The Curse Of The Asian Man

[Ragnarok the Red]

Its probably the whole height thing that fucks it up for Asian guys the most. I've never heard of a girl that goes after short guys. Girls think short guys are "cute", but being cute doesn't usually translate to getting laid. Seems like it sucks to be a short guy.

I'm by no means short, I'm 6 foot 2 and have always been one of the taller guys in my classes growing up. But I still get the "nice guy" line far too often. I probably just need to be a bit more aggressive, but it's just not in my personality

a white female friend of mine said to me once "i'd never date an asian guy.....they just seem too nice and ready to kiss your ass."

That explains a lot.

Dude, you've totally got the hots for your cousin.

[lithium]

I'm by no means short, I'm 6 foot 2 and have always been one of the taller guys in my classes growing up. But I still get the "nice guy" line far too often. I probably just need to be a bit more aggressive, but it's just not in my personality

In my experience it's not aggression that works, it's passiveness. Not really letting the girl know you care a lick about her seems to work wonders. Girls are so weird.

[Fe 26]

yo! it's fuct up! i grew up around a lot of different cultures in my early part of life. i listened to whatever an' blah blah blah. that's back when i lived in DC. when i moved to maryland i went to a predominantly black school. they gave me such a hard fukking time. they treated me terribly because i didn't listen to rap and didn't wear baggy clothes or care about their stupid "jordans" an' all this other crap. it was terrible. it really sucks...i mean, people like martin luther king didn't fight racism just so black people could have a right to hate people different from them....breaks my heart.

Well if it makes you feel better, he had the 3rd highest grade point average of our graduating class, and got a 60,000.00 African American scholarship. All the other black students recognized him that day. Few people are $60,000 of pure black power.

In my experience it's not aggression that works, it's passiveness. Not really letting the girl know you care a lick about her seems to work wonders. Girls are so weird.

They are insane and evil. Their insanity comes from ignoring that they are in fact the latter.

[Kinopio]

Maybe Asian guys are too nice and give the female gender too much credit because of that. You've got to realize that women completely lack what men would consider logic or reason.

[Calliander]

Ignoring a girl or treating her as though she's a minor consideration makes her think, "What the hell is wrong with me that he won't make a move?" She will then do her best to get you to notice her.

Note that this sort of advice only applies if you are not looking for intelligent girls because only stupid girls with low self-esteem can be had with this sort of ploy.

If you want a smart girl and a real relationship, different tactics are in order because she'll see right through bullshit. Usually, though, the smart girls are ugly, which is why the other advice is given. The other problem is that a guy will think he wants the real relationship and then get more and more annoyed with his girlfriend as time goes on. This is why committed relationships at young ages are usually a bad idea.

I'm lucky in that I find my smart girl very hot and do not need to sleep around.

[Kinopio]

In my experience it's not aggression that works, it's passiveness. Not really letting the girl know you care a lick about her seems to work wonders. Girls are so weird.

Agression only works at first, like when you are trying to pick up a girl at a bar or wherever. You gotta make the first move.

But after that you gotta play it cool. Once a girl knows that you like her she'll use that to her advantage. At that point you are fucked. You gotta keep the upper hand and act like you don't like her that much. Girls want what they think they can't have.

[Brisco Bold]

yo! it's fuct up! i grew up around a lot of different cultures in my early part of life. i listened to whatever an' blah blah blah. that's back when i lived in DC. when i moved to maryland i went to a predominantly black school. they gave me such a hard fukking time. they treated me terribly because i didn't listen to rap and didn't wear baggy clothes or care about their stupid "jordans" an' all this other crap. it was terrible. it really sucks...i mean, people like martin luther king didn't fight racism just so black people could have a right to hate people different from them....breaks my heart.

Wow. Another who knows...

[Crafter]

When I was in seventh grade, my best friend was a black guy. Although he normally hung around with black people, he actually separated himself from the group to be around me. As a sort of unconscious compromise, I hung around that group too-- and because the racism was so overt there, and because my feelings were hurt too much by his peers, we ended the friendship. It still bothers me-- 12 years later.

Another thing, guys: a good-looking, SMART girl can be "had." Intelligence is the key-- I promise. True intelligence. Not "acting" any sort of way or making any sorts of premature assumptions. Just keep trying.

[Rocca]

Wow. Another who knows...

Yeah, sums up my life pretty well, being different. I believe it's Rah Digga who said.

"Lay ya words in French, Dutch or Finnish
Callin me whitewash cause I speak proper English"

That is all.

[rama]

Yeah, sums up my life pretty well, being different. I believe it's Rah Digga who said.

"Lay ya words in French, Dutch or Finnish
Callin me whitewash cause I speak proper English"

That is all.

ay-men!

also, yeah, there are a lot of smart...actually, inteligent girls who are very good looking in this area. most of them are taken though. and i have met wuite a few great black females....but...they're taken as well. i guess when i guy does come accross the elusive "good" black female they hold on to'em. i know i would.