I miss my Grandma.

[SonofdonCD]

Can't say I know the feeling, as the closest family member to die was my grandmother's sister. I was fond of her, but not too close. The timing sucked, though, as I was on tour with my college choir, and I got the phone call a few hours right before the final performance. When I tell you that was the toughest performance I ever had to get through, I'm not lying. Especially as our encore was Danny Boy. Wow. I had a long walk and got most of the tears out of my system beforehand, but it wasn't enough.

I can only imagine what it'll be like with my maternal grandparents, who are 80 an 79 now.

I know that much advice has been given already, and I might be reiterating something that was already stated. But you have to keep yourself occupied. You can't dwell on it at all hours of the day. Yes, you should think about it, and a lot, at least in the short term. But when it comes to living your life, which I'm sure your grandma wants for you and your family, you must live it to the best of your abilities.

It also might help to do something in tribute to her. Have a getogether, besides the wake and funeral, where everyone just remembers the good times. Share stories; bring out old videos and watch with family; look at old picures. Hell, write a song and dedicate it to her; weren't you in a band? In general try not to remember the image of her post life, but while she was in her prime. If you do that, it should hopefully put a smile on your face, not a frown.

My condoleances, and may she rest in peace.

[Nash]

I'm sorry to hear about your loss, Josh.

My advice is to remember your grandma the way she would want you to remember her, and continue to live your life the way you would want her to remember you.

[Kev]

Like I said elsewhere, dude... my heart goes out to you. Yesterday sucked complete ass.

[kedawa]

Sorry to hear that Josh. I've never been all that close to my grandparents because I barely know my dad's family, and my mom's family lives quite far away, but I've lost my parents, my godparents(who were like grandparents to me) and all of my grandparents except my mom's mom.

I never dealt with their deaths by talking about it with family because I'm honestly not that close to most of my relatives and I just don't feel comfortable talking about things of a serious personal nature with anybody, but I can tell you that quiet introspection and giving yourself some alone time doesn't necessarily hurt either, even if it's just as a break from all of the mourning friends and relatives.

Eat something, get as much rest as you can, and know that the day will come when you think of your grandma, and instead of remembering her death and feeling grief and loss, you'll remember the living person that loved you and enriched your life and you'll feel the type of love and reverence that are reserved only for those that are no longer with us.

And don't be afraid to take your mind off of the situation if you're feeling overwhelmed. Don't go nuts and do excessive amounts of drugs, obviously, but don't deny yourself the pleasures of life either. No reasonable person would fault you if you feel the need to smoke a joint and let go of some of the tension and stress that you must be enduring right now.

[voltz]

I don't know what to say to you, but I'm sorry you lost someone so special. You got to keep looking foward with life and just live well like she would've wanted you to, otherwise just sitting around killing yourself over it ain't gonna help one bit.

If you got family to talk to, I'd spend as much time with them as possible or you'll be affected by this in a pretty negative manner.

[Gohron]

A few years ago my best friend died and six months later my grandmother died whom I was very close to. I don't know, I've been through a lot of shit in my life and I've had a few friends die before, mixed in with the fact that my dad is dying too so I wasn't all that upset when my grandmother died. I certainly wasn't happy but I kind've just saw it as she had lived a long life and had always been a real loving and caring person and (unfortunately) she had to die eventually so I was just glad I got to know her as long as I did and I was happy she'd had a happy life.

It'll hurt for awhile as I'm sure you know but you'll feel better in time, unfortunately that's all you can really hope for Sorry for your loss man.

[Changeling]

Sorry to hear about your loss, man. Everyone else has everything pretty much sewn up as far as best ways to cope and such. I'm actually impressed with TNL. I'm in the process of watching my grandma slow down and stop myself right now. It is sad, but she is 85, so I'm bracing myself for it. It sucks.

My other grandma is dead but I was really close to her. I first heard Johnny Cash at her house and we would dance to the music together when I was 5yrs. old. Those were good times that I'll always cherish. The sadness will leave in time, but the good memories will stay with you forever.

[Satsuki]

Losing my grandma was probably one of the hardest things I've ever had to go through.

It's fucking tough knowing that she isn't around anymore.
My sympathies are with you, man.

[Critical Overdrive]

My Grandmother passed away today. I don't know what to do.

I don't know why I'm posting this here and not signing up for a livejournal account or something, but you guys are my friends and I feel like saying something.

I don't know. This is hard... how do you deal with something like this? I've lost friends, and one ex-girlfriend but this seems to hurt more. Alcohol isn't helping either.

I just don't know what to do.

Sorry man. My condolences.

[Tommy Tallarico]

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