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Just do the best job you can at remembering the good times, and try to write or draw out what you feel. Maybe compile a scrapbook of photos, or a journal of your memories with her. I did stuff like that when I my maternal grandmother passed away due to liver cancer, and it helped a lot.Originally Posted by Josh
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I lost my father on Christmas 6 years ago. It gets better, but when crap goes down. And that was the one person in the family you could talk to. It sucks. I lost my Grandfather two years ago and that sucks as well. All I have left in my family are ladies; they can't relate. But if you were close to your Grandmom .... the loss will never go away.
My condolences go out to you, Josh. I know how you feel.
To be real ... I hope its a close casket. If not you'll feel twenty times worse.
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I'm sorry, man. I was close with my Grandma and she died a few years ago after a prolonged bout with cancer. It was pretty painful to watch her slowly deteriorate like that. At least she got to meet her newly born Great-Grandson (my nephew) before she passed, which seemed to make her very happy.
Not much you can do, really. Keep busy and go on with your life. Spend time with friends and people you love. The pain will eventually go away. Yeah, you can booze it up but that's just a smokescreen. The pain's still gonna be there. Just remember the good things about her.
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I want to clarify ...
My father was an open casket and I collapsed in grief. My grandfather(who i was also close with) was a closed casket. It was less painful. I was still grief stricken, but at least I didn't see him in the casket. Its weird to explain.
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That's horrible, Advocate. I've always thought open caskets were really morbid. I don't want to see someone I love lying dead like that.
Especially not after reading a book called Stiff by Mary Roach about some of the things morticians do to get them ready for said open casket. For example, ever wonder how they get the deceased to keep their eyes closed?
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Seriously.
I don't think this is the thread for that, though.
Did I ever say I was sorry, Josh? 'Cause I am.
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Sorry to hear that, Josh. My last Grandma died last year. She pretty much raised me as much as my parrents did (we had her instead of day care) and it was horrible to see her go. Nothing helps but time.
I dunno Dole. My Grandma's was open-casket and it really helped to see her that one last time and say goodbye.
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We just had a memorial for my grandmother, we all said our goodbyes right before and after she passed away in the Hospice, and then let the doctors there do whatever they needed to do. I don't think I'd have been able to handle an open casket funeral for her, but being able to say goodbye right after she passed on helped.
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Play lots and lots of games dude. Get your mind of it. Get out that old Nintendo and load it up.
Do stuff you enjoy doing and don't stop. Don't forget about her but think this way, she doesn't want you to be sad. Just remember she is still with you and even though you can't see her she is probably right near you.
Just do things you love to do (not drugs!) until you feel better but remember the great times you've had with her and in due time you will come to peace with it all.
Lots of kind words in this thread. Thanks a lot guys... I really appreciate it.
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