Possible to be just friends with an Ex?

**Razor Ramon** · 04 Mar 2007, 02:55 PM

Doesn't sound like anythinga paper bag or total darkness can't fix. It's that simple.

**burgundy** · 04 Mar 2007, 03:11 PM

Originally Posted by napalm

I have an interesting twist to add to this thread: I met this friend of a friend who happened to be a girl, and we both hit it off great. We have been hanging out a lot, because we get along so well. Anyhow, this girl isn't much of a looker, and so I've been hanging out with her a lot purely as friends. Slowly though, I find myself growing more and more attracted to her, and I can tell she's feeling the same. I have no desire to be in a relationship, and I know this girl is not very attractive, yet I can't help but find myself being slowly drawn to her. What do I do?

You use her for sex.

**Mykozo** · 04 Mar 2007, 11:09 PM

I haven't read this whole thread, but a few of my thoughts...

I notice you commented on her being hot as one of the reasons you still want to be friends. There ya go. You dated her, in part, because she was hot. If she picked up a crack habit and you saw her again looking all busted, you probably wouldn't want to be friends with her at all. Ladder Theory? You might want to fuck her again sometime? Me thinks so. Deny it all you want but it's the goddamn truth.

Guess what? It very rarely works out that ex's can be friends. There are always resentments of some sort, even if the relationship ended amicably. Admit it to yourself that the only reason you, me, or any other guy wants to stay friends with an ex is because you want to be in good standing should the pussy become available again. The only exception is if the girl is REALLY cool, but gets fat or otherwise loses her attractiveness in your eyes. You can then proceed to care about what she thinks rather than staring at her tits and ass everytime you see each other.

**Mykozo** · 04 Mar 2007, 11:10 PM

Originally Posted by napalm

I have no desire to be in a relationship, and I know this girl is not very attractive, yet I can't help but find myself being slowly drawn to her. What do I do?

Admit that you are a fag and proceed accordingly.

I will cite step 1 of the 12 step program;

Step 1: Admitted to ourselves that we were powerless over the desire for cock; that our living the lie of ourselves being a heterosexual had become unmanageable.

**Jetman** · 05 Mar 2007, 12:57 AM

Originally Posted by Mykozo

I haven't read this whole thread, but a few of my thoughts...

I notice you commented on her being hot as one of the reasons you still want to be friends. There ya go. You dated her, in part, because she was hot. If she picked up a crack habit and you saw her again looking all busted, you probably wouldn't want to be friends with her at all. Ladder Theory? You might want to fuck her again sometime? Me thinks so. Deny it all you want but it's the goddamn truth.

Well, yeah, but we actually formed somewhat of a connection when we were together. I had a close member of my family die post us breaking up, and she was there to talk me through it. Like a friend should. And I didnt really want to talk about it or tell it to anyone else.But she was there and listened.I think if she was busted out, I would still be friends with her. Seriously.I'm superficial at times, but a friend is a friend no matter what they look like.

Originally Posted by Mykozo

Guess what? It very rarely works out that ex's can be friends. There are always resentments of some sort, even if the relationship ended amicably. Admit it to yourself that the only reason you, me, or any other guy wants to stay friends with an ex is because you want to be in good standing should the pussy become available again. The only exception is if the girl is REALLY cool, but gets fat or otherwise loses her attractiveness in your eyes. You can then proceed to care about what she thinks rather than staring at her tits and ass everytime you see each other.

Im beginning to believe this is true. I think if I want to be just friends, I need to find a new girlfriend just as hot if not hotter.If the friendship still lasts through that then I may be in the clear...

**Josh** · 05 Mar 2007, 01:15 AM

I am great friends with one of my exes.

And I'm a real bastard, so if I can do it, its possible.

**Mykozo** · 05 Mar 2007, 02:10 AM

Note that I said rarely. And you sure are a bastard. But so am I that is why I <3 Josh. I see him as a father figure of sorts on how to be the biggest asshole imaginable.

Lets play some music, fucker.