Elementary friend passes away

[Chux]

I always hated the way kids acted in Highschool when people died. Many of them were sad, but not for the right reasons. It usally felt like it was less out of sympathy(sp?) for the loss of that person's loved ones and more because that one kid's death forced them to question their own mortality.

I got PISSED when a friend of mine died in High School and we were allowed to take the day off. The ratio of people who went to the funeral, and actually knew her, to people who just took off was like 1:10

[Burky]

Originally posted by Chux
I got PISSED when a friend of mine died in High School and we were allowed to take the day off. The ratio of people who went to the funeral, and actually knew her, to people who just took off was like 1:10

I know what you mean there. It didn't mean anything personal to me what happened as I had never so much as spoken to the guy, I'd only seen him around; I just thought it sucked to have had to go through what he went though.
It was the same with us at my school, we all got the afternoon off if we wanted, though it was sport anyway. You can guess what everyone did still.
Yet what really annoyed me is that people in a similar situation as myself (ie who didn't know him) were going around saying like "it'll be good for people to have a memorial service for him" and so on, but that's a load of bullshit. When someone dies, there's nothing good for anyone to do, just cope with it in your own way, but I think going around fronting with a load of philosophies and typical phrases from funerals etc, is just bad.

[voltz]

This guy I worked with named Able who did outgoing inspection on orders from our Motorola warehouse/distribution center had an aneurism at work one day and died right there in a really messy way.

My mother went through something like that was lucky enough to be saved through surgery, but the effect really damaged her and she's more then likely spending the rest of her life in a nursing home. I'm upset about everything she was trying to do before this happened, because she got through a divorce with my dad and tried getting her life back on track, but this bullshit happened and I'm sorry I never got to help out as much due to the shift I was working at the time. Come to think of it, it was probably all the stress that she was going through and I'm really upset cause I know I should have been helping her when she needed me.

I used to spend time hanging with a friend from highschool but I left and didn't see him again for a year and that's when I realised that we've changed to the point where I figured he still needs to grow up and realise that he can't fucking take advantage of others anymore. He's married, has a son (who he treats like shit, just like his father did to him) and sometimes drags his wife into things she'd rather not be doing. Worst of it was when I thought he was helping me out after my accident, but he just kept asking me over to haul things and have someone to pass his ego on. I realised this and just dissapeared prior to where I'm living now. It's very possible I won't give a shit if something happens to him, cause he fucked up whatever bond we've had between us.

[Nomi]

I have two stories of people I knew but wasn't very close to.

A girl at the horseback riding stable I used to go to died in a riding accident. Her three year old quarter-horse got spooked by someone dropping a metal container in the stable, right off of the practice ring. She was about to do a jump, and the horse freaked out and reared up. He toppled over, and fell on her. Sliced her spine I guess, they said she died almost instantaneously. She had always been a totally stuck up bitch to me, but started being nice the month before she died. I think she was 13 at the time.

One of my brother's teammates on his high school soccer team had a shitty death, too. Really great kid. Nice to everyone, pretty stupid but genuinely put effort into everything, great player. He took his father's Lotus out for a drive when his family was out of town once, and got in a wreck. Slipped out on a curve he took too fast and smashed into a guard rail, didn't have his seatbelt on or anything. Died on the way to the hospital. I had seen him a few days prior at a team family dinner thing, so it was really weird hearing that he had died. His parents were in Europe or somewhere really far off when it happened, and couldn't get a flight home until the next day.

Never knew this girl, but I was a freshman when it happened. Some sophomore or junior girl Jo-Lynn was murdered by her boyfriend. That alone is pretty fucked up, but I guess the girl's mother ended up killing her husband or something to that extent last year. The whole family is one gigantic 'what the fuck just happened' story. All I remember about Jo-Lynn's death was her locker being covered in letters all the time the whole year, and tons of girls crying their eyes out the day after everyone found out.

Edit: Oh, in elementary school, some Canadian girl, new student, died right after school had let out. I don't remember it very much, but Tain might (we were in one of those 4th/5th grade split classes together, hah). She had an aneurism I believe.

[dave is ok]

A girl in my 4th grade class was shot as she slept by a disgruntled boyfriend of her mom's. Her sister was shot too, right after she was, she didnt hear the first shot because she was deaf. Her sister survived, she didnt. I remember not thinking it was a huge deal when I was 8, like maybe that stuff happens all the time and just hadnt happened to me yet. I blame action movies.

I just found out literally 10 minutes ago that a girl I knew from school overdosed last night (and died). She used to work here too, my boss is all fucked up.

