The Divorce Thread

**haohmaru** · 20 Aug 2007, 01:06 PM

Originally Posted by nameless_one

I think the problem right now is that she lacks many skills at the moment to take care of herself. She can't drive, afford to live on her own, or make good spending decisions. I want to do my best to help her out and get her going but I just have the feeling I am going to get buttfucked once she is out on her own.

Be wary of the sympathy play - she'll take advantage of your emotions to the tune of screwing you financially. She's a big girl, she was adult enough to get married and have a kid and it's time you realize that you aren't responsible for her. I went down the "sucker" route and you'll be kicking yourself in the ass down the road.

(edit) Women like this, like my STBX, have a sense of entitlement and have no conscience about money or responsibility. Talk to a lawyer, even if it's only a consultation, before you do or sign something stupid.

**stormy** · 20 Aug 2007, 02:10 PM

I dislike many things about my current gf, but I do have to say that she is the first responsible girl I have ever dated. She not only has a job, but works hard and excels at it, pays for all her own living expenses, and is totally together in that sense. It makes me look back at some of the other girls I've dated and realize what a disaster they'd have been if I ever ended up marrying one. I'll never get serious with a girl who can't hold a good job and take care of herself (unless she is independently wealthy read:daddy). Sadly this kind of girl is surprisingly rare.

This was another good lesson exposed by this thread.

**Fe 26** · 20 Aug 2007, 03:43 PM

What? Don't combine your wealth with someone that can't handle what little wealth they already have?

**Thief Silver** · 20 Aug 2007, 03:46 PM

Don't get married without a prenup.

It's weird for me because I have a hard time deciding on things I want to do with my life, but when it comes to marriage, I'm so incredibly sure I don't want to get married. I wish I could be this resolute in all my decisions about my future.

**Konketsu** · 20 Aug 2007, 03:48 PM

This is an informative thread in terms of life lessons. Reading haoh's and nameless one's experiences stirs alot of negative emotions inside of me. Especially that last full paragraph in nameless one's entry......damn. Then his next entry about being concerned about her afterwards in case you split.

Haoh is right about the sympathy nameless one. You have given your all to this girl. I say 'girl' only because of her immaturity and lack of respect for you and all you have done for your family. I mean no disrespect to you at all. You care too much nameless. That is a great quality to have but when it comes to people like the one you are supposed to be sharing your life with, it is a weakness.

You have obviously done your best in this relationship and you should not punish yourself for longer than you have to. Your wife can return to the family she seemingly can't break away from.

Seriously, take a step back and think of what is best and do what is best for YOU.

**stormy** · 20 Aug 2007, 03:55 PM

Originally Posted by buttcheeks

What? Don't combine your wealth with someone that can't handle what little wealth they already have?

When I get married I will insist on separate bank accounts. No way is some broad buying useless crap with my $$. If I make the majority of the money I'll pay the majority of the bills, I'll buy her things, but I'm not handing out free money.

**Dyne** · 20 Aug 2007, 04:39 PM

Originally Posted by nameless_one

I think the problem right now is that she lacks many skills at the moment to take care of herself. She can't drive, afford to live on her own, or make good spending decisions. I want to do my best to help her out and get her going but I just have the feeling I am going to get buttfucked once she is out on her own.

whoa whoa. first she wants to keep all her money and she also can't drive or be responsible? none of that is your fault dude. it sounds harsh but she's a fucking leech and will continue to be one. it's always easier to say stuff than be in the position but there is NOTHING redeeming about this that i have read so far.