnt enjoy, and you might find your reactions changing, but until you are ready to make that change, you are just wasting your time. the "source" of your depression is not what is holding you back here, hell, it may have no source, it will likely turn out to just be some damaged seratonin re-uptake cells, but thats all mechanics. its how you are dealing with it that matters, call us when you are serious.

Um, I have taken some of the advice. Well, one advice. I spent like 3-4 hours outside. ie. spend ~2 hours getting lost and visited my dad in hospital.

And I don't see how some of the things i said are excuses. Like the fact that I have never been able to keep up with any schedule. I have also never been able to do anything mechanical(like gym etc.).

And as I said, I was supposed to be doing motivational training. I completely lost the will to live, the only reason I am still alive is because I suck at killing myself. All I know is that I can't keep the way things are for my mental health's sake and the people around me's health sake.

[frostwolf ex]

ok, was wondering if it was a richard gere joke or something.

[Brotherman]

Damian79,

I'm not sure if this will help you or not, but look at your life. Look at all the obstacles that were in your path. All of the attacks and teasing, you overcame that. You're still here. In fact, technically, since you're still here you even overcame your attempt at suicide and you recovered from it without being paralysed for the rest of your life.

Now as for the wanting to die thing, here's something that anyone considering suicide should think about. What evidence do you have that it will be better. If I'm correct, most religions in general don't consider good things happening if you do, and once you do there's no turning back. We all have our time on this world, but why cut it short. The fact that we know that there are people in this world who have found happiness shows that at least there may be a chance that you can find happiness too. So there's really no reason to rush the clock on your life.

Now, as for something to do, since you can't get to a gym, buy yourself some dumbells. You can pick a weight that feels right for you and go from there. You can even consider getting the really light ones that you can carry as you walk. In fact those or the wristbands would be reccommended. That way, when you go on your walks you can also know that you're building your arms. Thus doing two things at once. Life is out there, but you truely won't know what it's about till you seek it out.

[Damian79]

Now, as for something to do, since you can't get to a gym, buy yourself some dumbells. You can pick a weight that feels right for you and go from there. You can even consider getting the really light ones that you can carry as you walk. In fact those or the wristbands would be reccommended. That way, when you go on your walks you can also know that you're building your arms. Thus doing two things at once. Life is out there, but you truely won't know what it's about till you seek it out.

Good idea.

[Master]

Get something accomplished every day.

Big or small. Do something every day.

Posting at TNL doesn't count, neither does getting out of bed. Actually accomplish something every day.

Fold Laundry, make your parents dinner, write a short story, exercise, jog, do 100 pushups, do 50 situps, mow the lawn, chop wood, learn to sew, ANYTHING. If schedules aren't your thing, then accomplish something different every day, that way you won't get bored. As long as you do that you'll start to feel better. I don't know why, but it works.

You can post here what you did for encouragement. There is no lack of support here or all throughout the world.

[Gohron]

I used to have some major problems with depression, since I'm an advocate for conquering struggles rather then re-directing them (medicine, etc.) my best advice to you is to stop being depressed. I just worked myself out of it.

[MVS]

Put 2 dumbells in your bathroom. I reccomend a 10 and a 20, then a 30 and a 40-42 later on.

When you brush your teeth, use your right hand and curl with your left.
Then, use your left hand and curl with your right.

Do that a 3 times each side. Teeth will be clean and you'll get a good workout.

[youandwhosearmy]

Icarus is right, he knows the problems.

Its not really about a kick in the ass either.

Its about a break. Everyone needs one every once in awhile (except hardcore republicans), and no one should be embarassed to ask for one. Good things, just like bad things, need a chance to snowball.

My advice to you is this. Find a 24 hour friend. You need one.

If you can't, then do the opposite of whatever you want to do when you feel like spending another night on TNL, in a chatroom, or playing videogames. Try to do something different once a week. Try to go somewhere different once a month.

Really, if it comes down to it, just try to do something you never really do.

It will work. Trust me.




P.S. Your not killing your father, so stop thinking that. He'd be worried even if you were happy, he's your father, and thats how parents generally are.

Put 2 dumbells in your bathroom. I reccomend a 10 and a 20, then a 30 and a 40-42 later on.

When you brush your teeth, use your right hand and curl with your left.
Then, use your left hand and curl with your right.

Do that a 3 times each side. Teeth will be clean and you'll get a good workout.

Thats like the most soccer hooligan thing I've ever heard you say.

[Drewbacca]

Are you lazy Damian? I'm not psychiatrist but it seems like you're using depression as a crutch. Nobody knows why you're depressed, which means you're either making it up or holding back information from your doctors. It just seems like you like playing the self defication card way too much.

You think everything's your fault, and point it out like it's your fault all the time. You need to get up off your ass, go outside with your friends and accomplish something. How about focusing on getting your marks up or going to college.

Again, I'm not psychology professor. I can't even spell it. But it seems like you're moping around for only fact that you feel sorry for yourself because you're in Australia. Australia's a beautiful country... although everything pretty much kills you with poison... but you should be so lucky to be living in a country most will never even visit.

You always have a convenient excuse not to do anything.

If you're not going to care about yourself then at least think of those around you, because it sounds like you're both an emotional and financial drain on them. Stop playing the victim already and do something with yourself, it's not going to get any better until you choose to make it better. Do you want to be a human sponge the rest of your life or contribute to the world around you? Drop all the bullshit excuses and get a move on, you're only given one shot at the game and it'd be a shame to give up before it even started.