The Divorce Thread

[stormy]

My high school girlfriend's Dad went out on a business trip. He came home to an empty house that her Mom and her boyfriend had cleaned out. Now that's a mature way to let your hubby know it's over.

So you cleaned out the house and left with your gf's mom.

[Master of 7s]

lol "why is sex so important to you?" ? what an absurd question. There is a certain intangible closeness that comes out in sex. It requires a great deal of trust and it shares a certain something. It helps to eliminate that basic sense of loneliness that everyone feels at every moment of the day. I think everyone knows this on some subconscious level and it is why people are so mentally destroyed with a significant other cheats.

Your ex sounds like a fool that has issues with himself.

Ehhhhh....I don't really agree with this.

I spent most of my life in awe "teh secks" primarily because I wasn't getting any. A recent lapse in self-control about a year ago made me privy to the pussy and now I'm just left wondering what the big fucking deal is.

There is nothing magical about sex. Especially since humans have the ability to separate the act from any semblance of deeper feelings. Basically all sex boils to is "Pussy make penis feel good! Booga!" or "Kitty want meat stick! RAWR!"

Sex does not cure loneliness, it amplifies it because you are more aware of it when you aren't getting any. It certainly doesn't require trust since all you need to do to get some is pay 100 bucks, slap on a prophylactic and insert into the nearest lubricated receptacle.

No, I think the word and concept your are thinking of is "intimacy" which in all honesty is far more important to a relationship than love. It's entirely possible to hate someone and love them at the same time. Family members for instance.

Self-love and self-appreciation is more important than anything else. If a person doesn't have either of these then all potential relationships will fail. Seriously, who the hell wants to be with someone who doesn't care about themselves? If they don't love themselves, they certainly won't love you.

Haoh's ex most certainly hates herself and went the passive-aggressive route that most women take (using sex as a weapon), making him suffer in the process for trying to be noble.

All in all, people should never get married because of societal or family expectations. My own parents are in this same annoying frame of mind, like if I'm not married by the time I'm 35 then there must be something wrong with me. They can't seem to fathom that I enjoy being single and I don't need anyone else to feel like a complete person.

[Hubbitron]

Self-love and self-appreciation is more important than anything else. If a person doesn't have either of these then all potential relationships will fail. Seriously, who the hell wants to be with someone who doesn't care about themselves? If they don't love themselves, they certainly won't love you.

Well said.

[youandwhosearmy]

Truly well said Mo7. One party hating themselves is probably the biggest reason for relationships with a never ending snowball of problems.

[bbobb]

Fellow men of tnl, Treat your cocks with the respect they deserve. Don't soil them inside a crazys bitches' pussy...

BK is gay now?



Also, I think that is the finest post Mo7's has ever made.

[Dyne]

BK is gay now?

no, i think he just meant ass to mouth was okay. there's more than one hole on a bitch to get the same end result.

[nameless_one]

I am at the very beginning of the end here. I look forward to the shit storm that will soon occur.

Pretty much in the same boat. No sex after the kid. Not on the pill anymore cause there is no sex. I tried to have conversations and talk through it but my wife won't let go of the past. So at this point we pretty much hate each other. It's fun.

[Fe 26]

woah, please explain a little bit more.

[Fe 26]

No, I think the word and concept your are thinking of is "intimacy" which in all honesty is far more important to a relationship than love. It's entirely possible to hate someone and love them at the same time. Family members for instance.

well, yeah. But remember I was talking about why it would bother animegirl. Women don't normally devide up their emotions as well as men. Love, intimacy, and sex are intertwined for a lot of girls (well, girls that ain't hoes).

[Cowutopia]

People who need another person to feel complete are simply full of insecurities in deep places. If you can love yourself you won't need someone desperately.

The whole purpose, to me, of being in a relationship, and this is any relationship (a best friend or a lover), is to be able to share life together, because all the best things in life are shared, and all the lows in live are navigable with a helping hand and a friend that you can laugh with.

Sex is fun, you don't need friendship for good sex.
Friendship is the crucial bit, and you don't need sex for great friendship.
If you can find a lifelong friend, someone as trustworthy and as fun to be with, someone you enjoy sharing all the stupid and great moments of life with, and as a bonus you both like fucking each other? Then you've won.

I don't think people know what they're looking for most of the time though, and a lot of the time they need someone just to feel "complete" because in actuality they are just insecure and need the feeling of self-worth that comes from an admirer/lover.

Everyone feels insecure at times, it's natural of course, but if you can step back and look at yourself and love yourself then you'll be in a better place, I think.


That sounds like some fag shit but I was hella insecure in high school and I've just grown to accept what I am, and I'm much more comfortable with myself, and not really emo at all anymore. It's great being comfortable with myself. I don't know when I changed, but I like it a lot. You should see my journals from high school...so fucking emo, and second guessing every thought and action. It was awful.


EDIT: I didn't read Master of 7's post before I wrote that, but I agree with him.