Choices

[haohmaru]

It's not just the distance, the kid + her school + his job makes time a serious issue. That's a lot for anyone to balance without a 3 hour driving period factored in. I agree with the "all or nothing" mentality on this one.

This is where it's at. It's not the 80 miles, it's the 60 hour work weeks (that typically end @ either 9 or 10PM), seeing my kid on weekends, her being tied up in school during the week, etc... I really don't see us being able to connect all that often, if at all. If I were 25 with a bullshit job and no kid, I'd go hang out with her every weekend and see what happens. As it is, it's going to be next to impossible to get together. And 1.5 hours commuting into Manhattan is fantasy (+ the fact that I live nearly 120 miles away, the job is 80 miles away). Guess I'm having round 2 of talks in a few minutes.

[youandwhosearmy]

she will find someone, you will find someone. If your lives dont intersect properly now then dont worry about it. If later down the line things work out then ok.

In other words dont hold your breath for her. LDR sucks hard.

Exactly.


Long distance only has a remote chance of working over short periods, or if the relationship began that way. When you go from being close to having be in a long distance relationship, kiss it goodbye.

Never say never though. Relationships always exist in phases, and like everything in life, being with someone again is only a chance meeting at the right time away.

[Tones]

Because your decision is teetering between the two choices...
If your daughter likes her, try sticking it out. If she doesn't like her, or doesn't have a preference, consider moving on.

[Tracer]

If you were dating someone for a while and were "in love", would you "wait" for them for 2 years while they go to grad school and maintain a long distance (exclusive) relationship with that person for 2 years (and see them rarely) or would you give them the heave ho? Seems I have a choice to make which is either to "stick with it" (ie... to her it's a "cop out" if I say we should remain friends and date other people) or say goodbye. Typical woman ultimatum. Opinions?

Didn't read the responses, but NO.

Don't. You can't trust her, women want to be satisfied as much as possible at all times, she's in love with the idea now but probably won't be for long. You'll be left holding the goddamned check and that's 2 years you won't get a fucking refind for. Drop the bitch like a hot rock.

[Anthony]

Not that kind of guy. Never was.

Ch-Ch-Ch-Changes!

Seriously, I have seen alot of long distance relationships break down into distrust and ultimately something far far worse than just breaking it off as is.

[Mr-K]

This is where it's at. It's not the 80 miles, it's the 60 hour work weeks (that typically end @ either 9 or 10PM), seeing my kid on weekends, her being tied up in school during the week, etc... I really don't see us being able to connect all that often, if at all. If I were 25 with a bullshit job and no kid, I'd go hang out with her every weekend and see what happens. As it is, it's going to be next to impossible to get together. And 1.5 hours commuting into Manhattan is fantasy (+ the fact that I live nearly 120 miles away, the job is 80 miles away). Guess I'm having round 2 of talks in a few minutes.

Take into consideration that there are month long winter breaks and summers off too. So she'll be gone for maybe three months at a time.

[Dolemite]

Long distance doesn't work.

IBTN

[gamevet]

My girlfriend is 2 hours away going to OSU, I visit her usually every weekend or so, maybe every other weekend. I'd pretty much say that that's the limit of what I'd be willing to put up with, and I don't know anything about how hard grad school is. Plus my daughter doesn't exist to my knowledge. (My son is currently in Japan, and posts on these boards, OH SNAP).

You're only 19. What, did you knock someone up at 12?

[Nomi]

You're only 19. What, did you knock someone up at 12?

He's clearly joking.

[kingoffighters]

Long distance is really tough, requires tremendous willpower, discipline, honesty and faith. Seeing I have none of those, it didn't work for me.