[gamevet]

And it's not the same thing, but a few years ago I ran across a girl I had dated in HS who now has 4 kids and what appears to be an extra hundred pounds on her ass.

That's worse than death!


I grew up in a small town of around 5,600 people. Everyone knew everyone in school and even 3 or 4 years younger than us. The Sherrif's son was in my graduating class. I knew him since 5th grade and my brother dated his sister in grade school as well. I found out about 5 years ago, that they found his truck up in the mountains, with an empty bottle of jack and he had driven off of a cliff. The last time I had visited my old town, I saw Kevin at a local restaraunt and we said hi to eachother and carried on.

Back in Jr. High, I used to hang with this guy named Kevin Wood. I found out a couple of years ago, that he had wrecked his truck and was catapulted through the front window. He's now a quadraplegic and as far as I'm concerned, that's worse than death.

Back in Jr. High, me and a couple of guys would arm wrestle during lunch. This one kid was a grade below us, but we let him in on our arm wrestling challenges. One day I came to school and found out that the kid shot himself, because his mom had yelled at him. She went to the store and found him dead when she returned. I never knew the kid's name, but he seemed cool.

I went back home from school, when I was around 20 years old. I went to my grandparents house and saw my cousin Tony (14) for the first time in about 2 years. He was getting pretty tall and it was kind of cool to see him becoming a man. Unfortunatly, a couple of days later I awoke at my parent's house to see my mother and brother with a blank look on their face. I asked what was wrong and found out that Tony had been shot in the throat by a 45. He, his brother and another kid were messing around with this kid's gun and it went off. My cousin Scott has never been the same since.

[Galaxia]

So far, I've had 3 friends in high school who died:
Friend 1 - died right before senior year started - car crash.
Friend 2 - died 2 years after graduation - car crash.
Friend 3 - died in June...and I can't remember what he died from. It wasn't a car crash.

[Scourge]

When my son was in first or second grade, one of the boys in his class was accidentally killed by the boy's brother when they'd just gotten back from a hunting trip and one of them was cleaning a gun, didn't think it was loaded and ended up shooting his brother in the head. Protip: don't let your little kids touch guns.

Last year or the year before, one of his teacher's daughters was killed when one of the school buses rear ended their minivan on the way to school. My son's bus was right behind the bus that rear ended the teacher's vehicle. There's a hill that you come over that goes around a curve on the way to school, where at just the right time of the year, the sun is blinding. That's where it happened.

You guys ever hear of the Yogurt Shop Murders in Austin? There was a 48 Hours thing about it and everything... My ex-wife went to school with those girls that were killed and was really good friends with them and their families. The cops were constantly coming around out of the blue every couple of years to ask her questions and go through her stuff.

[Gohron]

Story time!!!

When I was 12 I think I came back from my grandmothers house after the weekend and my mom told me this guy I was good friends with got hit by a car and died. He lived on the same street as me and we used to hang out everyday and all, was pretty sad. The guy that hit him was high and drunk too and went to jail for vehicular homicide. It was a strange situation because my friend that was killed was with another guy that I hung with sometimes and the guy that hit and killed my friend was the other kids uncle.

When I was 17 I got a call on my phone after I got home from school and it was a good buddy of mine, figured he was just calling about something but he went and said "Did you hear what happened?" and I obviously didn't and he said "Mike went to the hospital this morning, he didn't make it man." This Mike guy was a real good friend of mine, probably my best friend, his brother too. Apparently he had a heart attack or something, he had a lot of health problems due to a genetic illness, he was only 23 years old, was a pretty sad time for me. It was a real shame too because he had been living a pretty shitty life, doing all sorts of stupid things and he had just decided that he was going to get his life back together and was doing a great job of it about a month before he died.

[Ste-Von]

Note to self, stay away from Scourge.

I never had any close friends pass away but know of a lot of people (friends of friends and such) that have died really young, almost all of them from drunk driving or some other form of drinking and doing something stupid. Actually I just remembered a few:

My mom's best friend's son was killed on his 18th Birthday when he ran out into the street and was hit by a car. (he was drinking).

A kid from my high school drowned in the Chesapeake Bay after falling out of a boat at night (yup, he was drunk too).

Just this past spring two friends of a friend died in a drunk driving accident. The driver took an exit ramp at a really fast speed and killed both his passengers. He survived but I think was in a coma. I don't know if he's still alive.

Another kid from high school was driving drunk in his brand new mustang and hit a curve way to fast, hit a tree or flipped his car over and died.

My high school chemistry teacher killed himself from carbon monoxide poisoning using the good ol' "run the car in a closed garage" trick.

Wow, I'm surprised I remembered all those.